Wanting more from a friend with benefits?

To simply answer your question. Having sex does not equal being in love. Having sex might equal being in love with your vagina. If you haven't figured that out by now, then you got a lot of maturing to do. The few times I got involved with the friend with benefits situation, the girl ended up wanting more. I didn't want more, I just wanted sex from her, and if anything, why would I lower my standards and be with a girl that just wants sex? So yea, double standard but as you can see, most of the times, guys see these girls as a piece of meat, and they are not interested in getting to know you for who you are, cause maybe all you got to offer is sex. Sometimes guys do get attached but a lot more guys, just stick around for the sex.
The bad news is that if you base a relationship on sex, it is not going to last long.

You admitting that you're each others' only sexual partner had the possibility of two effects:
1. Surprise that each of you don't have other people on the side
and
2. Opens up the flood gates to thoughts of a more serious relationship.

In your case - both are true. In his case - only one or the other or neither or both might be true. Your goal is to figure out which QUICKLY without theorizing about what he thinks.

Ask him point blank: "Did you think I had other FBs? " "Yes? How does it make you feel now that you know that I don't? "

Also, I find great contradiction in your third paragraph "I still don't want a relationship. " & "What can I do to get him more excited? I need attention".

I think you yourself might be unsure about what you really want because it depends on his view of your relationship. The more reason to be open and straight. He will respect it even though you might not like what you hear. Good luck!

Sex is not the only founding property for a relationship, or shouldn't be anyhow. Judging by the fact you don't really care about him and just want the ego trip of him being "in love" with you, your personality seems pretty rotten and I'm not surprised he isn't interested in more than sex. Grow up and stop trying to toy with someone else's emotions to feed your ego.

Oh, and don't flatter yourself, a guy going down on you is not necessarily about love. I've definitely had FWB that were not interested in relationships but just liked giving oral. It isn't any more or less meaningful than any other sex act.

If you are not interested in perusing a relationship with him it makes me wonder why you want him to fall head over heals for you, I'd say that was just plain mean of you. Your going to end up hurting him if you continue on this path. Sounds to me like you are very selfish, and truly do not deserve to have someone fall for you if you just think it's a big game. Playing with someones feeling & emotions is not a game. Grow up.

i am not coming at you no type way so don't take it any way personal. it sounds like the dude may think that he has you in control. he knows that you r the only he is having sex with and he knows that you r being faithful to him even though the two of you aren't in a relationship 2gether. if you want him to want you let him know how you feel honestly and don't hold back because holding back is going only make matters worse. so for now thats all the advice i can give to you so if you need anything else just write me and i would be glad to talk to you. i hope everything works out for the best.