I am 29 years old and have only been with 4 people my entire life... If this number seems low it's because I was in committed relationships each time... 2X marriage. I am honest with my numbers and I am wondering if other people will be honest with their numbers too. It seems that everyone around my age has numbers higher than mine. Am I weird... or is this normal?
Update: Been with is sex... in my point of view.
11 months ago
I think the people who's numbers are too high get judged harsher... Such as one female friend of mine admitted to triple digits... I find it easier to respect the guy with 0 than the girl or guy with 200. - 11 months ago
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Yeah. But people who have had a lot of sexual partners tend to brag. I saw an ad on the internet just last week that described how a 'shy 20 year old kid went on to sleep with over 173 women'. And I think the author of this article is full of sh*t. - 11 months ago
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I tend to believe this girl... she brags about it... but everyone looks down on her. She is and use to be a stripper... has has 7 kids by 5 different guys... and her ex did porn... since I have known her she has seen half of my hubby's male friends and leaves the bar with a different man every time. - 11 months ago
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Ouch. People that brag about the number they sleep with, I can't stand. For a woman, it's one thing, but for a man, I think it's different. It isn't anywhere remotely right. - 11 months ago
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Ouch is more like how people view her... my friends don't trust her around their boyfriends or husbands... people call to see if she will be there so they won't show up... It's bad... but she won't see that. - 11 months ago
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Do you think it's more of an ego-trip bragging about such a thing? - 11 months ago
well, that's a bit off to me, because I had a Girlfriend of a year and we did all sorts of depraved sexual things without actually sticking the dick in the vagina. I count that as being more sexual than the one-night stand I had that I can barely remember, for example.
Understandable... but all of my relationships were long term and were sexual. I went from long term relationship to long term relationship with nothing in between. Actually I was thinking of taking a break and just dating when I met my husband. - 11 months ago
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You know, we're in the same age group. when I was younger, I was always upset about not being with "the one." I'm still single, and I'm SO GLAD I've had these years to hook up with many girls and just not care a lot of the time. That's ME, though---YMMV. I've "been with" about 15 girls, and had I been with "the one," I'd be craving casual dating, esp being so young. Again, that's just me! I'm glad you've found the one. - 11 months ago
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I'm glad too... I know others that aren't as lucky... - 11 months ago
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Zero. I don't know, I'm a guy, pretty good looking and charming and all that. I feel like if I don't use it I'll lose it. I mean I'm coming off my sexual peak, who wants to be with an old inexperienced guy?
But in your case who cares? Some people who get married then get divorced later on only have had one their entire lives. Sex with multiple different people is a bit overrated. No one asks how many people have you made out with? I got friends who bag anyone they can, I don't know...
I know it's not a huge deal... but also it makes me wonder. My husband didn't lose his virginity until he was 17, I was much younger... but he has been with 7 people before me. My friends look up to me because they have all hit double digits. - 11 months ago
Wait til you pass 25. Trust me... as a man, it gets better when you get older. - 11 months ago
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I'm almost at 30... and my husband is 6 years older than me... - 11 months ago
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Dude I got to get the plastic wrap off. I hope the pencil still has lead in it because I'm feeling pretty dynamite now. No ED? - 11 months ago
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Some people wait... and it means more to them when they do it... I seen my past as a learning experience up till my husband. But the fact that I can name every one of them... and the fact that 3 out of the 4 try to keep in contact with me one way or another... is kinda odd. - 11 months ago
well, define "been with." Sexual intercourse, making out, oral sex, getting to play with the boobies, masturbating each other...?
for example, last summer I brought a girl home and we made out. I got her boobs out and had a little fun with them, she (very briefly) played with my penis, and then we passed out. Does she count?
I'm 20. Been with 3 guys. First two were not ideal (too young maybe) but I don't regret any of it. Learning experiences. I was settled down with the 3rd and we had a great time (with lots of sex!) over 2 years.
One night stands are always regretted... I've never had one... but I wish that I would have done that instead of hooking up with some ex's. - 11 months ago
2 is perfectly fine with me, I've never been promiscuous when it comes to sex. Sex is a very sacred thing to me, so everything else just seems natural.
In terms of "other things", it's probably been around 12, including the two.
Same with me... I saw it as something special for a special person... and I was happy that for the longest time I was still close friends with all of my ex's. - 11 months ago
I'm going to be 25 in less than 2 months and currently I'm at # 7. I was a bit wilder in the past and didn't care as much. Now that I'm getting older I don't like being used which is why its been 11 months since I've had sex. It's just time to be respected for once and actually cared about as a WHOLE not a HOLE!
That is what they make toys for... And yes... respect is very important. - 11 months ago
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Lol yea I don't like toys...too much work and nothing like the real thing! - 11 months ago
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A lot less drama than a hookup though. - 11 months ago
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True, I'm just tired of bs with guys period. If I can keep holding off I will...if not lol ugh I guess I'll just add to the #....but so far so good, even though I feel like I'm at a breaking point! - 11 months ago
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I am 22 and I have been with zero people, and I know there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. I know people older than me who have been with zero partners and people several years younger with alarmingly high numbers. Point being, I don't live my life comparing myself to others and feeling inadequate if I don't "measure up." There is nothing wrong with you.
It's not that I feel I don't measure up... because the guys I have been with have all told me how good it was... it's just I know that word got around about it and I was often hit on by boyfriends friends or brothers... and always shot them down. I know my numbers could have been much higher... but I prefer to keep them low. - 11 months ago
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