Does this make me a slut?

Yea you are a slut, it doesn't matter if you care about others opinions since you already know this to be true.

U R NOT A HOOCHIE but I would call your actions " sexually challenged"

Hey, your second post is on the mark. Don't worry about what other people think, we all have something that can be judged by others. The important thing is to live up to your own standards and feel good about your choices, and learn from the things you choose that later decide are a mistake. Your state of mind is more important than any of our opinions.

Good Luck
James

Well I think you have more sexual feelings than a normal girl. Your probably like an average guy. Your not crazy, but I would put you on the borderline between slut and normal. Like going back to the 2nd guy and sleeping with him, that's pretty slutty.

IMHO you're NOT a slut. Just a girl with normal sexual feelings.

Not as long as you let me hit that too. lolool j/k

Nah you're fine, you were sexually frustrated and you had a lot going on, you needed some "luvins" ;)

Yeah a slut is someone who is dating someone and sleeping with another and I would never ever go out with you, and I'd tell everyone what you did to some innocent human being who was just trying to love you.

But hey...As long as you had fun, right? Who says that? Whoever raised you should feel ashamed. I would want to kill myself if I raised someone like this.

I don't think you want an honest answer...

Yes this makes you a slut. Doesn't mean you have to be one for the rest of your life if you change, but right now you are acting like a slut. You are what you do.

If it wasn't anything that was intended, then no, it doesn't make you a slut

Given that "slut" means "girl with a sex life I dislike", it's not a word I bother with.

As for you, phrases like "I don't feel like a slut", "I learned from it" and "I feel like just having fun like that isn't a bad thing", shows me that you're probably not in any trouble. You could get hated on, sure, but when I look at sexual folk and I look at the haters, the haters are the ones with problems.

How do you not intend to sleep with someone, and then sleep with him? Then it happened again. Then you see a guy you are interested and things are going good, but he doesn't ask you out and you sleep with guy number 2 again. Before I can call you a slut, I want to know your thought process of going from "I'm not sleeping with him tonight" to "I'm sleeping with him tonight".

I won't say you are a slut. But you sound gullible if a guy can get you to sleep with him so easily. And dwneder, come on, "sluts" are still sluts. The concept hasn't changed. And there is a difference between sexually progressive and sleeping with everyone on the block. Of course, old fools can believe whatever they choose too.

They entire concept of "sluts" is so last-millennium!

I'm sure there are still people that believe in this, but frankly, they are dinosaurs. Modern people often see women with experience as more sexually progressive, not sluts.

[Safe] sex is a healthy way to explore both your own sexuality and to grow your sexual confidence. Protect yourself and simply avoid the dinosaurs that still clink to these dumb concepts of the last 100 years.

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everyone makes mistakes however I wouldn't call you a slut just really confused.It seems you're using the sex as a way of getting a guys attention.try being with a guy without having to be intimate.I went through a similar situation, over a long-time span though, but I learned what was important and that is my future and my goals the rest will follow into place when I'm more stable and ready to be in a serious relationship as should you.

You are right, you SHOULDN'T care what other people think because it's your body, your sex life, and your relationships. You aren't a slut in my opinion, at all. Things happen, oh well. I didn't read anything that was out-there-oh-my-god-she's-a-whore. Don't even worry about it and keep not giving a sh*t what other people think of your life. They don't have to live it so if they don't like it they can keep it to themselves. =]

You're not a slut, and don't worry about what other people think. I've slept around before and have no regrets so I don't consider myself a slut. people who call girls sluts are just hypocrites because it's a double standard.

Slut is kinda of a different definition for everyone. Some people think that if you sleep with X number of people you are a slut, or if you sleep with a few men at the same time. The question is DO YOU think you are a slut? No, you don't. Will someone else saying you're a slut make you want to change your behavior? No, probably not. So does it really matter about other's opinions if they are different then yours? NO, because you are comfortable with your actions. So, my answer to you is, if someone tells you that you are acting like a slut, will you change? Exactly, so the point it moot here...

