try this:
mix your foundation with moisturizer before you apply it, it will be a sheerer coverage and also more dewy and natural-looking. apply the foundation BEFORE concealer, so that you apply less concealer, which can look cakey.
take a pretty golden bronzer and apply it to your cheeks and a tiny bit on the top of your nose to make it look sunkissed.
with brown and bronze shimmery eyeshadows (I love body shop's shimmer cubes in pallette 06
link apply the lightest shade from lash to brow, the taupe shade in the crease, and the dark chocolate color on the outer corners on both top and bottom.
with a BROWN eyeliner, line your upper lashes (preferably with a thin line that widens near the outer corners) and lightly brush it over your lower lashes (to make them look thicker).
curl your lashes, and apply black mascara.
use a golden/clear gloss
this looks more natural in a bronzed, summery way...but you're still made up, and the contouring on your eyes makes them look wider which is probably what you like about using a lot of eyeliner.
also, go on youtube and watch panacea81's videos about a "natural look..." they're very good!