I cheated . he wants to get equal..he wants a threesome!

Doesn't sound like you "Cheated" to me. Sounds more like you were raped honestly, date rape I guess they'd call it if someone was just taking advantage of a passed out girl. So unless by :"failed to stop it" you mean that you just didn't stop it and didn't try to, then I'd say it's not cheating. If you tried to stop it and the guy was just taking advantage of you and forcing himself on you then that's pretty clear cut case of date rape.
The fact that y our guy is pissed about this still after 2 anda 1/2 years is ridiculous. The fact that he was pissed at all is ridiculous. If I was that guy I'd be more concerned with kicking the shit out of the asshole who took advantage of you, not trying to get back at you or anything.
You don't owe this guy shit, he's just trying to make you feel guilty to get what he wants out of you. Don't give into that bullshit.
This guy sounds like a jerk, so if I were you I'd tell him that there's no way you're doing a 3-some just to make him feel better out of some stupid notion of getting revenge or settling the score for some mishap that wasn't your fault 2 years ago. Tell him he either needs to deal with it and move on, or f*** off. I can't believe you'd even consider this. Don't let this guy's guilt trips and bullshit manipulate you into something like that, stand up for yourself and realize that you don't owe him shit in that department. If he truly cared about you and trusted you, he would not be trying to use the fact that you were date raped to his advantage. Guys like this are the reason the rest of us get a bad name.

So my suggestion? Tell him to get over it or you're leaving him. And if he tries to pull this shit again, kick him in the balls repeatedly until he can't have children, at least that way his dumbass, asshole-ish bloodline won't be able to continue.(Okay, so some assault and battery charges might come into play with that one... maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration, but honestly, this guy sounds like scum to me).

u should persuade one of ur girlfriend and finish the problem. sharing ur boyfriend with someone you know will be better then sharing him with someone else.
sex together! will be fine, crazy and pleasant. isn't it?

1) I don't understand how you could "fail to stop it"
2) Your relationship is probably not going to ever be the same, even with a threesome

OK you were date raped... except it wasn't a date. Whether or not you stopped it doesn't matter.

Your Boyfriend wants a 3 some and is using your guilt to get it.

Now if you haven't tried a 3 way I'd recommend it... some people like it some don't only one way to find out is to try it.

If you are dead set against it, tell him and that will be that.

You should not have guilt for an event that happened because some bastard wanted to have sex with you and didn't want to ask.

Joe

I'm thinking the 'being taken advantage of" thing when passed out is more or less rape. Failing to stop it could be 1 of 1000 reasons why that didn't happen. If he can't get over something like that, maybe he's not worth it at all. And really, do 2 wrongs make a right? I don't think so but I guess it depends how much he means to you, and if you think he can get over that situation. If you do this, you probably will never look at him the same way, and it'll probably hurt your relationship more than equal it.

Trust me as a guy, a threesome is the ultimate fantasy as long as it's with another girl call it a double standard, well because it is. Rarely can a relationship handle the introduction of another girl into the mix especially to even the score. By the way, I know you think you are in love and he's the one all but there are plenty of men who would do anything for you, don't put yourself in a position that you are not 100% comfortable with. Bottom line, this is coming from a guy, don't do it, and the bastard that did that to you at the party should have got his ass kicked and been arrested, don't put up with that ever.

wow he's still pissed off at you? its been a long ass time... what's wrong with him? :(

The line most girls use when they just don't want to admit they full out cheated. lol. You're young, he's young, find someone else, if neither of you can be loyal, its doomed.

Were you and the other guy both drunk at the party, or were you sober maybe had one drink and the next thing you knew some dude was on top of you? Bc if you were both drunk and I don't care if you were completely shitfaced and he was sort of drunk, if you were both drunk something had to have happened before that at least kissing, and that right there would be cheating, your making out with another guy who is not your bf, that is cheating. You may have been drunk but it doesn't matter.

But if you were at a party and just hanging out maybe had one drink or possibly nothing to drink and you woke up with some dude on top of you, then you probably got slipped date rape. And if that is the case and you told your boyfriend that some dude forced himself on you, then that wouldn't be cheating.

