Maybe because some nice guys just look but ugly?
Maybe because some nice guys just look but ugly?
Honestly, I don't think girls want either a "nice guy" or a "bad boy", because those are very broad generalizations, and are on the two ends of the personality spectrum, if you will. For example, everyone has a food they love, but if you were to get it every single day would you want it anymore? Most likely not. The "nice guy" can sometimes be too nice, showering girls with love, affection and gifts, which is nice at first but after awhile its not even special anymore! Thus, I think girls tend to lean towards the "bad boys" because their personality and lifestyle offers spontunity and excitement and the near-guarantee that life will never get boring as long as I'm with him... even if you have to endure a horrible egotistical personality in the process. And due to that personality the relationship is almost doomed to failure, but I digress. Basically, I think us girls pretty much want a guy in bethween the "nice guy" and "bad boy", who can be affectionate, giving, and listens to what you have to say, while being fun and spontanious too... and maybe a little teasingly mean (if you get what I mean) lol.
I think me personally, being kinda introverted, usually goes for nice guys or someone in between. But that's just me.
I'm not sure if I could really say that anything long term hardly lasts with "bad boys" to begin with... but the sad thing about the girls-only-like-bad-boys arguement is that it's kind of related to wanting what we can't have: they usually don't shower girls with the affection they want which keeps them striving for more, but when they get it from the good guys it becomes kind of routine and expected and they really don't give a care about it if it'll always be there regardless.
You just explained how women want bad boys even for the long term, and are even willing to stay with the bad boys when they have to endure something bad about them. Now when a nice guy does something that you have to "endure" suddenly you leave. You pretty much proved that women go after the bad boys and why.
You hit the nail right on the head, I hate it when guys say that we "say" that we want good guys but we really want bad guys which is SO untrue.
They don't actually want a bad boy. They want a combo... a guy that can give them playful attention by teasing them, but still knows how to be respectful about it. Simple as that. They want a balance. The problem is that not many guys know this, and they try to be one or the other, when they should try to have a sweet & sour combo. : )
You have to date all sorts of people before you know what you want; that's true to everyone. The "jerks" know how to manipulate feelings so girls think he's nice, but really, they've just been manipulated. Nice guys don't know how to manipulate feelings so they usually don't get the girls until these girls that got played develop their Bullsh*t meters. The plain and simple truth is that they can't tell they difference. It might be obvious to guys because they dicuss this amoung each other or they hear a girl complain about it, but what guys don't know is that they act the same way around us but with a little extra something (smoothness or, whatever their trick is). Nice guys always end off better in the end though so, don't worry, because while nice guys are having honest relationships with nice girls, the jerks will be alone and unhappy because the only type of woman who wants an aging jerk is a crazy woman who can't get married herself. Hope this helps!
I've known some supposed nice guys who have actually turned out to be quite horrible.
i like nice guys. I don't run away from nice guys. but I do run away from guys who are too confident. I don't like jerks. so I don't think most girls run away from nice guys unless they're just not smart.
okay I hope I'm not too late in answering but I disagree with this concept and what most of the guys answered. I really don't think that the majority of girls really wants a jerk versus a guy who's nice but this is why it seems like it:
1) people often remember stuff that doesn't make any sense and/or shouldn't happen. girls shouldn't want bad guys/assholes/jerks but some do and because of the ones that do many guys think that most - if not all - girls do.
2) guys who end up being jerks usually don't seem that way when they're first meeting girls they want to attract because, well, they want to attract them. they seem really cool and friendly until they got them then they show their true colors. unfortunately girls get attached to these guys and so they usually still want to be with them even with their jerkful ways.
3) nice guys are usually also shy and insecure guys. they hope that the girl they like likes them back, but they have a hard time doing anything about it and wonder why the girl isn't all over them. guys who are jerks are also usually very confident and, thus, easily get girls to fall for them.
I bet there are other reasons that it seems like girls like jerks versus nice guys but these are the main three that I can think of right now.
I think some guys confuse being "nice" with being a pushover...or even better.... use being "nice" as a way to manipulate a girl or at least that's how she might see it.
