Guy made me deepthroat after first date?

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so I dated this guy for the first time and he seemed really nice. He was really being a gentleman and paying for everything, asked questions about whatI like and stuff. He offered a lift to my place and I let him in so I could give him a blowjob to thank him for the evening  (I always do this if a first date goes well, and no I am not a slut, just not prude). At a certain point he grabbed my hair and started... well... making me deepthroat. And he was thrusting pretty hard. I worked on my gag reflexes so it didn't go wrong or anything, but I thought that's a little over the top for a first date. Especially for a guy who acted like a gentleman the whole evening. He said he really enjoyed it and I didn't get mad afterward, but I am not thinking about dating him again cause of this. What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever experienced this?ps: It's not that I hate deepthroating. It's just weird if a guy makes you do it on a first date without asking.

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

Different guys get off different ways. He likes to be in control, and felt comfortable with you.

Why should he have to ask? You could have pulled up for air and let it be known that made you feel uncomfortable.

If you waited a while to be sexual intimate maybe you would have had this discussion with him already (and knew where each other stood sexually).

If he treated you like a lady the entire night, I don't think you should let this be the reason you don't see him that way. Have a proper discussion, about what you like or dislike sexually and move forward from there.

Also, your first date "gift" that you give if a date goes well , could have someone that is a perfect gentlemen like himself lose respect for you. Because many decent guys will create a new picture of you. "Does she often do this?" , "maybe she's easy", "if I got this far already, maybe I will bang on the second" etc. I'm not saying his outlook may change, but if it does do not be surprised.

CrystalMinds · Accepted Answer

Imagine this: you're going on a date with a guy, things go well, you invite him in and want to give him a blowjob, he is a bit reluctant because he's not used to it after a first date, things it's a bit too much and doesn't think about dating you again.

To me, it seems a bit the same. It's not because someone is a gentleman outdoor that he can't be a bit sexually "aggressive" (not aggressive but you know what I mean) in (or out) the bedroom. I wouldn't write him off because of that, just let him know next time that you thougt it was a bit weird, or if you invite him over again and you feel he'll do it again, tell him how you felt about it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say a blowjob is over the top for a first date, so I don't see deepthroating as being any worse, it's no different. That's just part of it.

You started it, he was just finishing it.

Not dating him again for simply reciprocating your enthusiasm is pretty hypocritical. I'd put that in the same category as those guys who sleep with women and then dump them for being too easy.

You like the guy, you liked him enough to blow him after a first date. I don't see why you'd want to stop seeing him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you ask me, you brung this on yourself. You gave him a blowjob to say thank you for a first date. Maybe that was too much. I'm not saying you're a slut, just that maybe a kiss, even a make out session, would have been enough after a first date. You gave him oral sex so he acted on it. You gave him a blow job and he took advantage of it. You gave him the opportunity to take your offer even further.

My thoughts are...you shouldn't be shocked by this. You started something and he finished it, that's all. And it shouldn't be a reason to stop seeing him.

Shpongolia · Accepted Answer

It was pretty inconsiderate of him to do that. Especially for being the first blow job you ever gave him. If you still like him and want to go down on him again you could request beforehand for him not to do that. Everyone has different sexual routine preferences; some people like certain things that others do not.

tinyclit · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with throating. If you can do it then you should do it and good for you. What I don't understand is why you were having sex on the first date at all.

KingJR · Answer

Sounds like a guy with little real world experience, and mucho p*rno experience...

stubbsy · Answer

Its pretty weird for a girl to say thanks with a blow job as well lol, but there's a chance he thought, "well this ones game, a bit of an easy lay" hence the reason why he showed you little respect during the ordeal. Next time maybe a kiss would be suffice lol,x

Actress78 · Answer

Wow, a little slut.  I can't imagine any guy of worth would date you seriously. This is what is called non girlfriend material.

HughR · Answer

He might have been inexperienced or a bit on the sado side of BDSM or you might have given him a strong vibe that you like that treatment. After all, your teeth are around him and you can always grab his balls and twist if it's a problem, so I figure that maybe it wasn't the horrible experience you're pretending it to be.

Now, freaky is when a woman asks you to tie her up at the end of a blind date.

lauramor · Answer

Well I think that you might have given him the chance to do that as you did give him a bj but you can't really blame him if you didn't make an effort to tell him you didn't like that. But you are the one that is going to date him so if you don't feel comfortable then don't talk t him

cavmanier · Answer

Really? I've never heard of this. Girls almost have special powers when it comes to initiating sex lol.

unighted · Answer

You shouldn't be deepthroating in the first date girl

abundantlyrich · Answer

He sounds passive aggressive lol. May I ask what is his age?

douride2 · Answer

A blowjob on the first date your kidding right? That was over the top.

SIR_LICKS_ALOTT · Answer

WELL DAMN! , CAN I HAVE A DATE?

Applenuts · Answer

Should of just gave him a ball squeeze. I bet he would of slowed down.

SaltandVinegar · Answer

I think he just got excited in the moment, if you were not comfortable you should let him know.

jmmmfi · Answer

Yeah not slutty at all

kaylahhQtina · Answer

Hm i think you overreacted  I think that that was just him finding you really attractive and he couldnt resist/hold back. Id take it as a compliment actually

beercanhotshot · Answer

"He offered a lift to my place and I let him in so I could give him a blowjob to thank him for the evening (I always do this if a first date goes well, and no I am not a slut, just not prude)."

Yeah, I guess you're only a slut if you swallow.

Sheesh.

Anonymous · Answer

he must be a pervert to do at first date, especially without asking.. i would never make u deepthroat my dick without asking, even if it was 100. date :)

Anonymous · Answer

So where did you take his load then? Mouth or face?

Anonymous · Answer

So what happened? did you wind up going out with him again? if so... how did it turn out?

Anonymous · Answer

So was it a forcible blowjob, like a good night kiss but instead did this guy just out suddenly pulled down his pants and made you blow him

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