Is it common for girls saving their virginity for marriage to use anal sex as a substitute?

Oh so she is the type of girl who keeps her virginity for the sake of people and for her hubby to respect her, or for the society.. but not for her own persona! That's pretty shallow in my opinion.. and yea a lot of girls that I know do that .. which is lame seriously.

For your update : There is no such thing as "different definition" .. virginity is more than physical , it's not just a matter of touching the vagina, but also a matter of purity and conscience. She can't claim to be virgin while having anal sex..she has been touched by a man in her intimate parts, full stop.

Virginity is not what nowadays people try to define .. it's either yes or no, there is no such thing as virgin who does anal sex. In my opinion this is not virginity, not a tad.

The fact that she is kind of naive concerning the definition of virginity doesn't mean she is evil.. I'm not implying that she is evil at all, it's just that she seems to be more on the religiously ignorant side of the matter, and that's not a bad thing again .. we all learn until we die.

I do have a friend who says she is a virgin but does all kinds of sexual acts except for the "vagina" .. and I don't hate her at all, she has actually the best personality ever, so no hate intended at all :)

Virgin or not - whatever anyone's definition is - it seems silly to me.

The whole point of waiting for sex until marriage is to save yourself for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with - not give your body to someone else; whether in the same way or not. It just removes any form of sanctity from the act. I mean - I've nothing against sex before marriage or saving yourself - either is fine. But saying 'no - sex is a sacred thing, I'm waiting for the one I love and commit myself to for the rest of my life' and then letting someone else do you up the butt ... the two kind of don't sing well together for me.

It's hypocritical.

If you want to save yourself, save yourself.

If you don't, don't.

I think she's still a virgin, TECHNICALLY, but not an anal virgin.

Because if I were to say anal sex made her a non-virgin, the same would have to be said for oral sex, and that quite obviously isn't losing the v-tag.

I do however think that the point of waiting for marriage is to ensure that the person you give your body to in that way truly loves you and makes sex that much more special because it will only be shared with one person. That goes out the window if she's still giving herself to someone in that way, just a different hole. So there seems no point at this stage.

You have been hit with a lot of critical answers, many which really surprise me. So often I hear on GaG "We have never had sex. Yes we do oral and anal." That is oral SEX and anal SEX. So they have had sex. Guess they believed Bill Clinton when he told us he had never had sex with that woman.

As for the word virgin - the definition is one who has never had penis in vagina sex. So by definition she is a virgin. So is every lesbian who has had sex with hundreds of other women in hundreds of ways. But, although they meet the definition, they are not what someone who is expecting a virgin is thinking.

As far as meeting what the bible expects in the way of virginity, might I point out that anal sex and oral sex are in the bible as big NO-NOs, even for married people. So they are avoiding one sin by doing a bigger one?

Really, without all the judgment that is being thrown around right now, by looking through past conversations on here, lots of women do exactly what your girlfriend is doing. That was your question and that is the answer.

In your last sentence you mention avoiding pregnancy, and that part is certainly honest about being a reasonable explanation for her stance on this.

It's not common for girls to do "preserve" their V-card like that unless you're comparing her with a catholic girls school. Even if that notion of virginity is flawed I would strongly advise against calling her out on it. It sounds like you really dig this young lady. Respect the choices she has made for her lady parts.

If you and her were to get married some day imagine how sweet it'll be getting to finally have a go on her untouched vajayjay. Like opening up a present on Christmas morning. But even if you and her don't get married and you don't get the privilege of opening up her box you'll still have had plenty of freaky porno-style sex. And that is worth something because usually a fella qualifies for the champions league by doing well in the domestic league however it's the other way 'round for you. You might be forbidden from entering the domestic league until specific criteria have been met however you are free to run rampant in the champions league as well as the cup. So stop sweating over the little details and go tap that sweet ass of hers just like you should.