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My boyfriend prefers anal sex, and I like vaginal more.. what to do?

He likes a lot anal sex, and wants to have it often . I don't mind it, but honestly I prefer vaginal a lot more.. I feel it better, the sensation is much more better for me. And for anal sex I have to prepare.. you know what I mean , how to tell him that I would like it not so often? and not make him disappointed? And also he likes to finish in my butt, it's not so great feeling like when he does in my vagina.
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the worst is that he thinks that I also like anal more .. he said his ex girlfriend liked it more, and I feel if I tell him" sorry but I don't feel a lot while anal , and I prefer vaginal" - he will be disappointed.
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  • well, there are three options here, two are equally viable and the third is a little far-fetched, but possibly doable:

    1) indulgence. Basically, just let him have his fill. If you enjoy it, fine. If you don't enjoy it (as long as it isn't hurting you) then don't pretend to enjoy it - be visibly bored. It will take a while, but eventually, the charm of anal sex will wear down and he'll want it less.

    2) tell him no. This will cause a minor outrage, of course, but again - it will take a while, but eventually, he will get used to it.

    3) ask for more sex in general. If you initiate vaginal/oral sex a lot more often (say thrice daily), you will push his sex drive to its limits and he won't have the stamina to participate in anal sex. But that is not the goal. The goal is for you to get all of the vaginal sex you want, and any excess sex drive he may have after YOU are satisfied can then be directed to only anal sex. If you strike this deal with him, he will probably agree, but the drawback is that when you are sexually exhausted and he is wanting sex, you must request that he gives you anal sex as a way to show him that you are exhausted (if you are not exhausted then he shouldn't be asking for sex - you should). However, he may also be exhausted and only asking for anal because that's what he wants in his mind. If he has reached the limits of his sex drive and is trying to have anal sex with you, it is going to take him a looong time to finish. This will probably please him, but may get a little uncomfortable for you.

  • Many women are surprised to find out just how important their anus is to many men for long-term relationships and love making. There are MANY ways to make it better for you. First, you may still be clenching off a bit. If UR uptight -- and not breathing deep -- and clenching your butt hole so it looks like this * instead of pushing out to let him in so butt hole looks like this O -- it is hard for it to feel good. You can rub the front while he is in back and/or buy a vibrator. You SHOULD be cumming every time with anal. You can also change angle of entry and positions. With one girl I came down from above this angle / -- so much better for her than this one ---- (regular doggy). So just because anal is this way for you now does not mean it has to stay this way. What about a bubble bath first -- then a massage? You make it a process -- not an all of a sudden thing. If you both really try to increase your pleasure -- and it still does not work out -- then draw the line. But I have never heard of a woman not cumming hard with anal IF their man is as committed to her pleasure as his own. There are even lots of ways having him finish in your butt can be made nicer. Again, if you are clenching and not allowing his come deep, it does not feel as good. Again, if you push out as he cums, it goes in deeper and stays longer -- gives you more control over when it comes out and feels nicer too. Do a little research. There is plenty of info out there. www.puckerup.com anal advisor. good luck

    • Absolutely. Most men who have tried anal sex prefer it to vaginal, and in such a long term relationship the anus will take precedence. This isn't a bad thing, as noted above, with a considerate man who knows what he's doing the woman will generally cum hard during the love-making.

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  • Have anal sex when you're on your period. Problem solved.

    Periods last for how long? 4-5 days for most girls.. However long it lasts for you, that's his time to get some anal sex in there. Let him be the best ass eater.

  • Of course you do , He's trying to please him more than he pleases you . Major problem for me. Most women don't even have feelings having anal sex. Focus on the vagina .

    • Not true actually I think anal feels pretty damn awesome. There are some pretty sensitive spots in there and when the penis hits that area it's amazing. I like both ways. It's just fun to change it up once and awhile.

    • That makes no sense at all. Why focus on the vagina? She's already said he prefers anal, so how does it help them both by just trying to please here? Everything that she said could be said by him and be equally valid. Lot's of girls like anal, and it's a fact that the anus is more richly endowed with nerves than the vagina. You're thinking of the clitoris, and nobody is saying he should ignore that. Surely as a compromise, and for a balanced relationship they should have both. Alternate or something (obviously not the same time they have sex). In time, as a women does more anal she finds it more comfortable and pleasurable.

    • What I stated makes a lot of sense , First of all how can a man say that a woman feel more anal than she does in the vagina. First of all sex wasn't meant to be given anally , That's man who experimented with that. But if people want to try it , To each their own. But as a woman , I was simply agreeing with the asker. She said she prefer vaginally sex more , And she should tell him , If they want to experiment anally sometimes than fine. But she has every right to tell him how she likes it , When you said he told you his ex preferred it like that more. He could be lying , Just to get his needs met.

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  • Who cares what he thinks, Relationship is about compromise . You have to be please too.

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  • It's your body. You have just as much a claim to satisfaction during sex as he does. If you don't want it any particular time then don't do it. Just tell him that you don't want it and that vaginal sex is all he is getting. If he has a legitimate problem with it you should probably reconsider your relationship.

  • Tell him you prefer your vagina but are happy to do anal like 1/4-1/3 of the time. They're your holes - take some control over what gets put in them.

  • He won't be dissappointed, it just sounds like he is in experienced and thinks girls like this a lot, you need to be honest and tell him, not all girls are big on anal, actually most girls don't like it,x

  • just inform him that it is making you sore and your going to need a little break from it. If he respects you the way he should then he shouldn't mind, but guys who like anal more than often, have a bi curious streak in them, so be prepared,x

  • your a good girl (hodgetwins voice)

  • tell him you are not constipated and do not like a penile enema!

  • it sure feels better vaginally, but he must be liking it anally. Make it known to him.

  • Just tell him how you feel if he respect you he will under stand just tell him that will do that only as a special treat once in a wile

  • For me, anal sex is disgusting. The vagina is the right place for the penis. I do not understand how someone does not like such exciting place like a vagina.

    • Because the anus feels better and provides more stimulation to the penis. Try before you judge.

    • You do not need a woman for anal sex.

  • Real men love p****. Educate him about prolapse, incontinence, pink sock, rectal cancer etc. by any chance is he cut?

    • Does being cut change anything? (Not to be rude just curious because I’m experiencing some craziness with an uncut male)

    • @Theramblerz maybe slightly. Less feeling in your dick when you're cut so kinda more likely to need it

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