Girls, are you offended if a guy calls you a nice person?

[gtex1991]

i told one girl that and she took it the wrong way? I got the impression that her being nice was insulting

[Prof_Don]

I have to agree w Xenophobia. Nowadays, the word "nice" is a cop-out, a default response, a word you use to describe something you consider "blah", but don't want to be rude to that person. When a females describes me as "nice", to be honest I get slightly offended. Why? Because I think, "You couldn't use another term to describe me? Nice is so blah." I'd rather be called "sweet" than "nice" lol.

I think this girl thinks that, by you saying she's "nice", that she "doesn't strike your fancy", & therefore you're uninterested.

This is why I try to avoid using the word "nice". It's connotation is all screwed up nowadays, & leads to mis-communication. Tell this girl she's "cute", "sweet", "adorable" or "bubbly"...all are better than "nice".

[Xenophobia]

nice is an insulting word. It's a pleasant way of saying, your "friendly" but I don't like you like that.

Same goes for guys. Girls don't realize that there's a difference between a nice guy and a good guy. Being a nice guy is an insult, being a genuine guy is what you want to be called.

[khellendros]

I highly agree with this answer. The word "nice", to me at least, is like someone saying "hey I feel obligated to say something but I'm not really interested so it's 'nice' ". It may have started out as a word to seek out, but it's been overused and actually has a neutral/negative connotation to it these days. It's like being called average when you strive for something more. There are so many more options over "nice", avoid the word if you can.

[audreymarie21]

a lot of people think that being called nice is a pleasant way of saying 'you're not attractive'. I see a lot of posting from guys on this site about this subject as well. I suppose if you already are self conscious about the way you look, then you may take this compliment as an insult. so, if you are interested in this girl, or wish to make her feel better, I would compliment her appearance next time. I personally think that a compliment about my personality and/or intelligence is far better than one about my looks, but I've never been all that self conscious about that way I looked.

[kittycat933]

Not at all, being a nice person is something that I'm very proud of and I love it when other people compliment my demeanor. You might have unknowingly used a tone in your voice that made it sound sarcastic, she may be hypersensitive, or the type to not be able to take a compliment (low self-esteem types to be like "Pff, yeah right." instead of "Thanks")

[keka1971]

OK, this is a tough one... some guys don't know how to compliment a woman properly, or let them know they are interested. I am currently dating this man whom i'm head over heals for... giving him his time as he is moving slowly. Which is fine. But not for much longer. Today he texted me something sweet, like, "send me a selfie, i kinda miss that cute face." That was the first time he told me he misses me, in his own way, "i think"... then he said, "i just want you to know that i think you are a really nice person..." -- i'm like, "tks"... and waiting... like, ok are you dumping me? let it out... so i waited. I mean thats the line before a woman or a man say "but..."... then he said, "i'm feeling depressed and overwhelmed"... so in my head i was like "ok here it comes"... in my head i heard "you're a nice person but i'm feeling overwhelmed"... was that it? I don't know. And i won't assume. I could be completely wrong, but, c'mon, of course any woman will think the same thing... waiting for the punch line... lol nothing yet... fingers crossed. Maybe he was truly complementing me, and here I am waiting for the dissappoining punchline... so yes men, thats how women think. Heck, i've used that line when letting a man know i'm not interested in him romantically, so thats what i would think it meant... ok those are my two cents and my thought on the subject. It could go either way... Gluck!

[MissUnderstoodx]

maybe its becasue she likes you and the last thing she wants you to think of her is a nice person.Being called a nice person mean you just want to be friends and that's why she took it to offense.Also maybe she views that you are lieing to her by calling her a nice person when in her own eyes she's not.

[justme91]

She was probably looking for something else, if you think about it 'nice' isn't really 'amazing' or 'kind' or 'lovely'. It's just nice. Like 'oh, that's nice'. I know this sounds really stupid, but it's how girls work. Any kind of compliment gets judged, like 'What does he mean by that?'. Crazy but true!

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty confused about what a guy means when he says a girl is nice, the reason I say this is because guys and girls probably tend to interpret the word in different manners. A guy I crushed on told my friend that I'm really nice, so that suggested to me that he was being freindly and probably didn't find me attractive.

[Wharvey98]

Yeah saying someone’s a nice person is kinda bland. I wouldn’t be insulted, especially if some random person just said that to me. But I might be like, huh why couldn’t they come up with something better than that.

[courtney06]

I would appreciate it especially since I have insecurities. Although I know for a fact there are people who view being called “nice” as a weakness or something.

[Vyxzuw]

Maybe she wasn't offended by the nice part, but by the person part, and thought you were saying she wasn't feminine enough to be considered a girl...

[BluesheepOwl]

I'll take any kind of compliment as long as the guys isn't trying to be a douche or doesn't realize he said something super rude. Both are red flags that he'll be a pain in the ass

[Universe]

Personally, I wouldn't be offended at all. In fact I love it when people call me nice :) It's what I strive to be.

[Anonymous]

would you be offended if a girl called you a nice person?

[gtex1991]

Normally I wouldn't, but it depends on the intentions of the girl

[xolauraox146]

People tell me I'm too nice and I don't mind it I actually love it when people call me nice because if people think I'm horrible and mean I would care what they'd think

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't get insulted, but then again she might have thought you were putting her in the friend-zone by saying that.

[gtex1991]

I see, because I think she likes me. but why would me complimenting her think of another. I was merely complimenting her for standing by her friends

[Opinion Owner]

Well in your mind it might be a compliment. In her mind its I think your a really nice person but...

Just next time you see her ask her to hangout flirt a little. Let her know you didn't mean it like that.

[greeneyedgal1]

I completely agree with this answer.

[Anonymous]

i just read that it's like a death sentence because, she's basically saying "you don't have the balls to ask me out". she's saying, you're weak

[Anonymous]

Maybe she wants to be complimented more than just "nice person"?

[jacquesvol]

She should not be offended.

[Anonymous]

she's just a little bitch...don't worry about it!

[Juliana77]

no