How do you get your guy to try new things sexually without offending him?

I'm going to assume you're a little shy, so "tell him your fantasies" or "ask him to try something" are great suggestions, but maybe a little beyond your comfort level. And if he's not open-minded about sex, I think you are looking for delicate ways to approach this topic perhaps.

1. Tell him you had this dream (yes, this is a white lie). Then insert your little kink/fantasy into your retelling of the "dream. " You don't need to push him into a corner "I WANT that; why don't you? What's wrong with you? " Rather, just smile, act like you liked the dream, see what his reaction is. Therefore, if he's all disgusted, you can cover without too much embarrassment, because, hey, we all have crazy dreams, even if we don't actually want to do what was in the dream, right?

2. Ask him what kinds of things HE likes the most, what HE wants to try, if HE ever has read a book, or a scene in a movie, or whatever. Then run with that for a while. You can expand on that fertile ground once you get there, but he can't get too negative about HIS little desires now, can he? He's always wanted you to wear black lingerie? Great. Get some. Wear it a few times. Then get a kinkier black thing without telling him and surprise him. Then graduate to leather. Then introduce the cuffs. Most guys without hang ups will get as just about as kinky as you want them to be.

3. Realize that if he's just against something, you're not helping to pressure him. Try to learn what "variety" he can handle and what he just can't handle. And respect that. (If he's truly not sexually compatible with you, then deal with it as a relationship problem of BOTH of you, not just HIS problem).

Meaning NO two people want exactly the same "variety. " Couples indulge each other to a point and make little "sacrifices" to make sure the other has fun in bed. If you're close enough in taste, you're satisfied. If you're super close in kinkiness, maybe no sacrificing necessary. If he has serious hang ups, and your seriously crave something, figure it out before its too late because it isn't going away by itself. If you "need" group sex and he "hates" group sex, well, somethings got to give or you two need some understanding so he's not disgusted with you while you're not missing out on your orgies so much that you resent him.

But, if he doesn't like putting peanut butter on your toes, but you think it would be fun, you guys could probably work through that pretty quickly. "Okay, forget the toes. Where would you like the peanut butter? Oh, don't like peanut butter at all? How about whipped cream? Right here? Works for me! " Problem solved! (This assumes you don't NEED peanut butter on your toes to be happy, you just want to try a little food play. )

Ask him and or tell him about your fantasies. Ask him if he had any and then tell him you would like to act on your fantasy or his. Or take control and tell him you would like to try this out.

Just ask him to try something new. But you have to try something new to. If he gets offended just tell him you want something new in your sex life if he doesn't want to. Then tell him he needs help.

Well I would say to ask him if there is anything he has wanted to try that he is afraid to ask. Every person has a fantasy or fetish they are embarrassed about so tell him yours and ask him his! Then he should open up to you and make things spice up a bit in your sex life!