Boyfriend obsessed with family??
I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. He is 25 and lives at home with his mom, sister, and his sister's son. His dad passed away several years ago. I want to know that this relationship is going somewhere and that we are starting a life together, but he seems to be obsessed with his family. He rarely wants to spend time alone with me, and he would rather do something with his family that he lives with and with his other brothers and sisters and their children. I have my own place and would love for him to move in, but he thinks I should move in with him at his mom's house to save money. I'm not worried about saving money and don't want to live there because they have cats (I'm allergic), everyone smokes (I'm a non-smoker), and there's no privacy (there's always people over there).
I just feel unimportant compared to his family. He is a priority in my life and I don't feel the same way to him. And on another note, he behaves in a way that I feel is inappropriate with the women in his family...he'll swim between his mom's legs in the pool then pick her up or put her on his shoulders. He lays on his mom's bed all the time to watch TV or to take naps. Him and his sister fight like they're ten years old and will lean on each other or touch each other in ways that I find inappropriate. I don't know if this closeness comes from the fact that they lost their dad, but it makes me uncomfortable.
Sometimes I get the feeling that he confides in his mom more than me, and that upsets me because I feel like we should be closer. I don't like spending too much time around them, although I do get along with them. I don't know if I'm looking too much into this, but I just wanted to know if it's normal. Please give me your opinion because I don't know how I would be able to put up with this for a lifetime.
What's Your Opinion?