My guy wants to have threesome with his ex....

This is old but I'm hoping that you never consented to the threesome. A guy that ask for that with his ex is a total loser. He's putting her and him first and you second. No guy in a relationship with a girl he loves would EVER ask for a threesome with another girl, let alone his ex. There's a slight chance that his main interest is introducing you to another girl and seeing how you respond to another girl and like hoping it'd work out good because he likes girl on girl stuff. A lot of guys are turned on by that and a lot of girls like it too. I noticed in one other question you recently asked that you haven't seen him in 6 weeks so I hope it isn't because of this that he's being a jerk right now. Good luck!

Well it sounds like your really trying. A threesome is not automatically a bad idea, it can fun if both partners are open to it. It seems like the kind of idea someone in a relationship can suggest for consideration. But with you and his ex that's screwed up that's beyond stupid, it sounds like he must play you like a yoyo and has asked for ridiculous things from you before and gotten them. Tell him don't let the door hit you on the butt on the way. Also try lets have a threesome with me you and my ex boyfriend you can take turns with me and even do some gay stuff with each other, see how he likes that idea lol. I suppose you'll be getting a phone call in a few months asking if you "the ex" wanna do it with him and his new girlfriend. Was he really drunk or high when he asked, if so he will probably awaken from his stupor and say I don't even remember what I was talking about that's my hope

Im just gonna be real with you...WTF?

Your man has to be the dumbest mofo to even ask you that. Common sense guarantees that you will say no and get mad. But then again, there's not much common sense in many people these days.

Instead of telling us how much you love the guy, maybe you should be asking us if he loves you as much as you love him. I gotta agree with everyone here who said that's straight up disrespectful and even insulting. And you said he'ss disappointed you said no? hahahahahaha I'm sorry but this is a clown fest

If you're not gonna dump him for sh*t like that, you need to have a serious convo with him trying to figure out if he still might wanna f*k his ex, or he's just a straight up retard with bricks in his brain. Then go from there.

Go for it, unless you are a virgin, then dump him and find other dude.

I find it odd that pretty much everyone is saying that a threesome is disrespectful. Since when is sexual experimentation a BAD thing? I can understand not wanting to do it with his ex, but the threesome itself isn't disrespectful imho. Furthermore, it sounds like he accepted her refusal and refused the offer of a threesome without her - he wanted to experience it WITH her. He made it clear that he wasn't going to leave her if she refused, and he stated he was satisfied by her. He was just curious about having a threesome -- a common enough thing.

Again, the ex was a bad idea, but she was probably the only one he knew that might do it. The title line of your question masks his true intent - he wanted to have a threesome with YOU. I'm not saying that you should agree to it, or that you're wrong in refusing, but I do think your mentality is off. I don't imagine you'll agree with anything I'm saying, based on your complete aversion/disgust towards certain sex acts, but that's how I see it.

Hm, one more thing. If you were a masochist, but he wasn't into that sort o' thing, should he break up with you simply because you have an interest he doesn't share? Of course not! You work around it, accepting the boundaries of your partner. As long as he doesn't act on his desire against your wishes, don't punish him for something as common as sexual curiosity.

he does he just wants to exp. it
he still loves you tho so just relax and don't do and e thing
ur not comfortable with doing
and I don't think you refusing him will drive him away at all
just relax and stop over analyzing
=)

That is insane. first he knew you weren't interested in that. then he wants to include his ex! wtf? find someone who respects you

Of course you're enough. But your man wants a threesome, and it seems like he's ready to go get one.

Your best chance, I think, is to let that offer stand with him, his ex, and a third; that way, he gets a threesome without dumping you.

ask his this "CAN WE HAVE A 3SUM WITH YOU AND MY EX"

and see what that loser gonna say?!



i hate guys like that... ass holes.

hell gurl I just think its curiosity that kills the cat...hes just curious...but it doesn't sound like you not enough...if he truly loves you he will make sacrifices ...believe me he will...dont get discouraged...and maybe just as a little tip...maybe you could spice things up..ya kno? try new things..make it an adventure for him...that way his appetite is wetted and he wants more of u...and his curiosity will turn towards u...its all about imagination

it's disrespectful for me, I honestly would consider dumping a guy if he said that

If your not down with it, then don't do it. If your in a serious committed relationship you he shouldn't even be considering this. I would dump him honestly, and move on.

Your boyfriend needs a good smack upside the back of his head. How DARE he try to pressure you into something that you don't want to do. Even more, how DARE he want to have a threesome with you, his current girl, and then his ex-girlfriend. This is just a problem WAITING to happen. Okay, we all know that guys are just SEXUAL creatures, but really...this is too much right here. He needs to respect your feelings about threesomes and excommunicate himself from this ex of his. Apparently he MUST feel some type of connection with her still if he's interested...no..."CURIOUS" about having a threesome with her. This situation is just sickening to me. Why isn't the sex with the two of you guys enough for him? Why must he try to insert a third party? Tell him to tune into porn or something to wank himself off if that's what he needs...

I would be gone. That was really disrespectful to ask when he knows you're not like that, and even moreso that he asked to do it with his ex. Yeah, he probably does love you. But he is disrespectful. And you offering to let him do it with two other girls was nice of you, and if you're cool with it great. But really, how degrading is that? The reason you don't want to do a threesome is because you don't want to share your man. So instead you share him with two? It sounds like he has too much control over you and you shouldn't go so far to please him. You need to have expectations in the relationship also and it can't just be all about him. It is good that he said no. But I think you need to take a good look at yourself and the relationship. You shouldn't be agreeing to things like that. I can tell it makes you sad. And it's unhealthy.

a threesome can be upsetting enough to hear from your significant other, but when he wants to do it with his ex, that's a major slap in the face , that is not okay, no matter how sweet he sounded when he asked, TOTALLY DISRESPECTFUL I would probably leave my boyfriend for even asking such a thing

It depends on how serious committed your relationship is. This is the second worse thing to cheating, he's including you and asking your permission at the same time, so that if you did say yes he would feel less guilt. What makes it worse is that he has asked to sleep with his ex. Ex's are ex's for a reason, he obviously has physical attraction for her still, and possibly emotional. I would really discuss this with him in a calm civil way. Tell him how you felt when he asked and how you feel now. If he is truly deeply concerned that he has hurt you then I wouldn't worry too much. I wouldn't worry about ruining the relationship. If it wasn't meant to be and he seems to think sleeping with other women is a must then you should dump him anyway. So talk with him about it and put him in your shoes if you must to get your point across. How would he feel if you asked for him to sleep with another guy and you, your ex to be exact? I'm sure he wouldn't be too keen on the idea.