About first time sex and other stuff.. Help please

Right I tried to make this short but failed epicly. Its looking more and more like an essay but I hope it helps.

A1. Ok, I've had the exact same problem with my boyfriend, I'm 5,2 and he's 6,4 [ Yeah, height difference or what?!]
I found out that not being able to fit is totally normal, it happens to lots of people, So no need to worry. What worked for me and my boyfriend was persistence. We did lots of oral sex, until I the time came when I was big enough 'downstairs' for him lol. Also if the girls aroused enough it should be a lot easier. Natural lubricants and stuff ; ]There's no point- to put it bluntly 'ramming it home' if it just doesn't fit. Just take it slow with her, because it will probably be painful the first time. Also-never go on a special sex mission, where- you two force yourselves to have sex- for the sake of it. It never works. Just- let it happen. It'll be great ; ]

A2. Ok my boyfriend did the exact same thing and tried fingering when he couldn't fit: Many girls, especially if they aren't very sexually experienced, don't orgasm. Some of us have to learn to and this could take quite some time. Try not to 'over-finger' her to make her reach orgasm, because it can be very painful, roughness of your hands and nails[ make sure you cut them] to 'sensitive' parts can hurt badly after constant friction.

The best thing you can do is communicate. The benefit of using hands is that you can more dextoriously find places and methods of making her react. The best way to find out what she wants and what she doesn't -is on her face.

Here's some things you might want to try :-

Blindfolds- yes this sounds very kinky but its something you might want to try. This heightens sensitivity and can make feelings more intense, yet on the other hand you may loose some slight intimate connection.

Hot-hands - try it. Not like burning hot hands. But if you have a bed next to a radiator or close to something that gives warmth, warm them up! It gives girls a really nice sensation and can increase pleasure.

Lubes - Water based ones, not ones with sugar in-that can do damage to her down there. I know you said that you wanted to find ways without lubes, but if she's small, I would say lubes are one of the best options. Even for fingering it will definitely, definitely feel good for her.

A.3 If its first times for both of you, it may be first time oral, so she may be making lots of mistakes, but that's all part of learning. You've got to let her know what you like and what you don't. Some people just naturally take quite a while to orgasm. This isn't necessarily a bad thing at all.
You could ask her to use lubricant on you. Or perhaps if your not aroused enough, buy her some kinky undies ; ] maybe experiment .

The best thing to remember is that oral sex and just sex is meant to be fun and enjoyable, maybe cute and passionate. If its not right for one of you, it'll never be right for both of you. So have fun!

Hope I helped- even a little bit

Good luck!

1.it's gonna take a little work to get it in there try oral on her to get her wet down there it might make it easier.
2.just rub your finger around her clitoris softly that should get things going a bit and if she is a virgin don't plan on giving her an orgy I don't think she can yet.
3.I'm not sure about this but maybe she's just not turning you on or you may like stuff a little kinky try googleing karma sutra or go to cosmopolitan and look at there sex creations and positions that may help you with all if you questions.

1. Have her go on top of you. Try different positions
2. Use two fingers, go in a "reaching up" position and make your fingers like they are walking. You should be able to tell if you hit the spot or not by her actions. And if it's her first time it will make her feel like she wants to pee.
3. She is probably just inexperienced or your just not a hand/blowjob kinda guy. While she's doing it let her know if she is is going to slow/fast, holding it too tight.

q1- my boyfriend is 6 ft and I'm 5'3 so there's a big dif in height ..i found it easier if I go on top. so mayb ask yur girlfriend if she would like to try that...

q2-some girl being fingered doesn't do anything for them.

q3- ask her to go dwn on yu more. I no with past experiences. when giving you a blow job ask her to use her tongue more. and while she giving yu hand ask her to try kissing yur neck and mayb nibbling on yur ear

Ah with the first question it's sort of a hard one. If it just won't go in then you may have to ask your doctor what's the safest way to go about it.
I hate to tell you but if you and your girlfriend aren't having any luck really satisfying each other then maybe the sexual chemistry just isn't strong enough. Try thinking of fantasies or even researching where to touch each other for the best reaction.

