How do I go about making any kind of move without scaring him off or getting rejected?

I was my current boyfriend's first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything. If you don't mind being forward, and he's into you, make the first move. Don't be all over him instantly or anything, but he will definitely need some prodding to get out of his comfort zone. He probably has latent fears of being a terrible kisser/lover, so he might never make a move on you at all.

With my b/f I cuddled up next to him while listening to some music and after a little bit of time told him I wanted to kiss him. He was nervous at first, but after a few preparatory kisses on his cheek and neck, we kissed and it was the greatest. :) Now he's the dominant party in our relationship and likes experimenting more than me!

Chances are it won't scare him off . Just be gentle about it to make sure .
I guarantee you it will be a relief to him that you are making the first move, because he probably finds it awkward to do it himself .

Go slow... at 30, he's one of three things.

1. The sweetest, gentlest Christian man you'll ever meet. True Blue.
2. A slightly weird guy, not a loss. Just needs a little polish. Maybe kinda a Sci Fi type
3. A complicated man, with a lot of issues. At 30, if he's never had a girlfriend...? Hmmmmm

Without more knowledge, I can't do better. I am really hoping your guy is a #1. (And some guys really are). Don't overlook the #2, I was one of these. It's the 3rd kind you wanna be careful of... you know?

Take the relationship slow and when you think he's ready, take it to the next level. Just don't push it all on him right away or you might actually scare him off, as sad as that sounds.

If he is a virgin at that age, maybe is because he doesn't know what moves to do to get a kiss, or have sex... I would be concerned that if you haven't kissed him, then again he might be thinking---well, no chance here either. If you're dating him, and he told you he is a virgin, then why not innocently say---so are you going to kiss me, or do I have to give you lessons? At least you will know where you stand and you don't have to worry about him getting scared as you're giving him the chance to make a move, and if he is too shy to do it, then you will do it. I wouldn't wait on him to be ready cause if you go by that, then you might be waiting another 30 years. Matter of fact, he could be ready right now, but how do you know he is or he is not? :)

I love it. Watch the movie.. You know the one. Take it slow with this guy. Let him make the first move. Maybe you could suggest a kiss? Just bring it up to him?

Your post reminded of this movie: 40 year old virgin :) the story is kinda the same :p Wait until he is ready. And make him understand that he shouldn't feel bad about being a virgin and that it's alright and you are ok with him being virgin.