Should I be more confident in how I look? Or am I right to think I'm not very pretty?

it takes more then looks to b sexy

Wot do you look like ?

you need to have self confidence because the look is not everything ,I'm not trying to be nice but I'm telling the truth , you need to believe that you're the most pretty person on the earth .

Without A picture, I have no idea. I can say that upon hearing what you're friends and family say that you do probably just have confidence in the way you look. This can be fixed by just choosing clothes that you think you look good in, wearing your hair in a way that you like ect. ect. The reality of the matter is that confidence in yourself is a bigger turnon in many instances than the exact way you look, so dress in a way that makes you feel confident in yourself.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if you not, then your not. live with it and deal with it.

I saw your pictures, and you're cute! And what's more, based on that other one, it looks like you have nice thin thighs, which I would kill for, but this isn't about me.

It really is all about confidence. If you're confident, that is what makes you "pretty", because it's throwing your great personality out there, and that pulls people in like a magnet. You can be physically attracted to someone, but once you figure out he is a complete tool, all of a sudden you don't get butterflies in your stomach when you look him anymore. Have you experienced this?

And I second the advice about flattering clothing and makeup. I didn't wear makeup in high school, and I had people react very strongly (in a positive way) whenever I did. I recommend some powder foundation. It's very light and comfy, and won't make you break out like liquids can. Put some foundation on, and then do a very natural looking eyeshadow. Like a brown or something, very unobtrusive. Don't go wild for day wear. Then some mascara, some natural colored blush, and maybe some lip gloss if you're feeling adventurous :D This takes me 10 minutes in the morning. I don't look absurdly made up, just better. The foundation airbrushes out any imperfections in my skin that I might notice, the eyeshadow draws attention to my best feature. Your eyes are pretty too, btw! They were the first things I noticed in the picture. Makeup is all about accenting what we already have and minimizing what we don't like so we can be at our most confident.

I don't know who you are comparing yourself to on standards of beauty, but you're wrong. Models are airbrushed and photoshopped to perfection, and media leads us to believe that the "perfect" looking girls are the ones who are allowed to be happy. I don't know if you've seen these links, but have a look. They might be instructive as to how skewed the standard of beauty is in this world.

link - Dove's Beauty Ads are great
link - The infamous video

We are all our own worst critics. No one is going to say you're pretty, and lie to your face if they really do think you are ugly. It shouldn't matter if the guy is ugly or cute or whatever, however, for young females it does. I know where you are coming from, but I am growing into myself and appreciating the looks God did give me. I think when women become older they forget about the little things about their looks that they had noticed when they were younger and become more confident in themselves. You should learn that every woman, every creature is made uniquely. We are all masterpieces, God's own. If you say you are ugly or focus on your flaws too much, then you are really critiquing God's work and basically saying without words, "God you made a mistake when you made me." I don't mean to get all religious, but I learn about these type of things in church alot. Especially for the young girls like me. But understand that your beauty is unique, and no one can take that from you. You just have to look deeper, aside from the perfect nose, shapely jaw, almond shaped eyes, and succulent lips, and realize that you are the epitome of 'Beauty'.

Your self esteem is lacking, trust me, I've been there. As well, your self confidence needs a bit of work. Take what people say as truth in THEIR eyes. I mean, after all, they are the ones looking at you all day. Honestly, everyone is beautiful in their own way. You can't judge yourself, because you are your own worst enemy and critic. If you put in the effort to get dressed up, or doing your hair and makeup on a daily basis, then you care about your appearance, and people notice that. Have confidence in who you are more than what you look like, but still have confidence in how you look. If that makes sense.

I hope this helps.

Welcome to being a girl. EVERYONE gets insecure sometimes with something about them. We are our own worst critics, when in reality, we're waaay over critical and other people don't notice the flaws we so prominently point out to ourselves.

Something really important that I think a lot of girls forget, is that sexy isn't all based around physical hottness. It's all about how you feel, what you project. You could be the hottness LOOKING chick in the room, but if you're sending out an insecure vibe, no one's gonna believe you're hot if you don't. You have to own what body you're in. instead of picking out the things you don't like, try picking out the traits you DO like. concentrate on those and forget your insecure points.

I ALWAYS feel better when I buy clothes that flatter me. go out and buy some new stuff! Wear the clothes that make you feel really cute, you'll feel better instantly. Go by a make-up counter and get your make-up done, they'll show you how to highlight your best features and all that jazz. you can come to the mall on different days and try out different make-up counters until you find the look you love.

All in all though, society has brainwashed EVERYONE into thinking that being hot is what the world revolves around. Let me clue you in, it doesn't mean ANYTHING. I think a lot of people need to focus on their personality and not the physical aspect all the time. Yeah, it's cool to feel confident in the way you look, but seriously, God doesn't judge on looks. He doesn't care if you were voted Hottest in high school, or that you can walk in 5-inch stilettos and own every guy in the room. He cares about how kind you are in your lifetime, how you lived a Godly life and made good decisions, helped people in need, brought light to peoples' life, made people laugh. you get my point? Physical beauty is over-rated and a shitty concept made up by society. inner beauty is WAY more beautiful than any decked out super-model could ever be.

we all get insecure at times. maybe your the kinda person who wants attention and to be noticed. because your sitting here basically asking guys what do you think? so you know. you need to believe your beautiful because if YOU don't within .no one will. confidence is key. even if its an off-day .not your best outfit. walk into the room like your the baddest thing everyones ever seen. who cares what others think? you don't have to live to please other people.

You're a cutie, if you ask me!

Are you comparing yourself to women you see on TV and in magazines? Biggest mistake you can make. Google search "celebrities without makeup" and you can see that 95% of these "hot" and "gorgeous" women look just like everyone else does in real life, sometimes worse.

I used to be a lot like you - constantly dwelling on my flaws, worrying that I wasn't pretty enough and that no one would ever see me as beautiful. I still have days when I feel that way, but I realized that thinking about what I wish I looked like helps nothing. We can only work with what we have.

To boost your confidence, try going on a shopping trip with an honest friend and buy some really flattering clothing. maybe get a haircut or get your makeup done at one of those free counters in the mall.

The biggest thing that I can say is to let your personality shine through - let your own interests and unique quirks develop. It really helped me to find new interests and loves that make me the person that I am. For example, I took up photography, and as silly as that sounds, having a hobby that I love makes me feel a lot more secure about myself.

It's not about looking pretty like everyone else. Being different is what attracts people to you.

You need to learn to accept yourself and appreciate your body and looks. You don't need to be with a good-looking scumbag to feel beautiful. Even if you were with one and he complimented you daily you probably wouldn't believe him for the longest time so just learn to love yourself and see yourself as beautiful.

don't compare yourself to other girls to judge yourself. and if others say you're pretty, then what's stopping you from believing them?