How do you do it?

While she is doing it, tell her what you want that's what my ex did. He either says
deep throat, faster, slower, suck harder, use more tongue. That way you know exactly
what the guy wants.

Show her how to do it and make her understand...but try not to make her feel bad.
Something you can say to make her do it the right way is "BAby you know what else will feel good?" Don't just deal with it!

show her what you like and how you like it!
if you don't say anything, then she thinks you like it. . . but if you go, here, lets try this, then she will learn!

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sounds like something my boyfriend wold say...to my face..haha but um
just tell her...shell understand...shes a girl...
teach her how you want it...maybe shell learn from it and get better...
maybe and return shell tell you her g spot...(bad joke)
just saying..if I was bad at something..id want my boyfriend to tell me

it could be worse.
you could have a girl that's amazing at blow jobs and hand jobs, and she refuses to give them you

You have to coach her a bit. Especially if she's not that experienced. Girls don't have one of those, and when we first get sexual we're really just guessing as to how it would feel.

Have a night where she gets to boss you around, she gets to tell you exactly what she wants you to do to her and how to do it. Then the next time is your turn. Tell her how you like it, what you like, etc. Someimes my guy is in the mood for something in particular and he wants it done a certain way. He will put my finger in his mouth and show me exactly what he wants done. I mimick what he is doing to my finger to his dick and he loves it. That way he doesn't have to say he isn't enjoying something I am doing, I can do exactly what he wants.

Kudos to you for being careful of her feelings *S* You just need to help her out. I think it would have been easier though had you not waited 6 months to do it! Think of how it would be if the tables were turned. If you loved doing things to her but unknowingly weren't GOOD at it. Would you want to know? Most likely. How would you want to be told.. well, you probably wouldn't. But if you go about it the right way, you can certainly show her, or at least steer her in the right direction. When she's giving you a hand job, slowly place your hand over hers. Gently guide her with regard to pressure, speed, etc. You can then say things like, "I love it when ____"(you stroke my balls, change speeds/tightness, keep the same speed/tightness. As for the blowjobs you can guide her head and mouth gently by placing a hand on her head, cheek, neck and gently guide her rhythm and speed. Then tell her how good it feels when she.. ________(sucks just the head, swirls her tongue around, takes it deeper, licks the shaft) etc)Take it slow and if she says something along the lines of 'but that's not how I was doing it before' tell her, I know.. but it feels so good when you do this. Put the 'burden' on yourself.. say something like, maybe it's just me but I like this better..I guess we're all different. If she really loves doing it, she'll want to do it the way you want it. I know that I am MUCH better than I was when I started and it's because my husband took the time and care to guide me without making me feel like I was doing something wrong. Women have been guiding men on technique with regards to how they like to be touched forever. But men tend not to take it as personally as we women do. Good luck and again, good going wanting to make sure you don't make her feel badly!

Instead of pointing out what she's doing wrong try telling her what she's doing right and continue to tell her what you like. I would even start by asking her what she likes (chances are that there are some things that you yourself could improve on).

Try being vocal when she is doing something that feels good. If you're quiet she will just keep moving on to other things that may not be as pleasurable for you to get off on. Example -she is licking hard and slow where your frenulum is or was and its driving you nuts, comment " oh that's so hot or don't stop your so good" Your not lying, and you are re-enforcing in her that this is a pleasure point she needs to concentrate on more. Remember, she is not psychic and doesn't know what you like or dislike if you never say anything
During a hand job maybe you can put your hand over hers to help teach her how hard you like it squeezed or how fast you like it pumped.
Only through good communication will she ever improve.
Does this help?
The same goes when you are fingering or doing oral on her

coach her bro, just throw out little things here and there that you want her to do... not a bunch at once. just throw her one thing out "play with my balls" she does it, moan loud, it will get in her head that you like that.. then next time throw out another coaching tip, shell hopefully retain knowledge do the new thing you want and then remember what you liked last time and put them together. be careful sometimes a girl can get mad that you are telling her what to do. <---- use with caution

try giving her little verbal ques like faster or down a little farther or kiss on it verbal communication is ok as long as you're not rude with it

There's no "I" in blow-job, it's a team effort. Coach her to be the MVP you know she is.

Perform oral on her first, then say I saw this porn and this girl did this and this ... I think that's hot... That's a very easy way to tell her, unless she's gonna get mad your watching porn. Otherwise you can say can you try this or don't do that. Be very kind.

Maybe it's because you've just sat or laid there and not ever said anything to her to give her a clue how good she's been no matter how little it is. You need to respond to her touches and her desire to pleasure you. It's like you being on a sports team, and when you do really good at something, it's encouraging when the coach gives you a little complement or a pat on the back and says, "Good Job!" That only makes you wanna try harder. So start doing the same with your girlfriend. It's like building up her strengths and the skills that she does have rather than trying to bring up her weaknesses where you'd like her to improve. Once you start this, be prepared for her to be much better than ever, and both of you much happier when it comes to doing those things. You're already very lucky that she even wants to do these things as compared to some girls that aren't as enthused as her to even do them. Good luck!

Tell her what you would prefer, be specific, be flattering, make it your problem: "Baby, you give the best bjs ever, but I have this weird thing--I don't like teeth scraping on my c*ck as much as other guys do, so can you ease up, just a little bit?"

tell her what you like. nobody is born an expert at anything