At age 41 being single never married and no kids ? Feels like I have been sentenced to life alone!! (Page 2)
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If you have some money and a stable job and some good life experiances you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
I think your looking for the wrong girls though...your looking for the young party type and stuff. But there are plenty of younger girls out there looking for a nice stable mature man to get with. ESPECIALLY of other nationality than white usa.
Go to plentyoffish.com its the best free site out there. Lotsa girls looking for lotsa things
Has anyone brought up mail order brides yet? If the only reason you want to get married is to have kids, there are girls in other countries that would love someone to start a family with and provide for them. Lots of paperwork, but if this is what you want you can have it.
My aunt is the nicest person and she is 41 and single also. She does so much for others, she is always watching her nieces and nephews and her friend's children for them when they want to go out. She works hard and puts others before her. She is pretty too. But she just didn't meet the right guy, she doesn't really date now. But anyway, you can still be a great person and be happy and single. Maybe you can try online dating? A lot of people have found relationships online. And just put yourself out there, you're not the only one your age without a wife. There is plently of women around who want to get married
Age is just a number. My dad's 41.. Him and my mom seperated, and now he has a girlfriend.. and she's ONLY 28! There's plenty of fish in the sea, it just takes some swimming around. You're not wrong for wanting a younger woman, it's normal for a man of your age. Just remember, you're never too old to fall in love.
After the update I still strongly suggest online dating before you honestly give up, because you never know what can happen, there are many people who like older men, one of my best friends is 19 and her boyfriend is in his late 30s. Age doesn't matter.
I say this, Never ever give up. Love can happen at any age. And wanting to have a family and children is a universal natural desire. But you're pushing it with the, "I want someone in their 20's and up". You should be dating girls who are interested in you, first. Not setting a preference of age limits.
hey, its not wrong you just want a family and trust me yourgoing to find someone for you ...tell me this do you tink the 55 year old who is now married and has 2 kids gave up at age 48 ...do you think a 38 year old gave up after never been kissed no! so don't give up I say you keep looking for that special someone..untill she is perfetc for you =] ...
I do not think you should give up. I think perhaps you should think about increasing the age of the women you date a little bit. A woman who is in her early 30s perhaps. Most women in their late 20s are generally not the ideal situation for a man in his 40s. They just do not have enough life experience. I don't think anyone who really reads the depth of thought you put into your question thinks ill of you. When people are young adults they are generally at the peak of their physical attractiveness, so I understand why on that level you would be attracted to a woman in her 20s; however, one must ask oneself, in the grand scheme of things is that the best situation for oneself? Is this person, who is much younger going to be there in the long run when things deteriorate with health and as life's responsibilities intensify with age and time (as it always does). I wish you the best of luck with this. It is interesting to read the responses on here.
Well I just finished reading what everyone had to say here and I'm of the opinion it doesn't matter how much of an age difference there is between two consenting adults as it's none of society's business anyways. Bravo Mytar. Your advice is so right on! If the younger woman you desire has a problem with the age difference then just move on because true love is a deeper kind of understanding. I just turned 44 and realized a few weeks ago that I didn't want to die alone. I don't look, act, nor feel 44. Furthermore, since it's my desire to start a family and to increase the probability of having one I need to seek out a woman in the range of about 26 to 33 give or take a few years. The way I see it, at least from a statistical perspective, I'll probably end up dying before her but in exchange for the years of happiness I have with her I'd leave to her all of my worldly possessions. She then has the resources to go on with another life, husband etc. What's wrong with that?
I would say pray to God and make a list of things your looking for. I think you come off as a God-fearing man and I know the miracles he can do for you. I have no idea what he has in store for you but only you can find that out. All you have to do is trust and obey and I think you should be okay.
If it happens it happens. If it doesn't it doesn't. Just don't get disappointed if it doesn't happen. If it does it will probably be at the least expected time. Never search for the idea of a relationship. Just happen upon a relationship. (: Good luck!
Hmmm... I wasn't aware that 41 year old single women were extinct, lol
but... if your "skills" haven't changed, neither will your luck...
keep doing the same things and expecting new results is... crazy
its normal to like younger women. And, if your still "in your prime" and wealthy, sure, you too can bang a gold digger... have at it...
just try to not look TOO pathetic while your doing it, k?
WELL MY FRIEND... THERES GOT TO BE A REASON Y UR SINGLE? BUT REALLY ME PERSONALLY IM 27 AND YES UR OUT OF MY AGE RANGE BUT NO WORRIES I SAY CUZ ULL MAKE SOME OTHERE CHIK HAPPY CUZ REALLY HOPEFULLY You HAVE A MANLY HEAD ON UR SHOULDERS INSTEAD OF A BOY HEAD... BUT I AM CURIOUS ON HOW You WORK CUZ REALLY IT SOUNDS FISHY... LIKE NOT EVEN A KID... R You A VIRGIN?
Dude. Online dating sites. Seriously. You're matched up with people of similar interests, usually local, who are interested in your age group. However, more of your problem might stem from the fact you're poking around a website predominately populated by under 18 year old.
THAT, my friend, comes off as more than a little creepy.
So now that I'm out of college its creepy to be here? The site is for relationship advice, not limited to my-pubes-are-coming-in questions.
@zagor Online dating sites? That’s not always the best option, because there’s too many people who go on there and waste people’s time by not committing to meet, just want to talk online, don’t respond, or lead people on instead of just rejecting them. It works for some, and others have good luck, but it also leaves many people frustrated and burned out. People overestimate online dating often.
most guys want a younger women, so it isn't wrong of you to want one. it is wrong of you to pursue younger women (21-29) and it's wrong of you to miss out on a potential future with someone just because they aren't young, so maybe you should try going for women your own age.
if she can't have babies anymore, then you could always adopt, which I heard is very fulfilling, and you're helping out by giving a loving home to one more homeless child out there.
Lol man relax. First stop thinking of yourself as some miserable fool. It's not weird to be old and date women. Hell I see it all the time at the mall or at a club/pub. There's some granddaddy with a cute girl always.
Just take it easy. Be Alpha. And don't blame it on God or anyone else, you're the ruler of your own destiny :)
Hell, I got you beat. I'm 42, never being married -- no desire to -- and no kids...that I know of. I'm an uncle and that's enough for me. When I hear my brothers kids screaming all through his house, constantly...man, I need a beer just to kill the headache! I couldnt' stand it. No kids for me, please. Love them, but so long as they're not mind.
As for wanting a younger woman... hell, who wouldn't want one?
Being alone shouldn't automatically make you feel lonely. If you find you're lonely then I'd suggest you do two things...
1) Learn to like your own company. If you can't stand being with yourself then it might be time to find out why.
2) Being lonely likely means you want to connect with people... which is what friends and family are for! Reconnect, be social, and you'll find that being single doesn't mean you're destined to feel lonely.
If your only reason for wanting to get married is to have children, I think your better off alone. A marriage is very difficult when your looking for a life partner, its not going to have much chance at all if its just to have your own children. Why do you want kids so bad? There are plenty of kids out there already that need help, you may find more fulfillment volunteering, being able to help good kids that really need someone. What are your reasons for wanting a family?
You should go for women your own age too, that's not settling! you don't even have to adopt. You can have a natural family, or, you can give your sperm to a baby that your woman brings up, and you're the biological father of, and she isn't but she can bring it up as her own. Hell a 25 year old could die early anyway. Regrets are tough when you reach 40's but you still have time, just! Maybe you and I should meet as I feel sad too! haha, just kidding.
I am still looking and I turn 45 this friday.. lol