Why do I attract women only when I stop caring?

[Anonymous]

This is getting to me. I am going through a period of not caring, and disliking women in general. No offense, but a few ruin it for the rest. Heck, I'm even playing songs like "I don't want to be in love" and others like that.

But WHY is it that whenever I go through one of these phases someone starts liking me? I could care less a few years ago, and same thing. And because I care less I am less apt to date.

WHY!?! And how can I change this?!?!

Updates

+1 y

Of course I'm straight! I just "give up" with girls sometimes.

[ryan4]

first off if you are straight this shouldn't necessarily be a problem unless your looking for love. You see girls play games, and when they see that all of your attention is going to them they feel as if they have control of you and they love control and domination, so when you stop caring or cold shouldering them, it makes them want you more...I could try my best to explain for hours but long story short it's just how many girls are bro, they like when a guy doesn't necessarily care. Very strange but that's a women for you. Hope this helped.

[nvestan]

The less you care, the more confidence you show, and it looks attractive to girls. If you look desperate then you become less attractive, they kind of don't have to work for getting you, you are there already for them. I am kind of in the same position, after being desperate for a girl, where nothing worked, and being desperate - it wasn't attractive. Only now I am realized it. Not being eager it drives interest in girls.

[britannny]

Maybe you came off as needy or something before? I can't possibly tell you without actually knowing you, so it's just a guess.

But all I can really say is that people who don't care tend to have a little more confidence. That, and the fact that people have a tendency to be attracted to people who are unavailable.

[MikeK]

I heard this analogy with a butterfly...

You can chase it all day long, and never catch it. But sometimes, if you're just sitting and not doing anything, a butterfly will land on you... kinda "gay" analogy, but anyhow, you get my point.