Why doesn't My boyfriend Have Sex with me like he used to?

How much have you been eating?

As you've probably discovered, pregnancy and childbirth can wreak havoc on your appearance. Since you had the child out of wedlock, your boyfriend is not obligated by law to stick around. Perhaps his commitment to you was based on appearance, and now that it has changed, he's not as attracted.

It's superficial, but looks may be important to him. If this is the case and you want to keep him around, you might consider getting yourself into the best possible shape by eating well and exercising, if you aren't already doing so.

Adding a child into a relationship changes the dynamics dramatically. Now all of a sudden there is this new person. A new sense of responsibility. Two people raised 2 completely different ways. all the issues that go along with it. I have 3 children and somehow it just changes things. You might think you're the same, but without even realizing it, you are different. The relationship is different. Freedom is replaced with obligation. Your affections toward each other have now been divided. Men see how much the mother loves the child and they experience a sense of loss at first. They don't have all the attention anymore, and that takes getting used to, even though it seems selfish.
It can be exciting again, but what used to come easy, now takes work and planning. The best resource I would offer is "Laugh your way to a better marriage" Mark Gungor. Even if you aren't married. It's worth it to learn to grow together instead of apart. He gives practical advise to rekindle the romance. It happens to all of us.

You are in a new category now. You are the Mother of his child. There is more respect now. Hate to put it this way, but he isn't going to flip you around, and go nuts. He wants to love you and take care of you. I was married and had a baby, she is turning 20 on Wednesday. But for a long time, I mean a long time after she was born, he would hardly touch me. He finally told me, he was in love with me and he could not do the things he use to because I was the Mother of his baby. It does make a difference. Don't worry. Just be happy and love him.

I wouldn't take it the way I think you you are taking it. At first, it was just you and him. And of course, sex was new, so why not have it all the time. It sounds as if he had matured and realizes that there is more than just sex. You both brought to life a child! A very remarkable thing. Your boyfriend could be exhausted or even scared. Sit down and talk to him about it.