1. have her lift her legs apart and up around you and you just have to be a little rough.
another idea is to finger her before and once again be kinda rough.
make sure you tell you are going to be rough first thou.
the first time is just kind of a breaking point the next day or later that day you can start trying new things you like

2.i have never had an orgasm while being fingered either its normal
if she enjoys it then just keep going.

3.and yes. if she's willing tell her to go down more on the penis and have her moan in your ear while giving you a handjob

hope that helps

wen you try to hit her g spot try to stroke it with a "come hither" motion with ur middle finger

OMGOSH I am 5' 1" and I had the same problem. You have to go very very very slow. Like some of the head in and start move in in and out after she is comfortable there, go in a little deeper and move in and out at that depth... A2 you have to not only finger her but make sure her mind is thinking bout what ur doing not thinking I better have an orgasm. And don't say every few seconds if she has had one. In fact don't ask at all. Try to make out wit her as you finger her. A3 ummmm yea have her look up tips on google.com. have her try the hot/cold. IT WORKS have her put ice in her mouth for awhile then do the bj or have her drink something hot and then do it!. Also she could put a breath strip on ur tongue as she does that my boyfriend loves it. And btw you will not have an orgasm every time.

A 1: You can't go for sex first.. You have to finger her to loosen her up a bit. Go for one finger back and forth a couple times, and then go for two.. It's the only way she'll loosen up so you can fit. Also, make sure your somewhat wet and she is too because it slides much easier than trying to shove it in the dry. If you play around with her beforehand she'll definitely be wet (: Go slow, and then just push it in and start it up! You have to ask her though, especially if she's a virigin or is tight. Because she might hate you for pushing it in without warning.. So tell her you want to have sex but you have to push.. And see what she says first.

A 2: What I always love is rubbing the clit. If you take two fingers.. And place them on both sides of the clit and just run them back and forth as your kissing her, she won't even BE able to kiss you. Then.. Start kissing her down her body, and run your tongue back and forth on her clit to keep the feeling going as you start putting your fingers in her. If you move the clit with everything you do she'll have an orgasm in no time and might even squirt (:

A 3: Yes, it's definitely normal. She just isn't getting that much pleasure in giving you one or then she'd wait until you came in her mouth. I wouldn't ask her to give you more, because it can tick a lot of girls off.. It just depends on how she is. I would give her some pleasure, and then ask her if she'd mind if you came in her mouth, if she says yeah, then she'll go full out until you're done!

Hope I helped (:
Good luck

Q 1: try eating her out.

Q 2: play with the clit not just the hole. A lot of girls get great orgasms from just rubbing down there.

Q 3: tell her too do the hand job a bit longer and going faster, also licking the head of your penis, rubbing it on her self. that should turn you on lol.

maybe get ur dick wet, and this is really gross, but rub olive oil on her p**** helps it stretch. Read it in a birthing book, works the same for sex though

You guys may just not be ready to consummate. Height differences have nothing to do with it. If your really having that much difficulty, it may be a mental thing. If she's not ready, she's not gonna let it in. Pay attention to her body, is she wet? Is she withering in anticipation? Don't forget there are two of you there.

Has she reached orgasm while masturbating alone? Ask her what she likes, what feels good. Watch a few porns to get some tips (www.youporn.com is a good site)

Have her watch you while your masturbating or gently guide her hands while she is down on you to show her how you like it. If you need a firmer hand, gently clasp your hand over yours and apply the pressure you like.

Communicate, communicate, communicate.

1. try spooning. since ur taller

2. tap on her G spot ;)

3. its normal

say this to her:
lets play titanic, when I say iceberg you go down.

its a lot of fun and if you both say it at the same time its interesting and makes me orgasm every time and he does too.

try lube. finger more. try masturbating.

Okay, here is what I have to offer. I have had lots of difficulty in this area so I certainly know what I am talking about. I am also small and each time I have sex I always go back to being small down there. It seems like I am a virgin every time.

