I was cheated on by my boyfriend of a year. It wasn't even physical. Just telling her that she was prettier than me, better than me, sat next to her at lunch ( we didn't have the same lunch) text her, all emotinal stuff. I actually think it would have been easier for me if he kissed her instead of all that. I found out through a mutal friend on skype. She told me all the things they had done. I cried so hard. When I was done crying, I text him asking him to come over. I told him I knew and he lowered his head and cried. I'd never seen him cry. He said that he stopeed it. I told him I wasn't sure about us. But when I saw him cry. When I saw how helpless and regretful he looked, I knew I wouldn't break up with him. I love him. I wouldn't let him touch me though, at all. I told him it would be hard, but I would try to trust him again. So slowly, day by day, week by week, we bulit up that trust.
He cheated on me when we had been dating for 5 months. We are still dating and have been dating for a year and 2 months.
As for you situation, I don't think he is doing the righ thing to rebuild the realtionship. My boyfriend stopeed all contact with her to show me that he only liked me, your husband still cares about them.