OK, my boyfriend and I like to have anal sex on a regular basis. At least two times a week, sometimes much more. Sometimes more than once in one night. Sometimes roughly, other times really gently, depending on our moods. We both love it. But I've heard it's bad for you.. something about how doing a lot of it can make the anal wall, or whatever, break, and so it all becomes one big hole? I don't know if that's true but I am curious anyway if there's anything unsafe about it...
He and I have both been tested and we're both clean so STD's are not a problem. Generally, he uses condoms, anyway.
I used to work in the medical field, so I do have an idea what I'm saying.... Normally doctors will tell you that if you're having gentle, with excellent lubrication, anal sex shouldn't be a problem; of course, also if you don't have any stds.
However, rough anal sex could be a problem, and that's because the rough thrusting that could happen during anal sex, can tear the mucous membrane down in the rectum, and that's because the membrane there is more delicate than that of the vagina.
So if you rupture that membrane, then this can develop into an anal abscess that can become infected. There is also the possibility of fissures developing, and those are like cracks in the rectum, and well, those can be nasty, and could require surgery to repair; and trust me, the healing process is very painful. So keep it gentle and lubricated!!!
Also, the elasticity back there can run out, leaving part of it to hang down. I hear this is called "pink sock" but I could be wrong about this, although I've seen it on some women. - 3 months ago
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Hmmmmm....that's a hemorrhoid if it's hanging down like that..... ;) - 3 months ago
If he uses condoms it's not gonna cause him any problems, But it's not that good for your health. it's your Gut anyway, I mean it's not created for that kind of uses. I've heard that some believe it dilates the Anus, Which to be honest is not good at all.
1) What if he thinks my butt hole is too small? 2) What should I expect going into it? 3) Will he enjoy it? 4) I know to poop and probably shower...
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