Here is what has helped me. I make sure that my boyfriend and I have plenty of foreplay, which usually starts before we even think about having sex. Could be texting each other and saying fun things, like "You won't believe what I am going to do to you tonight..." Then I always get into the mood by thinking about being with him.

The main thing though is we take it slow. Usually by spending time kissing for awhile and playing around. You mention she hasn't had an orgasm. That is up to her. She has to know her own body and what stimulates her the most so she can show you. Toys help. The G Spot feels like the tip of your nose when you reach inside and use a "come here" motion with your finger towards the front of her clit. If she can stimulate the outside and you can go after her G spot, she will be in heaven. You can also do both yourself.

When it comes to pleasing you, you have to tell her what feels good to you. Each time you are together sex will get better. You both have to know what the other wants. Communication is key. Some couples go years without telling the other what they want or they lie and say they have had an orgasm. That is crazy. When she goes down on you, when something feels good, tell her so with a moan or a saying like, that's right baby, feels good. She won't know if if feels good, unless you tell her. If you want it harder, faster, also tell her. She needs to tell you the same.

You both need to work on your sex communication and then you will be happy. Start off with a sexy shower and soap each other up and feel each others' bodies. It can be very sensual. Even playing games can get the party started. Just have fun.

Q 1: Have her get on top.
Q 2: A slow, upward scooping motion
Q 3: Maybe you are just the kind of person who only likes sex... and there's nothing wrong with that :)

thats totally normal for it to not "fit in" she's just really tight which is good. I was too before I tried sex because I am also 5'1'' but she's just gonna have to deal with the pain if you guys wanna start doing it. this sounds really bad but I have a low pain tolerance so I drank a little before. but now its totally fine at least you know she's not chaeting on you :)

Q1: if you give her head before sex that will make it moist, if you can't make her wet. lol but it's got nothing to do with her height. I'm only short myself. it just depends it she's wet

Q2: how do you finger her. do you rub her clit (is she a clit girl?) try stick 1 finger up her and rubbing her clit with your thumb, as she gets more wet stick to etc. also try different things with your fingers like circling them around inside her and experiment with different speeds, ask her what feels good.

Q3: if you didn't feel much ask her to hold on tighter while giving handjob, and to possible suck harder while giving head. or ask her to suck on your knob hard, while giving you a handy (hard) and tickling your balls. that should feel good. just tell her how you like it :)

hope this helped a little

give her oral sex first and that should help...

Well, as for the fitting in in thing, I can give you a few tips there.
I lost my virginity to a guy who was really well endowed.

She might be afraid of the pain- and yes, there will be some. Ways to lessen it is to first make sure she feels good. not as in make her come, but make her feel comfortable, make sure she knows she can trust you, and that this isn't something she HAS to do. Compliment her bosy as well, but not to the point where she'll feel like your just some horny bastard who wants to get his rocks off. Make sure you're being intimate and caring.

Next, do something she likes, give her a massage, give her oral, finger her, play with her nipples, kiss her neck, make out, whatever it is that makes her really wet. Being wet is SUPER important.

When she feels ready, you lay down and let her get on top of you, on her knees, above your penis. Let her grab the tip and put it to her vagina, and then let her SLOWLY start to put it in. When it starts going in, and your mostly inside of her, (and this is IMPORTANTE, MUCHACHO) let her lay forward on your chest, and as she does this, hold her. what's happening right now is he vagina is slowly stretching and making room for you. Make absolutely sure she's being comforted at this point because it does hurt, either a little or a lot depending on your size and hers.

When she first starts to move, let it be slow.If she sits up, it'll hurt, so stay somewhat horizontal. Don't rush it, or she'll end up sore the next day. If you want to be on top, let her lay on you longer, and let her do the horizontal thing for a little while, then have her get off, her lay down, and you SLOWLY go inside.

Keep in mind most of it is mental, make sure she-s happy inside.


As for the jacking off thing, communicate to her what you like. My first hand job was pathetic because I didn't know what made him feel good. You need to tell her, either directly or with moans and such.


and her not coming? again, maybe mental. She might be nervous. Just don't make her feel bad about it, and eventually, it'll happen.

