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If a guy and girl are flirting/touching is it a turn off to brush up against/see his erection?

If you are dancing with a girl or more importantly; if you are alone with a girl sitting close, flirting touching, you are really really attracted to her; both personality and looks; it is then easy to get a hard on. Say for argument, the girl def. likes you either in terms of a future hook up or just someone who they like and are having fun talking to. Say the girl is hot and gets a lot of male attention. Is it best to widen your legs and not care about showing it? Should you not care if you brush up against her? If her hand is on your thigh occasionally or chest should you try to cover your dick up? I've been told that girls like to see a hard coc* because it flatters them and like that the guy is bold and shows his sexuality. Should you try to brush up against her?
Girls are turned on by seeing an erect penis unless it is a guy they don't like
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Girls like it when a guy brushes his hard penis against them or puts her hand on it
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It is a turn off usually
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm turned on when I realize a guy is hard if we've been flirting or getting close but if he flaunts it that's kind of a turn off...

    Say we're one on one hanging on the couch watching a movie, getting closer, etc. If I notice it and I'm turned on by it, I'll rub up against it myself. Or I'll say something in his ear like, "Oh, am I getting you a little worked up?" followed by a little nibble. So if you're getting close don't try to hide it and don't act embarrassed by it. If she retracts when she notices it, just pull her back down and tell her not to worry. You can't help but get excited being that close to her but it doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. And mean it! If you play it right she can't help but get a little curious & she'll come to you when she's ready.

    However, there's nothing worse than being on a dance floor and having some guy shove his d*** in your back. Gross! And if she's not your girlfriend, don't direct her hand to your erection. Even more gross...

    Hope that answered your question

  • I would be flattered to have had that kind of effect on him, and it would make me feel good too. If I liked him then I would certainly want to get closer and to touch it. Obviously though only if it was a guy I was seeing or into, if it was a random guy I didn't know in a club it'd freak me out. I think what you are saying is, if it was with someone you liked and you knew she liked you ad you were kind of dating, what would you do if you got a erection but she hadn't noticed, e.g. should you make it clear or not?

    If this is what you mean then from my perspective I would say yes, make it clear to her I a subtle way, e.g. if kissing together kind of gradually move so that you are lying on top of her or stand closer so her body is close to yours and she would then feel it. I am not sure about actually putting her hand there though. And seriously if a guy who I didn't know or was on the first few dates with made his erection clear it would turn me off in a major way.

  • first off, in the many times I have been told "yeah I totally had a boner the other day..." 95% of the time, I didn't even notice it.

    and I do agree, it is good to know that a guy is confident in showing it. and it can be a bit of a turn on when dancing because what is dancing these days anyway? most of the time its the simulation of sex. what is grinding? its faking sex. so if a girl is turned off by it, then she is ignorant. why do you think one night stands happen so much in dance clubs? people are turned on by the simulation of sex.

Most Helpful Guys

  • judging by your age and her personality I would say yah girls think that. girls that are still new to sexuality and young may get frightened or scared but judging by the attention she sees definitely let it be. I know most girls love grinding a guy with a boner because it shows them that they turn the guy on but don't just go and show it off. she may get the idea that you're a player and then ur out for good

  • a lot of girls like when they know a guy is erect (scientific term, so I don't have to be so blunt) because it makes them feel good that theyre able to turn you on... as far as brushing up against, I think if they want sex, they will, otherwise, its a no-no, I mean if we knew a woman was w--, would you on the first date just start touching her c---, if you didn't want sex

    think about it

    • What if she accidentally brushes up against it and/or it is an accident? are you supposed to be making a conscious effort to avoid contact?

    • If she does then she does, no point in trying to avoid it

    • Do you pretend it didn't happen or laugh or something?

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  • As a Woman who is not sexually intimidated or insecure, I love to see a Man's erection! He doesn't need to hide it at all, it excites me. However, only if we are already sitting close, flirting, my hand on his thigh...and certainly if we are making out. But NOT on the dance floor! No, no, no. I like to know he has control of himself when he needs to-and the dance floor is no place for boners.

    • Oh and I say this assuming we're talking about a guy I'm already "flirting" with or whatever...not some random stranger. Random stranger? Lose the erection.

    • Wow. that's the most open answer to a question I asked on another forum about dancing and erections. most girls said it was ok and a few said they liked it when a cute guy was hard for them.

  • I've both hidden an erection and let it rub up against a girl depending on how close we were. I think she will be impressed that her dancing has caused that kind of a reaction. Just make sure you're close enough to each other first.

  • If it's a guy you're flirting with, then it's pretty hot. I don't know about brushing up, but if there's a subtle way to let her know then yeah, that would probably be okay. I know I liked it when I realized that my boyfriend was hard on our first date (and it wasn't really a date to start with).

  • I only like it if its a guy I'm with.

    I remember the first time my boyfriend got a hard on while making out with me...It was exhilarating. Though we didn't have sex for a while I was okay with it and letting him caress me...

    just depends.

  • Unless if you've clearly established between the two of you that you will probably be pursuing some kind of sexual relationship/intimate relationship, I'd keep it hidden. It's a turn-on, yes, but it has to be a guy we like. Otherwise, it's like, "Whoa, calm the eff down, horndog." haha xD But if I was with a guy I'd flirted with lightly in the past and was with him, flirting hardcore and we started kissing a lot, then I'd be flattered.

  • only brush up on her if she's really close..lol...but hey I wouldn't mind ;)

  • i like seeing/feeling it. it makes me think I'm doing something right. don't try too hard to brush up against her but if she puts her hand on your thigh she most likely won't mind feeling your hard d!ck. ;)

  • I like knowing its there, it lets me know that the guy likes me and makes me feel good about myself. But don't deliberately brush it against her unless you're dancing (and even then be subtle) if you come across too strong she might think you're a perv.

    But don't cover it up either. Just be natural, pretend like its not there, just be normal. If she finds out this way she'll be happy cause she knows you think she's hot, and she won't think you're a perv.

  • i think it really, really hot. it's making me hot right now just thinking about it.

    • That's hot

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