My mom didn't want us to know, he said. But they're divorcing now, so I guess he thought it was okay to tell me this? I can't tell my mom because she'll be furious and I can't talk to my little sister about it because I don't want her to have to deal with this. I don't know what to do. I want to hate my dad, I do. It hurts to be lied to. To find out I'm his third kid, second daughter...so maybe I'm not that special after all? I was supposed to be a twin, but my twin brother was stillborn which devastated my mom. Dad says that when I was born, his son came to visit us and see me, but Mom answered the door and asked him what the hell he was doing there and he angrily left. I can't blame my mom too much... she'd just lost her own son and here dad's son shows up... I'm less angry at mom for wanting to keep it a secret, but still just angry a bit at everyone.
Dad wanted to show me pictures of my half-siblings and his grandson, but I told him I didn't want to see them yet. He was all excited, talking about visiting them and getting to know them... I'm still trying to process and cope with the information! I feel like I never want to see him again, let alone his first family...
What am I supposed to do with this info? How do I move on? I know I should forgive him for lying to me my whole life, but I guess I'm just not there yet. Advice?
Most Helpful Opinions