Q 1: try fingering her just before you have try and have sex but try using 2 or more fingers this shud make it easier and this shud mean it wunt hurt as much for her

Q 2: Try startin reli slowly and then move your fingers reli reli fast whilst their up there that's what my boyfriend does and I love it !

Q 3: if you ent feeling anythink and you think she's doin it wrong try showin her... like while she's doing it grab her hand and speed it up or slow it down to the way yoiu like it then she shud get the gist of things and you shud cum...

For the first question try fingering her first and then let the hand your fingering her with slid you in. If that doesn't work then you should try fingering her with more fingers to widen her. For the second question well sometime more fingers and more movement helps. As for the blow job make the suggestion of her using more tongue but be very careful how you say it. Hope this helps.

Did she have very little sex experience when you met her?
This can explain why she's so tight.
I mean when I first started having sex every penis was big to me.
Even the head alone would be to much for me to take.
Try kissing her all over her body to turn her on.
Then playing with her.
If this doesn't want ask her what she would like to be done.

My boyfriend and I are like that too. He is almost 6 foot and I am 5 foot. he is 8 inches though.

Q1-try laying her on the edge og a bed so that her back is on the edge but her legs are hanging over. you stand next to the bed and kind of lean into it. then pull her towards you.
if she isn't a virgin, you lay on the bed and have her ride you.
Q2- well I don't know what it is called but there is a thing inside the vagina that is like a coneish shape. rub around that.
I like it when my boyfriend uses 2 fingers...i ahve him put them halfway in and hold them in one spot...no in and out or deeper...then I have him kind of bend the second knuckle of both the fingers really fast at the same time so that his fingertips rub the "top wall"...thats the one inside where my stomache is..kinda.
Q3- it is normal...its hard to do. she will get better. I am not good at handjobs...what my boyfriend does is wrap my hand around his penis, wrap his around mine, and move it for me...that way it is my hand doing it but it is how he wants it. When she is giving you a blowjob, tell her not to worry so much about up and down and deepthroating so much as sucking on the tip. Also tell her that the part where the skin of the balls connects to the penis is sensititve and if she doesn't mind, lick it every now and then. every now and then have her play on the sides of it with her lips. if she isn't afraid and you don't mind shaving them, have her suck on your balls. like, really. he says it feels really good. usually one is more sensitive than the other, so have her test it out.

I hope this helps and if it doesnt, I can give you more tips on that stuff so keep me posted.

A1. if yu want it to fit without using lubricant is to have her have a orgasm . this will open her vagina more.
A2. yu have to wait for it a bit . sometimes porn will help. what yu can do is have to fingers in her and move them towards yu like they are walking inside of her . or just move them in and out of her slowly then gradually fast .
A3. it is normal . for guys yu usually would have an orgasm before. if yu don't it means yu are feeling it or not ready. masterbate before yu have sex it will help.

Well I think your questions have been answered, but I'd just like to point out that the length of your **** is irrelevant.

All your question led me to believe, that your young and rushing and not quite sure what to do, so your nervous and your not turned on enough. and there lies your problem

If your not relaxed and comfortable with not only each other but the environment your in enough she and you won't be able to orgasm.

-Deathecutioner

dude just ram it in there, she will loosen up eventually lol

It seems the opposite of what you might think but "doggy style" her bent over on her hands and knees and on the bed and you standing might be a little easier

Here's the scoop;
focus on both of you being RELAXED, go down on her and try to direct as much love as you have in your body to your mouth and enjoy as if you're gonna die tomorrow.
While your mouth is sucking on her hot little box, get a pre-warmed, smaller jelly-type dildo and lube it up. go very softly, slowly and gently and eventually get it in all the way.
While you are still sucking on and eagerly licking her bunny-button, start pulling out and pushing in on the dildo; it may make it easier for her to put her feet on your shoulders while this is going on.
Once she comes, gently pull out and slowly make a transition from jelly-cock to your own thicky.
That should handle questions 1 and 2.
As far as hand jo/blowjhob combo, that is generally how it is done by the best of the best and with LOTS of spit.
You shouldn't push or be rushed or get all f***ing mental over this stuff, just let nature take it's course. Also, communication is key; don't internalize all of this stuff, you should be able to talk to your girl and express concern for her fatigue or your anxiety or whatever it is you feel at that moment.
Dude, you're doing just fine! Congrats, you're doing better than the other 90% out there!

