How can you tell if someone is gay?

I don't know many gay guys but those that I do know it was obvious. Their dress, actions, and voice were real giveaways.

I remember my friend's nephew was about 12 years old when we pronounced him gay. It was all of those signs that I mentioned above that led us to believe it. I think his mother (my friend's sister) always knew it too and she was so happy (not a typical reaction) when at 18 he got a girl pregnant. I think it proved to her that he wasn't gay. However, the relationship didn't last and he finally came out at about 20 years old.

When he came out, everyone just laughed because he was told that it was always known. It seems like he was the only one who didn't know, or wouldn't admit it.

1. body language/ movement
2. voice
3. social standing with both men and women
4. strong sexual tension


If you ask, usually you will get a response. but that's what I use as a guide when I'm trying to figure out if a guy I'm interested in is gay.

there is no way to just tell if someone is gay
even if they tell you, they probably aren't really certain about it

i know,
I'm not gay, but I feat I might be. its called homosexuality obsessive compulsive disorder. and from what I hear, a lot of straight people have it.
in a nut shell, its a straight guy afraid of being gay

they might actually admit to being gay.

i hope that sort of answers it

the only way to actually know if someone is gay, is to just ask them or have them tell you.

if a guy is having sex with a girl, then he's not gay. He could be bi. But he's not gay.

I don't understand why you are looking signs? They are no different then you or I. Tolerance of peoples differences, should be in this day and age, a gold rule. The guy you know that has a girlfriend and she is now pregnant, most likely if he is gay, needs to hide it in this relationship. Because of the judgment and hate from gayphobic people. I am Christian, and I believe that tolerance and understanding of differences is more important then trying guess what a persons sexual preference is. Think about, what if the tables were turned and it was your religion, race, or even sexual preference. How would you feel? Why do you want to know! They are humans with feels too and not some freak show. People me, there are a lot of other people that give a good freak show. I hope you someday realize this, remember what goes around comes around. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but someday, you will yourself under the same type of stare.

I know of gay guys who had girlfriends, who slept with their girlfriends, who did everything they could imagine to try and convince themselves that they weren't gay. It's not that they were against homosexuality in principle, but just that it's still very hard to be gay in society. I mean, it's such a hard thing to come out, you wanna be damn sure before you do it.

One of my friends that I met in college was considered one of those "studs" in high school because he was always getting girls at parties, and then he came out and everyone was stunned. Turned out he had just been trying to prove to himself that he wasn't gay, but ultimately he realized that he was and he couldn't change it. And it's funny if you look at him now, cause he's not the hookup kind of guy at all. He just slept with girls (both girlfriends and hookups) in an effort to make himself become straight, to make his feelings for guys go away, because it's so much easier to be straight. Of course, it ultimately didn't work, and now he's cool with himself as he is. But the guys you mention might be at that stage.

I might suspect someone is gay based on their voice or their actions or the way they dress, but I don't assume unless they are out or they tell me they are.

There is no way to know for sure unless someone tells you. I knew a woman whose husband left her because he was gay.after they already had a child together and she had no idea.

Well, if a guy is having sex with another guy or has feelings for other men - that person is gay. I guess that appearance can play a key role too - hence the famous appeal toward gay men is that they'd dress up like women do (make-up, painted nails, their clothes etc). Tone of their voice, in many ways, can also give you some idea as to whether a person is gay or not.