Dump your boyfriend. You owe him nothing and he is using your bad history as leverage. Nice guys don't do that.

He's a douche. He wants a threesome for revenge? Revenge on a girlfriend? That's messed up.

i say find a fat chick who is not a threat. kiss him from head to his chest. with her watching then tell her to give him a bj and that you want to watch...then tell hm to screw off and that he is dumped...and find a better guy. you were basically raped...and make it a girl that you don't know.

I suggest you find a new boyfriend and keep your sexual history too yourself. At your age you should be dating as many different guys as possible. You have not yet had enough variety to enable you too pick out a great one.

I agree with everyone else...
but you could make it a surprise guest and say, "heres your threesome baby".
*opens the door*
*His best mate Jimmy walks through*

He wanted a threesome. There you go. :)

Your fling has nothing to do with any threesome down the line. You need to make that clear. He needs to either move on and forgive, or end the relationship.

Once that's settled, THEN you can talk threesome, IF you want to.

my view of cheating is that you either accept and forgive
or you accept, dump, and forget


pick one

sounds like an a-hole to me he should be able to let that go

i think that's ridiculous. he's playing up your issues as a couple for an excuse. he feels he can get anything out of you because, like you said, you feel in debt to him. why would he get rid of you or cheat on you when he can do this and feel completely normal? in his head he thinks it's okay, or that;s at least what he's saying. he doesn't want to look like the bad guy. and on top of everything else, why should you be subjected to watch? helllll no. not happening. if you do it, I'm sorry, but I have no choice but to call you a dumb, stupid girl.

and to the guy that took advantage of you, that's not your fault. and I can tell you that from personal experience. I had the exact same thing happen to me, and I kept telling myself it was probably my fault, because I didn't know what was going on and I didn't do anything about it. I'm stronger now, and I forgave the person who did it. it doesn't make it right but at least I wasn't with anyone at the time. unfortunately, the one who did it was killed in september, and I still miss him dearly. so my advice on that situation is to talk to them or someone you trust, because no matter what, it's not your fault.

choose a friend that you don't see a lot and prob won't steal him. and no offense you man sounds like he wants some MORE action and he wants to have this one incident to be okay. I wouldn't rule out that he's cheating, or would cheat in the future. sorry

So let me get this straight, you were raped, your boyfriend is angry at YOU for being raped (last I checked that is not something you can help) and wants to get "even" on you for being raped by having a 3some? If you have any brothers or cousins have them jump your boyfriend. Don't let this jerk treat you like that.

The only way you guys would be equal is if he was raped because that happened to you. You never gave your consent and I am guessing, you were to scared to stop him once you came to. You are not in his debt and if after 2 and 1/2 years, you don't feel any better and he is not supportive, drop him. He is using your guilt to get something that he has wanted for a while. Please just let him go.

this is the most bizarre thing I have ever heard of.
first of all, I totally agree with Techan that you were not cheating on him. and for him to keep bringing back the situation are what assholes do.
if you let him do this threesome thing, you are just telling him that he has control over you now becasue you feel guilty, which is a very wrong message!
you deserve better girl. I don't think he is the guy for you if that's how he treats you.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Him having another female will only make this situation worse, not better, and that is if you look at it like you did cheat (which I'm not so sure of).

if that's me and I love him,considering I didn't do it on purpose,and actually did my promisories,how ever in debt I am I would not consider having threesome with another girl if I don't want to.its just gonna lead to another mess..if he really loves you he would say ok honey just please don't do it again.thats the a good man would say and accept that you cheated...

your man ask for 3some? and do you think everything stops there? and all of a sudden everything is fixed? big NO..

how ever hurtful it is and guilt flooding up your brain,if you're talking about serious relationship,and actually did a violation,you have to know the relationship is innerly ruined already..id tell him NO I do not want 3some,and id plea not to do it ever again,or maybe id pay it the different way,if he really wanted you to for the cause but cheating is not gonna be fixed by another mess..if he really wanted to 3some then time to say bye to him and let him move on and accpet your consequence the good way.prepare yourself to heal.thats the right thing to do..talk the right way too without fighting,hard as it sound but you gotta be grown up..and just please do not get near temptations,anything that you know could led you to heartache.