Is this what he really wants? Just to watch? I can't imagine how that could be so great if he is not going to get off himself. Let me know how you guys feel about this!
Update: Ya know, I am kinda disappointed, cause I really got into this relationship for keeps and it kinda hurts my feelings that he wants to bring another woman into our relationship. Can't help but thinking that maybe I'm not making him happy by myself?
6 months ago
Even if it is just to watch, that's not what a real relationship has. That's more like voyerism. Make sure he's a real boyfriend before it goes much further.
Lordy Lordy. I should have read the question again before I posted. I thought he wanted another MAN to throw you the bone. My first post still applies regarding ground rules and drugs/alcohol though. The difference now regarding the sex of the other partner changes my answer. First and foremost, are you or have you ever been attracted to women? If yes, then by all means, explore your own desires. It would be up to you to decide if your boyfriend can join in or not. If not, then your boyfriend needs to respect that and quit asking about it.
Do you or your boyfriend have a particular person in mind or would it be someone unknown to the both of you? If he has someone in mind already, then there is definitely the possibility that he wants to be intimate with her (. "bring another woman into our relationship. "). If he does not, I doubt he wants another woman, he just wants to get off on seeing/being with two women, which is a very common fantasy for men. For some women too! If that is the case, I doubt you are not "making him happy" by yourself. You two seem comfortable enough in your relationship that he could even bring up the subject, and I guess you didn't immediately tell him no since you came here for advice, so you at least pondered the thought. Again, if either of you have any doubts whatsoever, I advise not to go through with it. I would also suggest that if you do decide to give it a try, go with a professional (out-call/escort) first. They have no emotional ties to any of it.
Watching two women is fun to a man. Don't be surprised if he tries to join in on the party. A man's wet dream is multiple women at once, meaning woman-man-woman or 12 women-one man(my ultimate wish). What men are not so keen on is watching their woman get it on with another guy. I hear this happens a lot but never had the guts to try this simply out of fear the man will get jealous and. Well. Things go downhill from there.
Your situation is very common actually. I see this happen in several swingers sites all the time, particularly amongst couples in our age group
He will get off. Might even want to jump in at some point too. Gotta get the ground rules straight before you get too far into it. Get the ground rules set and make sure everyone sticks to it, or your boyfriend might get popped in the chopper if the other guy gets pissed if he jumps into the fray. It is risky to put that kind of dimension into a relationship, so if your relationship is not 100% solid to start with, it might jeopardize the whole thing. Stay away from alcohol/drugs so that cannot be blamed for something going wrong and potentially escalating a bad situation to worse if things go wrong. Otherwise, have fun. Re-post when it's over and let us know how it went. I for one am curious.
If he's watching, he's going to be "getting off" at the very least if not trying to participate. I've been there and it was fun but, the fantasy was better than the reality and it destroyed our relationship
He probably feels self-conscience and wants you to be better satisfied or. He just wants to watch. There are a lot of different fetishes you never know.
Honest truth he just wants you to do it so that you can entertain him and I don't think that a very good idea that is not a way to show you that he loves you am sorry but that the honest truth
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