Right 1st thing, forepaly and role play to really get you to turned on... What is your fantasies? ask her to do it! Next be really honest about what turns you on! and asked her what really gets her going!

2nd after the dress up and foreplay, gently take her shoes underwear and what off slower and every time you do this kiss the part of the body, where you are removing these things from..

Then slower lick and caress her legs and inner thighs before you go down on her, just take your time if you have to spend and hour down there just do it, ( I could spend days). This will really get her turned on and wet then, and you will be so horny also, hearing her moan.

3rd after you have pleased her, she will be so horny and turned on a rhino couldn't stop her and she will want to try and give you as much pleasure as you gave her ( trust me its a competition)...

If you are having difficultly in the sex area, BABY OIL, Johnsons, trust me works a charm...

But after what I have told you, the both of you will have great sex and experience..

Coolio

hope this helps

A1: Often times there's not enough natural lubricant to make it slide in. She may actually have to stretch a little. Even with a lot lube, if she's never used vibrators/dildos, it would still be a tight fit. Go slow. Very slow. Unless she has a high tolerance for pain.

A2: Have her help you find where to rub her clit. Contrary to what many guys say, rubbing in circles isn't always best. It's actually more of a side-to-side motion(for some girls anyway.). The inside of the vagina isn't as sensitive as people think. It's made for birth, not pleasure. Communication is key. Ask her if she's ever fingerd herself and to help you.

A3: Life isn't a porn-flick. Unless she's a superstar I doubt she's going to cause you to have an orgasm with oral sex alone considering her experience. It may seem silly, but read about it. (not during sex, that's a mood killer). Tell her where the most sensitive parts are. (Tip, and around the head) and if her jaw hurts, it's because blowjobs are less about tongue and more about the up/down motion from insertion. Not much different from vaginal sex. Warm wet hole + Friction. Sound familiar? She shouldn't worry too much about saliva because that's part of what makes you feel it. Same with with handjobs, lubricant helps.

About the sex lucubration could work. Once you have opened her up I guess a few times it should be easier. Or you could do foreplay before and it will get wet and easy to put in.

About the orgasms. I'll answer both in one paragraph. It takes a while for a girl to orgasm. It takes them about twice maybe three times longer the. A guy. So you gotta work really long and hard at it. About I not having one LOL, it takes my like over and hour sometimes and others 20 min and sometimes really quick. If you guys are new at the relationship and just started going out it's gonna take sometime to learn the "sweet spots" of each
Other. It's all perfectly normal. Good luck bro!

1. I have no idea try getting her wetter and getting condoms with extra lube...also add more fingers when you do finger her to work it out and finger her longer to loosen her up

2.honestly run the clit bro its not hard to find just go from the hole and gradually up until you feel a little bump and rub around in circles she will love it...gets her really wet too...and go to the website pornhub.com and type in the search thing how to make a girl squirt or squirt and go to top rated and find the video of the guy teaching it...excellent video on how to make her orgasm and really does work

3. be forward with her and when ur fingering her gently move her hand across ur stomach down their and she will start doing it if not she just might not be that into that but you never know talk to her about it

1. first make her excited, you can do that by going down on her or fingering her, or both & if she likes it she will get wet this would be somewhat of a personal lubrication but make sure that your penis is lubricated before you put it in. tell her to give you some head before you put it in or just lube will be fine. and make sure you're hard because if not it'll be hard to fit in.

2. take it nice and slow first, go down on her and then finger her use your two middle fingers and the try to rub the top of her vagina. don't force it though because it will hurt her rather than please her. to fully give her an orgasm it takes time, her body must be loose. ie. you guys have to have sex more often so that her vagina prepared for it. just like stretching before a big game.

