12 Ways a Woman Acts After She's Dumped

[Adigelunar]

1. "See what you have lost"

They ask to meet one last time to show what he is missing.

2. "Life is over for me"

They are the ones who make their boyfriend the center of their life. They may even get into depression.

3. "I'm dying but I'll never let you know"

They waste their time by eating and stalking. They don't call even once because of their pride. They never mess with their ex but deep inside, they get depressed.

4. "I feel so bad"

They use their friends to handle the agitation. The duty of their friends is to text him telling how bad she feels after break up.

5. "One day I'll hurt you, I promise"

They are just a pain in the neck. They swear to get revenge and look for the opportunities. If you see your car scratched, it can be because of your ex.

6. "He is the one who lost me"

Since they know that their relationship wasn't working they accept the breakup and find themselves at the hairdresser to have a change. But the storm inside them doesn't linger.

7. "I'll focus on the matches going forward"

They look for a new relationship as soon as it's over. They think that they will get over the love pang if they find someone new.

8. "No one loves me, I'm so alone"

As their past relationships were over frustratingly, they think that no one loves them. They share their feelings with the people that they meet online.

9. "We broke up in a friendly manner"

They move on harder, better, faster and stronger. They never say bad things about their ex. They even wish happiness for them.

10. "I feel empty"

They always find someone new to fill the empty space.

11. "Watch me disappear"

You can't even reach these kind of women to get your stuff back. They make you wonder about them.

12. "It's over the moment he's gone"

They hate you a lot that they get rid of all things reminding them of you. They think that it's over the moment he has gone.

[btbc92]

When the relationship was sexual and she lost her virginity or gave up everything because he basically asked. Yes, all of these 12 things are true. And it ticks me off how some women and a lot of men feel indifferent about this. Overall 12 is what you need to do to fully move on. Its not healthy to keep anything of that person. Or else it will speak an unhealthy lust and flame for another unhealthy relationship or an affair.

[sdistotallyme]

12 is very appropriate if somebody cheated and/or was abusive. However if the relationship faded because the two of you grew apart number 12 can be brutal on one person. In those situations the basketball dribble approach (thudding away...) is really more ideal.

I'm in a relationship right now, but the last serious girlfriend I had did 12 ALL THE WAY. We had some arguments leading up to the break but there wasn't anything dead serious that caused the split. I remember 2 weeks later she removed all tagged FB photos of her and I (I retaliated by outright deleting them and removing her as friends). I didn't care about any of the pics except one. She had supported me for a major athletic event that I won. This was a competition where I was a huge underdog and came out victorious. She supported me through all my training. I had a pic of me with a belt with my arm around her. It hurt me very deeply that she removed herself from that. It was a very special event.

[btbc92]

@sdistotallyme

Either way regardless of how brutal it was, the relationship is over for a reason. And its best to leave it that way. Otherwise you won't be able to move on. That's part of the consequences. You don't do #12 in a resentful and unhealthy manner. But nonetheless it needs to be done. Because when you hold on to something of that memory, you hold on to them. And like cancer, that poison will spread.

[sdistotallyme]

It needs to happen but there is a right way and wrong way to do it. I didn't get closure on some issues so that's why I had some major hang ups later.

One thing women need to realize is that men handle break ups differently. Women can cry their eyes out, eat ice cream and reach out for support to their friends. Society won't think any less of them for it. However men don't get this luxury. We are supposed to be tough. We internalize these issues and break ups actually hit us much harder than most women realize.

I was careful not wear my emotions on my sleeve after my split. I had done that in my early 20s and everybody labeled me a pussy. I got smarter in my late 20s. However there were several unresolved issues that haunted me for a very long time.

[btbc92]

@sdistotallyme

Of course handle breakups differently. But those who is intuitive knows the hidden layer of the facade. Men are not supposed to be tough. I know how a man is supposed to be. And its not how society is making it. These so-called 'men' are not men and the same applies to so-called 'women'. Man has fallen so short that this is what happens. Glad I'm to myself.

Your unresolved issues is not that its unresolved. Its been resolved. But this is what you reaped for the rest of your life. It won't go away. You have to learn from it and just live with those choices. You can't go back and turn the clock. But if you continue to be in these sexual relationships with women outside of marriage, it will get worse.

[sdistotallyme]

@btbc92 I've always been loyal. I'm also a believer in Karma... although it can take a very, very long time.

There are plenty of shithead guys out there... but society seems to gloss over the fact that there are an equal amount of shithead girls. Fed up with the double standard.

[btbc92]

@sdistotallyme I get what your saying. I'm not saying all men are bad. But what I am saying is that men as equally as women needs to both be accountable for their actions for what lead to the relationship to fail. It is not 100% the guys or the girls fault. Its 50/50.

