Girls, How Long Do You Intentionally Wait Before You Text A Guy Back?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering if girls really intentionally wait to text a guy if they like him?

Reply As Soon As I Get The Text

5-10 Minutes

10-15 Minutes

Over 15 Minutes, I Like Him To Wait

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[Quadrophonic84]

I'm going through this BS with a couple new girls right now. So annoying. I can tell they're just trying to gauge how interested I am by how quickly I get back to them. F*cking idiot women...

To answer your question, I prefer to just text back immediately as a courtesy. I like being taken seriously and answered quickly. I've learned to tone down my resentment on this subject since I used to just stop talking to them when I sensed this was happening (and then they'd text like crazy!) and allow a little game playing, but I still have an extremely low tolerance for it. It's probably because I have an actual life and things to do so I don't need to use mind games on a f*cking cell phone as entertainment, unlike most of the single women out there.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Other, because most women seem to think the guy needs to be texting first. But if you mean back, probably asap.

[Chency]

Yea, same experience here...

Most girls thinks that the man should text them first, and that is just a bit annoying, since you not always can tell if they are interested then :-)

[Rain17]

then thing is I think , that we girls think .. if girl texts first they tend to come off as desperate .

but anyway I reply quickly and I'm busy ill just say I'm busy in a good so it doesn't feel like an excuse..

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

That's a mindset YOU women have. Truth is, if you text first, you don't come off as desperate to us guys at all. Just interested. If you CONSTANTLY text non-stop all day, ya.. desperate then.

[lisa_username]

depends on the guy. if its a boyfriend or someone I've been with for more than a few weeks there's no need for any texting games..i just text him right back. but if I just got involved with the guy and I want him to think that I'm a busy girl, not that into him, or not needy, then I wait anywhere from 5 min to an hour. Depending on how much I like him I may not be able to wait more that 5 min lol.

you may say there are no need for games but I tend to find that it keeps the guy thinking about you and anxious about you if you don't let him know how much you like him

[Asker]

yeah it does make us think about youmore, but it also makes us think that you don't care enough to respond back, so it makes us feel like we aren't worth you, what do you think about that?

[lisa_username]

well that's better than thinking that the girl is worthless-but whether you feel that way or not you will still anxiously wait by the phone for a response and be excited when she replies. Besides, the feeling that she is too good for you will slowly disappear; especially because as the relationship progresses we let our guard down and stop playing games.

[Anonymous]

See, I'm waaaay too paranoid about this, so you may not want to go by what I say, but if I have my phone, I'll reply immediately. However, if he's taking a long time to respond, I'll think that it's because I'm annoying him so I'll start waiting the same amount of time he takes- if I even still keep texting. Do guys wait a certain amount of time? Or at least, do you?

[Asker]

haha, I always respond as soon as I get the text, I've kinda started to wait like 5 minutes now, cause I feel clingy/needy if I text back immediately especially since the girl I text takes forever sometimes to respond, lol, but always within 5 minutes

[-StillWater-]

If I'm busy I won't just drop everything to respond to a text...no matter who's it from, but if I'm not doing anything and I can actually reply right away, I will.

If he starts playing some sh*tty mind games I'd just drop the conversation all together, and him with it. I have no patience for those sort of games.

[sikoo31]

i think I just fell in love

[akosikat]

in important cases,i don't play if-i'm-important-to-you-you'll-wait game. I'm afraid this tactic would make him think that he's being ignored or something. but in unimportants cases, when texts olny contains quotations and are group messages sent to people other than me, I rarely reply.

[Pebyron]

That is so true.

[NomelLemon]

Depends. Usually right away. But I sometimes think a lot before speaking, and writing as well. Depends on the topic. So sometimes it might take me a little longer to reply than the average texter. If I'm busy or something, I reply to them as soon as I get the chance. I don't play games or anything though.

[EberWavesofGrain]

I reply as soon as I get it, and I find it annoying when my boyfriend takes 2 minutes to type 5 words when I know he's not doing anything except texting.

Like when he's at work, yeah sometimes it'll be hours til he texts again but like when he gets home and is just texting me, why the hold up?