3.it takes time to get better at that, the head is the most sensitive part of the penis so tell her to focus on that, tell her what you like or feel is good. & tell her not to use her teeth.

You guys are probably nervous about doing stuff for the first time, when I was first starting to do stuff I didn't feel much either, actually the first time I had sex I didn't even orgasm

tell her to like tuck your dick into her cheek because that'll make it feel good for u
as for the orgasm thing be cool, like 63% of girls will never have an orgasm
idk y you aren't getting one from head but just tell her the cheek thing

About Q1: I don't know, that sucks. I hope that's not the way it is for everyone. The girl I like is like 5'2", and I'm 6'0, so that would suck.

About Q 2: Just ask her where it feels the best and then concentrate on that area.

Dude, It sounds like you need a bit of practice.

1. Sounds like she may not be ready. Generally if a girl is aroused her vagina naturally lubricates and distends. Is she getting wet? Try putting her moistness on your cock, or your saliva on her vaginal lips and your cock. OR use lubrication.

2. Watch your girlfriend turn herself on and masturbate and then copy what she does.

3. Have her watch how you turn yourself on and masturbate and have her copy that.

1.) Yes, she is small. it may sound kinky but there are stretching "trainer kits" available.
2.) Aim for her G spot and go down on her at the same time.
3.) The first time I got head the girl had no idea what she was doing. tell your girl to use more tongue and to suck really hard, to make things firm inside her mouth, without dragging teeth.

height s not a factor buddy...watch some porn movies...u will get answer to all questions...www.pichunter.com

Well, you are an average size so there shouldn't be too much of a problem. What might you should maybe do is try to arouse her more first with foreplay. Her vagina will expans and lubricate itself the more aroused it is. You can do this by finding her "hot spots" whether it be her ears or her neck, etc. Also, rubbing the clitoris usually does the trick, and that's very easy to do wihout any entry!

When you finger her, can you fit in two fingers comforably? I think that every woman's vagina is a different size, but they are all meant to expand. Just focus on arousing her more so that you can fit it in. Now if she is a virgin she may have her hymen, which will hurt when you "pop her cherry". As for the G spot, it lies above the pubic bone. So about 4 inches in maybe, then up. When I finger, I tend to curl my fingers in a "come here" like motion, while rubbing her clitoris too, and she loves that and will have many orgasms in no time. By every girl is different.

Personally, I don't like hand jobs too much. But a blow job should have felt amazing! It mimics the moistness and warmth of a vagina. Maybe be open with her and tell her you prefer oral. Don't expect her to let you come in her mouth right away though, some girls don't like that and you need to respect their wishes.

Just keep trying and try those things. You'll do fine and enjoy it all. Be safe, have fun!

Q2: The front wall of the vagina is where you will find one of the most sensitive areas. Try stroking it and putting pressure on just variate your pressure and speed.

Q3: Yes it can be normal if you aren't used to her stimulation, and she has to hit certain spots just right. The more she does it the more you'll be used to it. Let her know what she needs to do to make it better, and it will probably take longer than 5-10 minutes. If you have certain spots that are very sensitive, see if you can help her get on those areas. If you are uncircumcised this can be very hard and take a lot more work on her part.

Sorry but no advice on Q1, I'm nine inches and haven't ever had a problem, she hurts afterward, but I've got it all of the way in. Also you may be hitting the hymen, it will hurt but you are supposed to break it, its natural.

Well dude consider this, just like guys can have different size penises, girls have different size vagina's.

q1) Fortunately for you you are average, unfortunately she is smaller than average. eventually as you guys have sex more (hey you hope so right?) her vagina will relax more and you'll fit in all the way comfortably for you both. She is probably a virgin, take it slow.


q2) shoving your finger in there isn't exactly what you should be doing now, females only have sensation for the first 3-4 inches in the vagina and the pleasurable parts for a lady are basically outside as in: the clitoris and lips surrounding. If I were you I would try pleasing her with your lips and tongue. Most ladies don't like having fingers jammed up there, some do but most don't. I can't imagine a normal female heterosexual woman that wouldn't want her man to "go down on her". Ladies like it just like guys enjoy their woman going down on them.

