So look here's the deal. I really liked this girl we where friends to begin with. I was ok with it but wanted more. I acted ok with it. Deep down I was screaming at the top of my lungs. Why. As usual. I left well enough alone... Then it was as if god gave me my chance. Her boyfriend she wouldn't give up at the time went to jail for domestic on her. And bam there was my chance. 2 weeks later. We had hookedup had sex, the hole shabang. She has two kid's. I slowly was trying to accept them. The hole relationship.
Well, one thing led to another he got outta jail. On bond. Which was upsetting. But oh well I guess. That's life. He get's out and slowly behind my back starts workin on reeling her back in. Which he later does. She starts growing cold 2months after going out. As if she didn't care if I got hit by a bus tomarrow. Only the last week did I really notice that attitude from her. The end of that week I left cause I was getting upset. I went for a drive came back she had taken off the hole night. Was cheating on me with him. Came back and broke it off the following morning.
Now after all this and a month of silence and now we are on talking terms to "some degree."
She wanted me to come over and hangout with her, her new boyfriend also the orginal ex. Same person if you get what I'm saying. Her two kids also. And I'm just confused. Why would she do this? Why? She say's well I really wana be friends with you. Well I do to. Although not with him. He's a douchebag. He hit, and probably still hit's her, god only knows how he treats them kids. And I carry a 9mm and I don't wana get into a confrontation and loose my Concealed permit., she and him are not worth that to me I worked to hard, and it cost me far too much $ to risk loosing it over that.
So what do I do? I already said hanging out sometime sounds fun, with you alone. Meaning without him. She got p*ssed and wrote back, " Whatever, if you can't be friends with the both of us, then I guess we aren't friends anymore?" What the hell did she expect me to do?
I'm confused, hurt, and p*ssed all at the same time. I don't know what to say back, what to think I don't know anymore. I know what I wana say back but it's no where near nice. And if I have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all. Saying things outta anger does no good. Ya know? Burning bridges isn't wise. So what do I do? What the hell do I say? Do I even answer? Do I just let it go? IDK?
Well, one thing led to another he got outta jail. On bond. Which was upsetting. But oh well I guess. That's life. He get's out and slowly behind my back starts workin on reeling her back in. Which he later does. She starts growing cold 2months after going out. As if she didn't care if I got hit by a bus tomarrow. Only the last week did I really notice that attitude from her. The end of that week I left cause I was getting upset. I went for a drive came back she had taken off the hole night. Was cheating on me with him. Came back and broke it off the following morning.
Now after all this and a month of silence and now we are on talking terms to "some degree."
She wanted me to come over and hangout with her, her new boyfriend also the orginal ex. Same person if you get what I'm saying. Her two kids also. And I'm just confused. Why would she do this? Why? She say's well I really wana be friends with you. Well I do to. Although not with him. He's a douchebag. He hit, and probably still hit's her, god only knows how he treats them kids. And I carry a 9mm and I don't wana get into a confrontation and loose my Concealed permit., she and him are not worth that to me I worked to hard, and it cost me far too much $ to risk loosing it over that.
So what do I do? I already said hanging out sometime sounds fun, with you alone. Meaning without him. She got p*ssed and wrote back, " Whatever, if you can't be friends with the both of us, then I guess we aren't friends anymore?" What the hell did she expect me to do?
I'm confused, hurt, and p*ssed all at the same time. I don't know what to say back, what to think I don't know anymore. I know what I wana say back but it's no where near nice. And if I have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all. Saying things outta anger does no good. Ya know? Burning bridges isn't wise. So what do I do? What the hell do I say? Do I even answer? Do I just let it go? IDK?
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Well two updates here. At first I gave in. Then I came right back no more than 30 min later, and said, On second thought, I think we need some space. I don't plan to communicate to her anymore. Less she seriously get's her head on straight.
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And perhaps realizes that she's lost me and that's not what she wants and was to actually leave him for good or something and it was obvious that that was the case. Which most likely will never happen. I don't plan to talk to her anymore.
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Unless she had a Major ephinany and even then I'd be very cautious of her. Thank you all for your answers. I think the space thing t'd her off but oh well, she's p*ssing me off by trying to put me into such a sh*tty position.
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She replyed to my on second thought comment with a, Whatever than I just wanted to be friends. No you want me to be friends with him and you. That is too much to ask of me. After all she's done. I hope everyone can see why on that and my reasons.
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So I guess, it is what it is. Time to move way on. Stop communication's. Walk away. Hands tied, and let it just be done. Thanks all. Take care. Hope you all had a great 4th of july watched the fireworks here.
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PS: he is one of the many reasons I carry. He is an ex convicted felon, that was convicted of armed bank robbery and has been to prison for it. Thus I carry. For that reason among many others. I shouldn't have to feel unsafe to walk my own streets.
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UPDATE:: I found a new girl and totally moved on. I met a new girl at my church and she is totally amazing. :). She actually loves me like I love her in return, it's not a one way street :). Things have never been better really, and I've never been hapr
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