[sdistotallyme]

yes and I get where you are coming from with #12. I've done it two other girls in the past but it was for very legit reasons. One girl was dealing with domestic violence issues (family/ex bf) and was looking to me as a "savior". The other girl was an alcoholic who kissed my brother a few hours after we had sex (I was passed out asleep when this happen). In both these situations there were SERIOUS fundamental problems.

As with my last ex who I dated for a year (and who consistently "I love you" to me all the time) I was going through financial problems with my job. I took my frustrations out on her and I wasn't fun to be around. Since then I have more than doubled my salary, bought a house and started several new hobbies. Point being I totally understood why she wanted to break it off. In fact I honestly don't want her back as a girlfriend, but I miss her immensely as a friend. We had a very deep, emotional bond. She was the first girl I met in my 30+ years who "understood" me.

[sdistotallyme]

I actually want her to be happy and I felt another man could do a better job than I could do (at that time). I loved her enough to accept that. With that said she has treated me like a rotten leg, disease... a "creep" since I broke up with her. I get that she needed to move on. However completely shutting me out to the point we can't even talk at least once every 6 months hurt me very deeply. In that particular relationship it would have been better to been laid down with gentle hands. It's giving me trust issues with other women moving forward.

[btbc92]

@sdistotallyme I say that this has a lot to do with the kind of women you choose. And from what I am gathering your attracting women with serious problems. Also ones who were not stable minded. You need to find a woman who is mature in those areas your ex's lacked.

[sdistotallyme]

This particular ex had no serious problems. However something very serious happened after we broke up and she basically told me "tough luck". This issue is something that is going to impact me for the rest of my life. I could message you privately about it (if you are not getting sick of my sob story... lol). I think at one point she felt that I was "the one" but it didn't materialize but I struggled to stay physically attracted to her. The thought crossed my mind too. However I'm not sure if it was my job, time in life, etc... I just didn't feel the spark towards her when it came to sex. I hated myself for feeling that way. In a way I friendzoned her, but she wanted nothing of it. However something very horrible happened a few weeks after we split and her response was "tough luck". I was just shocked she could do something like that.

[btbc92]

@sdistotallyme No I'm not sick of it. I don't find it as a sob story. I just think that you weren't given a better chance at having a good and decent relationship. She basically used you. There is no such thing as 'the one'. In this life, we choose who we want and desire as our partners. It either worlds or it doesn't. And just see that people just the easy way out of doing something their already difficult but manageable.

And yes, you can if you want to message privately.

[sdistotallyme]

Alright I'll message you.

[Righttobeararms83]

I had a crazy ex scratch the shit out of my car and bust the lights and smashed the windows like it was a female empowered Carrie underwood video. Twenty minutes later after she went home the cops dragged her out of her college course and took her to the station to be booked. In the end she had to pay to fix the car, got a criminal record, got suspended from college and had a restraining order out against her.

[Unit1]

Wow shiet. That is some crazy beetch.
Oh well, she literally asked for it :P

[Rissyanne]

I know you are glad to be rid of her. Wow what a crazy ass bitch.

[guy532]

As a dude who got dumped a week and a half ago (90% sure she cheated and broke up with menout of guilt) I can tell you what I've been through. Just remember, we were together for a year and I was very in love with her. First 3-4 days I was basically very depressed and crying like a little bitch. I tried to get her to come back (I didn't know there was a good chance that she cheated at that time). I smoked more weed than I've ever have. Finished it like 3 days ago. Been on tinder trying to get a new chick and even though I've gotten like 6-8 matches and they all talked to me I knew they were interested in me asking them out, but I didn't because I didn't want to. I also asked for this random girl's number I met getting off the bus and she gave it to me. I was looking forward taking her on a date for the past 2 days. I called her today and she said that she's pretty swamped this week so I just told her to call or text me back when she wants to meet (90% sure it ain't happening). Funny enough I called her while waiting to get a haircut. Just finished my haircut (I look like a sexy beast) and went on gag. Also inside, I am currently furious, sad, lonely, empty, anxious, happy, and confident. That's about it, what a shit fucking week.

[guy532]

also the moment she left, I threw out and deleted everything that reminded me of her. The next day I dropped off the clothes that she had left (I wanted to throw them out, but I knew how immature that would be). We met for coffee 2 days after the break up to get some closure since the break-up happened so fast (she came to my place and was gone within 2min). I texted her 5 days ago basically asking her to give us another shot, now though I wouldn't take her back even if she begged. We haven't talked since and I'm not planning on having her in any part of my life, not after how she dealt with the entire break-up and all the lies and manipulations she's done.

[guy532]

also I currently do not like women and basically want to do nothing but fuck them and never see them again. I don't trust women after this, not after I treated my ex so incredibly well and reading so many similar stories.

