My parents have lied to me my whole life?
My dad just sprung this on me three weeks ago. He said he was married once before my mom. He met a woman in Germany while he was over there in the army and when he came home, he sent back for her to join him in the US. He has two children from his first marriage. Both children are in their 40s and the son even has two children of his own. His daughter is two months younger than I am and they just had a son a little over a year and a half ago. So my dad is already a grandpa...
My mom didn't want us to know, he said. But they're divorcing now, so I guess he thought it was okay to tell me this? I can't tell my mom because she'll be furious and I can't talk to my little sister about it because I don't want her to have to deal with this. I don't know what to do. I want to hate my dad, I do. It hurts to be lied to. To find out I'm his third kid, second daughter...so maybe I'm not that special after all? I was supposed to be a twin, but my twin brother was stillborn which devastated my mom. Dad says that when I was born, his son came to visit us and see me, but Mom answered the door and asked him what the hell he was doing there and he angrily left. I can't blame my mom too much... she'd just lost her own son and here dad's son shows up... I'm less angry at mom for wanting to keep it a secret, but still just angry a bit at everyone.
Dad wanted to show me pictures of my half-siblings and his grandson, but I told him I didn't want to see them yet. He was all excited, talking about visiting them and getting to know them... I'm still trying to process and cope with the information! I feel like I never want to see him again, let alone his first family...
What am I supposed to do with this info? How do I move on? I know I should forgive him for lying to me my whole life, but I guess I'm just not there yet. Advice?
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