I just want random sex

If you're open to finding someone new for that, I'd say go with that ( if you know they are safe ). This way it won't mess up the relationship with your current guy friends.

But if you can't find someone new for it, you can always try a guy friend. But be careful not to let it interfere with your friendship with them.

Janelov - quote -"Why you did not want to date her? you did not like her as a GF? "

Good question. Its not that I never had feelings for her or wanted her for a girlfriend. Its more the fact that it was her idea and she made the arrangements. She said she thought it would be more fun to not be tied down in college. Now, I had my jealous moments and I'm sure she had feelings a few times too.

We told and asked each other stuff you would never tell a normal bf or gf. I mean dead honest truths. She told me things about girls that, frankly, shocked me. It was an education to be sure. It got kind of weird for a bit in that respect but we always had so much fun. In honesty, I had more fun and was closer to this girl than any "girlfriend" I ever had and to a certain extent, my wife (just the fun part). I can't say that I would have said no if she had asked me, it just never happened. And I'm glad. If we had labeled the relationship it would've been molded into something different or ruined completely. So in that sense, yes it was a relationship but I wouldn't call it typical. Strictly speaking though, we both knew despite being good friends that we weren't right for each other/each others type. Maybe that doesn't make sense but its something we were observant and open enough to see.

When we parted ways after college it was unlike any break up I've ever had. It wasn't like the usual blow to the system, but I felt like something was missing for a long time. Even so, if it wasn't for her I would still have no understanding of women. I wouldn't have nearly as good a relationship with my wife. I heard that she (the college friend) finally married the guy that she was looking for as well. I think more guys and girls need to look past the typical notions of relationships and they might just learn something profound. I'd say as far as a learning experience/ experiment it was a success. On the other hand if I told my wife all the details, I'm not sure how excited she would be, at least initially. But who really discusses past sex with their current? So in the end what does that mean? I'm not sure but I'd do it all over again...

I think you should give it a go anonymous user age 18 to 24!

Well, it really depends on what you want. My friend did the random thing a couple of times cause that was her fantasy, however, she said it was not that great....so then she just went back to having exclusive bfs. Maybe is best that you find a guy that you find attractive, and then agree to have sex with him. Kind of like a friend with benefits deal. Or as the bugginmint suggested, maybe do it with one of your friends to help each other out. Only thing with that, is that you might lose a friend if any of you get attached.

I'm not sure if this your thing or not but it worked for a friend of mine in college that was a girl. We met because she was dating my roommate and we became friends. After they broke up we were still friends and hung out. We would go to the bars together sometimes. We would try and help each other hook up with someone at the bar. She wanted some casual sex like you, and if at the end of the night we both didn't find anyone we would go home together. Its a win win situation. Either I was pointing out decent guys and she was spoon feeding me girls or we had each other for plan b.

I don't think everyone is ready for a relationship like this but I thought it was awesome. We taught each other so much about the opposite sex. We learned how to approach people, how girls/guys think, what girls/guy like in bed, etc. As a girl you'll have a much easier chance of initiating a relationship like this. Oh yeah, did I mention its 100% successful?

Hey I'm in the exact same position!! you know what you could ask a friend but that could get really complicated !! why don't you go on a girls night out and hook up with a guy there that's what I would do ask long as you use condoms its all good!!