I'm looking a deep answer over here.. and I swear I feel like dying if I don't know what's going on,... so please help me.. Appreciate everything THANKS! :) :) :) a.) If he liked a girl and knows she likes him too, but is too shy to do anything and asking him is out of the option, would he forget her for someone else... I mean, how fast would guys forget their girl, and what does it take to make them forget? Please don't say it depends on the guy... b.) Does looking at a girl mean he likes her? , Because that's all he does for this other girl... or so she says but I've seen once or twice, when I'm around her. How should a guy look at a girl, for us to know that he is in love with her? c.)You feel these weird feeling around your tummy and with your heart beat getting faster and brain goes into, "total-freeze phase", when you are around the guy you like, right? So would he feel that, that you are feeling this way? I once heard, that if you feel weird, when you are alone with him, then if he likes you, he would feel it too... is that true? Plus, would he feel it, if he didn't like you either? d.) What's the meaning of chemistry between two people?
I can't speak for other guys but I can tell you that for me the answer is definitely no. I still remember the first girl I had a crush on and your scenario a) pretty much sums it up. This was back when I was 11 or 12 I think. Looking back I'm pretty sure she was flirting with me too, but I was oblivious to it back then, being so young, and I was too shy to make a move. I guess she just lost interest and moved on. But I can tell you not a day goes by that I don't think of her at least once and it's been about 10 years. It really did leave an impression on me, maybe because she was the first? I don't know. But then again I was always kind of a romantic and I just got so emotionally invested at the time.
Anyways, I think how he remembers you will depend a lot on your reaction. I think I remember her so much because I felt like I was possible or would have been possible for us to be together if I had just spoke up. I think if you keep talking to him and appear sort of open and inviting he will pick up on it subconsciously. But like me he might not be able to put 2 and 2 together and realize you're signalling interest. Guys just aren't good at that whole body language thing. Sometimes you just have to spell it out for him. I know women don't like making the first move and it might kill the romance for him but you might just have to tell him in straight language if he's shy. Guys appreciate that stuff.
As for b) guys look at a lot of girls but if he's fixated on one then yes he probably likes her. If it's just a passing glance, that's probably all it is but if it's a long stare then yes but there can be more than one and he could be looking at you when your head is turned.
c) I think so. At least that's the case for me. But maybe it's more true for girls? I noticed that during periods of my life when I was happiest was when girls seemed to be most attracted to me. Once I got to my teens I started really battling with depression and I could tell girls could feel it. So yeah I do believe in vibes but I would think the "total-freeze" is a good sign. Why would he be nervous if he wasn't attracted to you but didn't know if it was mutual?
Not sure what you mean by d) but it's probably more of something you can feel than express in words.
My advice to you is to just be blunt with him. By your description it sounds like he has to be at least somewhat into you. I think the odds are in your favour. Plus the fact that you're bold enough to just say it to his face might even make them better. If he's a shy guy he'll be shy around that other girl too. If he's torn in two between the both of you, by being assertive and telling him you can likely tip the scales in your favour and she'll be out of the picture.
Trust me if you REALLY love someone badly and they slip away because of shyness you pay for it for a long time. He might too. And if he rejects you it's going to hurt but that goes away. But I don't think you need to worry much about that.
Guys can for me if she is rude or mean to me when I did nothing to deserve it that's the quickest way to kill any attraction for her.
Otherwise it just takes time. If she is still nice to me then it takes way longer to go.
But generally if she wants nothing to do with me and I can't even have a normal conversation with her then it will fade quickly. For me at least if I can't have a conversation with her and she keeps shutting me down when im being polite then I'll just avoid her and get to the point where I don't acknowledge or care about her anymore.
I really like this guy I've noticed that he looks at me all time and flirts with me once he starred at me for over ten seconds he works at a coffee shop and i was telling him what i wanted and he just frozed he finally snaped out of it he has always started the conversations and asks about what I'm doing for the day he always calls me my lady he's a real gentleman he has said for meto come by latter and hang out he tells me his work schedule. this has. been going on for about four months. now i invited him to a outdoor activity he asked when and where i told him he said in the near future just recently he mentipned he was in a relationship my heart sank why would he do all of this or say what he has to me heknows i like him i told him in a short letter its hard for me to talk to him my heart beats fast my stomach sinks my whole body shakes i went through his work just yesterday and on my coffiee cup lid said "we will get through this together" please help me I'm so confused thank you
Well it actually depends on the guy but not entirely most guys will crush on a girl but never tell them even if you talk to him after a few months maybe weeks he may see it as you just wanna be friends what you should do is drop hints also what makes them forget crushes would probably be negative things about the person that will bother em all I could think of but guys don't pick up hints easy well I don't anyways hehe:) but you got to drop big hints or he will be clueless til some loud mouth tells:D hope I helped!
Generally speaking it takes longer for guys to get over a 'real' crush, since for girls it is easier to get into a new relationship or have casual sex. If there never was an established relationship then ofcourse it can go faster to get over the oll crush especially if there is a new girl that shows interest. Putting a time frame on how long it takes to get over a person in each case is really depends on the circumstances.
No. That's a big deep NO. Lemme just explain why; I still remember all of my crushes and heartbreaks. First crush, i was around 3 years old. I did get the girl but then got too cocky and lost her. Changed me for life. My most recent crushes were for two girls. I don't feel love for them anymore but the feelings are still present. Like, whenever I'm around them, i feel different. And at one of them, i can't stop looking. Annoys the hell outta me since i can't stand her anymore.
Well I can answer this pretty simply. Yes, most guys can forget their crushes pretty easily if another girl shows interest, and the reason is, unless you show interest as well, even if it's something really subtle, just having a crush on someone doesn't really mean much unless you act on it.
That said, maybe this guy just needs some encouragement, so it could go either way.
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i think when you really love someone, that never dies until you do. burns forever in the heart. think of my first love often. my heart is never the same. she took a part of it. i'll always remember how beautiful and special she was. glad she was part of my life. wherever she is now - don't know. wonder if she can feel it when i think of her daily. will always miss and love her.
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