Q3) the both of you are really inexperienced in sex and love making, but hey we all got to start somewhere. She probably isn't doing it right and you probably aren't telling her what you want because you don't know what you want yet. My suggestion, watch porn. you'll learn the mechanics of sex and learn to enjoy your partner more. You can even make a game out if it, you follow everything they do in the movie. I guarantee, its fun if she agrees.


Oh and on a side note: most woman complain about their guys having an orgasm too soon. Consider yourself blessed you can last a long time. Actually try to develop a habit of not blowing the load too soon, the girls will thank you later.

Good luck and I hope you don't mind my honesty.

I'll give it a try:

[Q1 any tips for me to get it in there besides lubrication.] Size isn't probably the matter
Lubrication is absolutely essential, but natural lubrication is usually enough. Try to obtain it by fingering her or by going down on her (oral) before, during foreplay.

[Q2 fingering and what to do with her G spot and what I can do while I'm fingering her.]
-First finger her: you will find the G-spot more easily when she's aroused.
-Oral works wonders,nearly guaranteed.(unless she has heavy inhibitions of course
-It's very possible she likes a good sucking of her nipples (some-not many- women can get an orgasm that way, without fingering or penetration) Others like a good hand on their booty.

That's up to you to try and explore, up to her to let it know.

[Q3 went into a blow job but I never had an orgasm. Is this normal?]

It often happens indeed, a bj is not magic: you need to be horny and there has to be friction. If a bj is not one of your major fantasies, your brain will not react as much as it does about the real thing down there. Same if you have some negative feelings about "forcing, degrading" a women that way and you have it done by a women you like. In that case having it done by a woman you despise or hate might get out the worst in you and make you come. I don't condone that!


You're in good company, I read 75 % of men don't reach orgasm trough a bj.

1. Always use lube. It prevents condom breakage and makes sex a lot easier. Most women balk at the idea of lube at first but most go on to insist on it's use after they use it a few times. The vagina is only 3-4" long in a normal woman but stretches to accommodate larger men with sexual excitement. It sounds like she need more excitement and more lube.

2. Use lube when fingering. Concentrate more on the clit once you get going. While gspot stimulation is lovely, it doesn't guarantee orgasm, it also doesn't necessarily feel that good until she is already excited. For guidance, ask her to masturbate for you. Learn how she does it and how she likes it from the foremost authority

3. Hand jobs take as long as they do. "How to be a great lover" by Lou Paget is an excellent resource.

Q1. Try her on top and let her run the show.

Q2. How does she usually orgasm on her own? Do that.

Q3. She probably gives bad blowjobs, given that you didn't feel much. Bad idea to let her keep going, though. Learn to give instruction.

A1: no matter what, you can fit into her only if she opens up, therefore foreplay! and lots of it and try to take her mind off of penetration because she can close up while expecting you to enter...so the first time go missionary and blindly try to enter while you are kissing her neck or something...

A2: Fingering is not the best way to reach orgasm if she does not know what she's looking for in terms of pleasure, go for the clit or use both.

A3: Make sure she concentrates only on ur head of junk while giving you a Bj...Bj first and then a Hj if you want an orgasm...Its very hard to orgasm with a Bj because there is not enough friction...

And don't take tips from porn please!...
best of luck

She is obviously young and inexperienced. Girls can often take years to achieve orgasm. Its all to do with age and the level of there sexual development.
Q1 Patience, lots of slow finger stimulation. Example, one finger, then 2 etc

Q2 Women will only acheieve there first orgasm at the right time for there right needs. There is no predicting when it will happen and to be honest it might not happen with you.

Q3 INEXPERIENCE. Girls either have a natural instinct or they are repulsed or they learn over time.
It sounds like she is very young and inexperieced. his can be quite an ordeal for her.