A good apology consists of three main parts:
A well intentioned apology can help you get your ex back if you make sure you execute all three parts.
If you want to get your ex back you must first say "I'm sorry". This can be very difficult especially if you feel that you didn't do anything wrong. But if you want to get your ex back you are going to have to say "I'm sorry" first. Assuming you feel that you owe an apology this part is usually the easiest.
"Admit your part and role in the break up."
Not only do you have to say "I'm sorry" you also have to say, "It was my fault". Usually in a break up there is enough blame to go around for each of you. But if you want to get your ex back you have to be the one to take responsibility.
So admit your part and role in the break up. Many people do not get to this part of an apology. They think that just saying I'm sorry is going to solve the problem, but it won't. You have to take some responsibility.
Finally, you will need to ask "How can I fix the problem?" Hardly, anyone gets to this phase of an apology. However, if you do remember to genuinely ask "How can I fix the problem?" then the odds of you getting your ex back get much higher. This must be sincere.
- You MUST say "I'm sorry."
- Admit "It was my fault."
- Ask "How can I fix the problem?"
The apology approach to get your ex back assumes that you and your ex are still talking. However, in some cases there is no conversation and you need some different help to get started.