Should girls be the one calling the boys?

As long as you conduct yourself in a respectable manner, you won't look bad. The more reserved, calm, collected, and focused you are, the better it will go.
I love to have a woman make a move on me, but if you're sleazy about it, it's gonna be ugly.

To be honest, it depends on the situation. I think that the guy should call, because the guy should pursue the girl. But the girl can say, here's my number, give me a calls. Or something along the lines, "do you want to ask me out." Or something like that. Something to the point where she lets him know that she's interested, but he still has to make the move.

Personally, I think it doesn't really matter who calls first.

If its been a couple of hours then both sides should feel that they should make the first call to apologize/get back/talk to the other side.

It would make you look good then and you will be more appreciated.

I don't see y girls always have to make the first move. It depends on the relationship timing.

I think it's better for a girl to call a guy. From my experience, it's usually the girl who wants to talk on the phone. I, myself, am not really capable with phone conversations; I find them clumsy and never know what to say. I think some guys are awkward when it comes to phone conversations, and would much prefer it if the girl rang them instead.

This should have been put in "Flirting" or "Dating"

Yup, girls should call guys.

No problem if the guy gives you his number - I myself don't take numbers anymore.

If a guy initiates interest, and talks about doing something, and gives her his number - then there's nothing wrong with the girl calling him.


see, too many girls give out their numbers too easily, asking for a girl's number is easier then asking for gum or a cigarette - and its no indication either way if they like you or not - and almost a certain indication that the girl will not return any phone calls and will be awkward the next time you see her - A lot of guys, after getting burned several times by never hearing back from girls they like that they call, don't bother anymore - Its gotten to the point that only after having sex does their seem to be any point to getting a phone number.

I suggest don't exchange numbers unless you are interested in a guy - and make sure to tell them that at the time - otherwise, chances are, they won't bother to ever call you.

Unless you are calling everyone in the phone book starting with the 'A's', I don't see why it is such a bad thing. It is certainly a much better approach than antagonizing over whether the guy got your signals such as that special look, that flirty hair tossing or when you wear that little sexy number around him. :)

Besides, if he thinks that makes you look bad then clearly he isn't the one for you because none of that should matter if he likes you the way you like him.

I think it's fine for a girl to get things going by calling or texting a guy -- and many shy boys seem to need and want girls to do that! But, even in the 21st century, a girl still needs to be careful how and when she does this, and needs to avoid appearing too aggressive (or, god forbid, appearing desperate). A girl can text or call a guy to get a conversation going, and still -- if she is skillful -- let the guy feel he is the one asking her out. Really, it's not that different from what girls have always done -- sending signals of various types to snag a guy's attention, and then letting him chase and "catch" her. It is just that now the initial signal may be a text message rather than -- or in addition to -- a warm smile and a flirty toss of the hair.

It is totally o. K for the girl to make the first move. Besides, I think many guys prefer that!