[LillyTheGinger]

Aw that's just sad. Not all women are like your ex though.

[Anonymous]

You missed a few;

1. They become misandrist towards men and/or paint men in same basic brush as their EX.

2. They switch teams and think women will be better lovers for them.

3. They become distrustful of men.

4. Some go into having sex with lots of people like a binge just to quell the pain of another failed relationship..

5. They end up become more jaded about love/relationships.

[Prettygirl666]

Lol u got it, I think all 5 of those apply to me whenever I'm dumped except I'm over the point of being bi-curious so yea I'm straight.

[capturemyheartnow]

There's a new way to look at the matter. Just think that it was a wrong path for you. And that it's over for good. Look out for a new path , to find your happiness. Life can be full of problems. And no problem is so great as to derail you for the rest ofyour life.. You have to learn to move on to find your new happiness. Look out for a new partner who will be your next center of happiness.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Mmm, this could be applied to both men and women. I just disappear... believe me, they call to try and catch up or text or whatever... its such a waste of time talking to them.
I think once people realize that they don't need to get into a shitty relationship to be happy, there will be a lot less divorces.

[Anonymous]

My ex gained 20lbs over our relationship (that's a lot of weight on a 5' frame)
Still loved her and she still talked to other guys so I dumped her

Then she lost the weight...
I fucking hate females lol! Why couldn't have she been healthy while we were dating?

[Raymond_Reddington]

I lolled at number 10 xD are there any recently dumped girls here who would like me to fill their empty space? 😂😂

Also who is that girl in that gif you posted under number 2?

[Adigelunar]

She is Kaya Scodelario

[Raymond_Reddington]

Never heard of her but she really is hot. Thanks for sharing her name ^-^

[Raymond_Reddington]

Do you name the name of the girl in the last pic too?

[SuperNovaRoyalty]

1, 3, 6, 8
Those are kinda like me.
Especially 1 and 3. Don't forget 5.
If I accidentally knee you in the groin while you play soccer, whoopsies! ;)

[FatherJack]

At least , if she so wishes , a woman can easily get a " replacement " man , women are the choosers & the desirable gender , men are generally NOT desired at all. Also women have their ultra close inter female friendships , a per No 4 , which are absent in men , women have well developed support networks of both genders... men are on their own !!

[FemaleAssassin]

Thank God i've never made a guy to be the center of my life lol.

[louiseisaturtle]

Same

[Unit1]

And I never made girls and women the center of my life :P :)
^.^

[FemaleAssassin]

@Unit1 good for you! Seriously, you do you, u don't have to depend your whole happiness on someone else because someday they WILL disappoint you.

[Unit1]

Exactly, I was going to say that.
You just can't depend on other people, they will not care at all and they never want to improve either.

[FemaleAssassin]

@Unit1 well it depends on your definition of "improvement", what do u want them to improve? If it is solely based on changing themselves then no i don't want anyone to change their selves for me as i won't change any bit of me for them, if someone loves u and u love them back then non of you should want to change eachother for the sake of yourselves unless if it is a health care problem or else it kinda seems selfish tbh.

[Unit1]

It's like you try to convince a smoker to stop smoking or an alcoholic to stop drinking but they won't do anything to improve the situation. Just some remotely similar examples. They have the power to do so and nobody else. That's what I'm saying.

[FemaleAssassin]

@Unit1 yeah agreed then 👍🏻

[ThunderButt83]

and thats what happens when girls fall for the stupid alpha male, bad boy, confident, player jerks and not the shy nice guys. so why can't a girl just find someone new, move on, and learn from prior mistakes to not to go for "that" type of guy again?

[Grace_Rdz]

"I feel empty"
... That's what I get for allowing someone to fill that already empty space for once. Now I keep trying to fill it again with temporary people which makes it even worse.

[ashley1996]

I've been most of these. 1,2,5,6,8,10,11. Lol. I have fell head over heels for a lot of jerks. Lol. Right now I am between 11 and 8. Spot on correct good take

[LillyTheGinger]

I haven't had a lot of heartbreaks but I suppose I fall under #11.

[10dsw]

1, 3, and 5 ring especially true for me. I've seen it countless times.

[Jxpxtxr]

Interesting list! I'm a mixture of 6, 8 & 11 I think 😂

[somebodysaycheese]

13. the Girl who forgets her ex by going out and having ONS. Nothing like releasing stress with a couple of orgasm lol

[singlebee]

Lol when a girl from my college group got dumped she wanted to just in a river hahahaha 😂😂

[Anonymous]

The animated pictures for number 3, 4 and 5 had me lol

[Silver158]

I usually just get the crazy vengeful ones. The ones who spread vicious rumors and lies. The ones who try to bang your friends.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

women are psyco... there care so much of what others think instead of what they want. then when they realize what they want most of the time it is something that they can't get...