I think same is true with nice guys
some nice guys wind up showing their true colors, after first meeting a girl... that's kinda how the girl I liked wound up, she thought I looked like a nice guy, then she said I was a bad guy, kinda weird eh?
same girls don't know what they want in life. also you can find girl that like to play games
I dated this one guy and he broke up with me. I started dating someone else on a very seroius level a year later and yes he was no good. However, the guy that broke up with me said the same thing. So I tried going out with the first guy again and he started being an asshole to me. So we think that the "nice guy" is just a cover up.
Most nice guys I know are boring. I don't want a guy just because he's nice, he has to be kind of course, but I'm also searching for some excitement in my life.
How about a nice but spontaneous guy? for example I was hanging out with a girl I like today.. we were driving back from a small food place..and as I was about to pass this exit on the freeway that said.. Santa Cruz.. I was JUST bout to pass it going 70 mph.. and I asked her hella fast I said.. 'you wanna go to santa cruz?' she said yes. and almost crashed but made it on to the exit loll... that was exiting. dark as hell but at least we made it to the beach. got lost on the way back too hahah
Wow Lysane... You and I should get into a relationship if that's the case.
Nice guys can be very charismatic and have great personality . . . You sound that you are more like after fun.
If being a nice guy is wrong then I don't want to be right and for all the gilrs out there that feel that way to me that just makes you an animal a product of evolution but iam more than that iam a man I was born to fight but I chose to love so if iam wrong for being a nice guy I don't want to be right,
If being a nice guy is wrong I DONT WANT TO BE RIGHT so f*** it if that's the case ill live in my own world by my own self
Nice guys get put into the friend zone. You are probably very quiet and do everything she says. No challenge, no confidence.
You need to be respectful but not a puss. Take the lead, be confident and don't kiss her a$$ all the time.
Dont be an asshole, but be a little cocky
Maybe the guys who think they are the nice guys aren't nearly as nice as they think they are =/
hey all. whenever a woman tells you she wants a nice guy she wants the opposite. I treated my girl treated f***ing queen Elizabeth, she dump me for no reason what's so ever. I was nice, caring, freaky, all that stuff. Woman don't know what they want. When a woman loses the nice guy she had she lives in misery because she found out how special the guy was after he movd on and found someone else. For woman things have to soak in with them, when a woman is with a asshole she then realizes the nice guy really loved and cared about her. Its hard but you have to keep being you. don't let a woman bring you down. Its to many nice ones out there. keep being you my brother.
girls are attracted to masculine guys bro. its a natural instinct a girl wants a guy who can protect her and take care of her and if your nice and sensitive etc it just seems like your weak to a girl. every girl I've met has always said they like assholes because theyre more masculine. girls want you be the man in the relationship take charge and tell her what to do shit like that but show her you care not too often and not too early in the relationship but the more she cares about you the more you should show her you care because that creates passion and romance and they like that shit too. they want to be treated like they matter but don't seem obsessed and don't be too sensitive. that's how I see it
...this is the stuff of life...
Simply put, the stereotypical "nice guys" is mild mannered and boring. "Assholes" are the "bad boy" type which seem like a challenge, so girls chase after that. In reality, girls just want a gentleman who actually has a backbone without being an insensitive douche.
im in the same boat as you are bud, I am a nice guy.ive been told that I'm a romantic, compassionate, caring guy. but you asked why girls say they are looking for one thing but get the bad boys. that's cause most of the GIRLS want a bad boy.start looking for women. after talking with many women I have come to the conclusion that girls are dumb and can't make up their minds about wut they really want but women.they know wut they want.they want a caring compasionite, romantic guy.and I have found of one those women and I'm not letting her go. so up your bar.aim a bit higher and ull see that nice guys don't finish last.we get the women that will last a lifetime
Will never understand women *sigh*
You women always cry out loud how you end up with jerks and how you want a nice guy. But after your heart gets broken . . You just do that all over again. What is so damn fascinating in ''players'' ? They might be mysterious and bad asses but still treat you bad. . . And you women STILL always fall for them.