Yes. You are a slut. WTF you said you were hurt? Why don't you stop an think about the boyfriend who you didn't respect enough to stay faithful to. You say you learned from your mistakes but you obviously haven't if you keep repeating it over and over again. Use some sense girl. I'm not insulting you, being more sexual than other people is not a bad thing but using it as an excuse for your actions is.

Have a little more respect for your and other peoples bodies and hearts.

Yes, That does make you a slut. Sleeping around. YOUR HURT? Think of the guys. Keep this up and all you will be to guy is a booty call. Then your going to have issues with men for the rest of your life. STOP SAYING you didn't "intend" to have sex.
When a guy is touching you sexually or if your touching him. ITS YOUR CHOICE to stop.
You don't have to plan things like that. But you can stop when you want. So stop trying to sound so innocent.

When YOUR the one breaking up with someone. Why the hell would you go back? But sleeping around that does classify you as a slut. OH. So you broke up with your boyfriend to have sex with some guy just so you probably wouldn't be considered "cheating" then you tried to hook back up with him again? how stupid can you get.

You don't feel like a slut?
hmmm... weird.

You were not going through difficult times. This was all your doing. If you know sleeping around is bad. Then why would you in the first place? (don't answer that)

You said you don't feel like a slut.
So whatever we say probably won't change your opinion, right?
I think the behavior is risky, whatever you want to call it.

Personally, I don't think that makes you a slut at all, I think if you had no intentions on sleep with the guys in the first place that's ok things happen you know. And if you and this guy you are with now were not together seriously then its ok he has to expect you to date other people if he doesn't want to make the commitment to be in a serious relationship.I think you are just more sexual than other girls not a slut. I would do the same thing if it was me.

So to me it seems that you are asking permission for something you know is wrong. But the good new is here you will get it. And you will do what you want as long as their is someone out their who agrees with you. Its kind of like congress there is so much money backing both sides of any argument nothing ever gets done.

So I would suggest you find out what morals you want to stand for, and then take your stand, where its feminism, subjective morality, Universal morality, God, happy endings, social constructs - whatev... figure it out and stand up for it.

If not do what you want because you are going to anyway.

avoid calling yourself a slut etc. these words really have no meaning... unless you give them meaning .. you can have fun just be safe.. to me a slut is someone who really lacks total respect for themselves.. not a question of you seeing a hot guy and sleeping with him the end.. but a question of you seeing a hot guy and sleeping with him and his friend even though you didn't want to.. but he told you to.. lol that's a slut.. lol or I gave him head because he won't let me touch him etc. lol that's a slut.. but having fun is one thing.. and being a real "slut" is something else. obviously men feel differently about this stuff until they become around the age of 30 etc. lol then they get the point.

I think the most important thing here is how you feel about it.
It doesn't matter what you do, or who you do, how you do it, where you do it - there will be people that will disapprove of your actions. It really doesn't matter. What matters is how your actions make you feel.
If you tell yourself you're not going to sleep around because it will make you look bad, then do it anyway - you care more about what you want than what people think. Is that right? In my opinion, as long as it doesn't hurt any one - I can't see what's wrong with it.
If you are having sex because it's something that you enjoy - what is so terrible about that? Whether it be with one partner or 100 your reasons are the same - you like having sex. Use protection of course, as you should be responsible.
You need to accept yourself. Be happy and proud of what and who you are. Your sexuality shouldn't be the only thing that defines you as a person. The word "slut" can taint your perception of yourself , but it only "describes" one facet of who you are. You are more than who you sleep with - you need to be consciously aware of that.
Good luck.

Your participating in slut behavior...take that however you want.

Hell no! Don't even worry about it. You're not a slut even a little bit. After three years it's fun to get out and experience someone else. It's not like you go home with a different guy every week. You were just out having fun and fulfilling your sexual needs. Have a good time and don't worry about what society thinks. If you are ok with doing it then that is all that matters.