I don't know, just as soon as I see/hear my phone go off, I pick it up, read it, and respond. Doesn't take an hour.

But if I ever did pause intentionally, it would be 5-10 minutes.

[Hazel63]

If I like him a lot I will text right away. But if he's not showing interest, or takes time texting when they have plenty of time, then I'm gonna take my sweet time answering to. :p ha ha I'm not gonna act like a little puppy who answers when he wants. He has to chase me! :3

[Smilie-xo]

Usually I will respond the moment I get the text. But when it takes him a long time to respond I get kind of grouchy and then I will purposely wait the same time he did to text me. Or at least try to.

Yeah. Immature. I know.

[underdog10]

Hmmmm now that's interesting I never thought about that. Thanks!

[Lexxers]

The only reason it would take me longer to text back is if I really wanted to not make myself look like an idiot or something, so I would think about my reply. I know I don't like the feeling of waiting for a reply in an important text conversation, so I don't intentionally make the guy wait. Unless I don't have time to reply.

Often I reply really quickly, if I can, because I'm anxious about the guy's response.

[number10]

I have friends that do that, and usually it's just like, "Ugh! he took an hour to text back, I'm gonna wait an hour too and see how he feels"

But personally I just try and text back as soon as I can~ I don't see the point of delaying a message.

[Anonymous]

10-15 and the reason is that I don't want to look desperate and I like to seem busy as if I have better things to do rather than text him.. but now I think about it actually answer ASAP 70% of the time.. and now I realize it depends on how fast he replies too .. if he always answers an hour later its okay for me to reply and hour later if he's an asap person that 70% of the time I would text back asap

[nightowlinthemorning]

I don't play any mind games with guys unless they start. I reply when I'm done typing out the message. I think girls who are so fukin worried about coming off as desperate are desperate. If the guy thinks you're desperate just because you text back quickly, then he is an asshole and so not worth your time. And vice versa.

[gemini72]

Well, it really depends on my mood sorry to say! If I'm in a flirty mood, I'll drag out the response for quite a while. On the other hand, if the texts are just chitchat, I'll generally answer fairly quickly.

[lookingforsurity29]

It really depends on what I'm doing when the text comes. If I'm with friends, I'll wait a bit because I don't want to be rude to my friends; if I'm not doing anything then I will usually reply right away. :)

[rokouttilur80]

If I'm busy I wait until I'm not, but when I'm not busy, I purposely respond as quickly as he does :P If he responds right away I will, If it takes him 20 minutes I'll wait at least 15 so he thinks I'm busy too :P I admit it's probably dumb, but I guess it's habit! I don't wana seem too eager! And I guess I think you seem more desirable if you're a busy lady.

[ilyurbella]

I text him back as soon as I get it. But if he made me wait to get the text, usually I make him wait.

[Yurippe]

Depends on how busy I am and on his answer speed.

If he replies right away and I don't have any urgent thing to do, I will also reply as soon as I get the message.

[hannah77ae]

if I like a guy, I won't play mind games. unless he starts it. then it's on. so if he's texting me back right away, I won't wait. I'll reply back cause I want to have a conversation with him.

[ForeverYours39]

Sometimes we'll make them wait, but then other times we just really want to talk to you so we'll reply immediately. Unless you give us half assed answers like just "okay" or "lol yeah" that always pisses me off cause it makes me have to think of another topic and its really tiring if you do it all of the time.

[emzy-89]

other. I text back when I see that I've got a text or if I notice I have one but I'm busy I'll reply later. I don't play childish games in relationships.

[applesandPEACHY]

i make him wait a few minutes. hm. around 10-15 mins. I have the impression that guys always want a chase. they prefer that than easy girls. I don't know, that's just my opinion.

[sikoo31]

f*** mind games, reply as soon as you get it or I won't waste my time with you. unless you explain that you were busy and I believe you.

[Anonymous]

it depends if he is responding fast then so will i...unless I'm busy with something while texting so ill try to multi-task as fast as I can =)...but if the guy takes awhile to respond ill take a while to respond but not as long as he took