Do all guys want sex on the second date?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have had sex on the second date. he kind of hinted at it and said something like "its too bad you can't this week, I think you'd like it and that you actually like me more than you're letting on." i think a player would suggest sex on a second date because he doesn't respect me. am I wrong? or is it possible that he is looking for something else like a relationship eventually? I said that whenever he came back from vacation id like to see him again, and he said "okay that sounds good." even though I confronted him about just wanting sex before, he's still willing to see me (however I'm still skeptical)- is that a good or bad sign? i guess I should state that the reason I'm so concerned about this is because I'm 20 and a virgin and I don't want to lose it to someone just trying to play me, as much as some guys probably would like to claim V-cards. how can I tell he's genuine

[Tamikaze]

I 2nd "noregret11". The only way to tell if a guy is sincere about a relationship versus a sexual fling is to give it time. You also need to look at what happens on each of your dates. Frankly, the fact that he said what he said is already not a good sign. A guy who really wants you and is contemplating a relationship would never risk the chance of messing things up by hinting at sex on a 2nd date and in such a cheesy way. I mean please "I think you'd like it", that is super cheesy.

You are a virgin. Trust me, you do not want to have your first time with a player who is only interested in sex. Also trust me, you can tell him all sorts of things, like "I am a virgin and I want my first time with someone who wants a relationship" but a player won't care about that. He will say all sorts of nice things but in the end, after you have sex, he will do what he wants regardless of what you said, including moving on and leaving you miserable and wondering what you did.

Judge a guy by his actions, not his words. If he talks about sex on the next date, tell him that you are not ready yet and it makes you uncomfortable to have him bring it up. A guy who is sincere will take the time to get to know you and he won't care that it will take a while to get to sex.

Oh, and yes, all guys pretty much want to have sex even on the first date, but a sincere guy won't expect it then and he won't expect it until you are ready. It isn't about whether they respect you or not, it is about them and their intentions.

[thelittlethings]

I would get rid of him. He sounds full of himself, arrogant ass hole. He seems to think he is pretty amazing. It's pretty disrespectful to hint towards sex on a second date. It sounds like he is only in it for the sex. If a guy did this to me I wouldn't ever be talking to him again, I would tell him to lose my number. Not only did he hint at it but he assumes that the ONLY reason you aren't having sex on the second date is because you can't, he just assumes you want to and that you would. Him assuming your easy is another red flag. It sounds bad all around. If it were me this guy would be gone.

[Dela1111]

This guy is just playing you, no guy who wanted a relationship would hint at having sex with you so early, especially if you are a virgin.

Just about any guy you will ever meet will want to have sex with you on the FIRST date (and so on) but he's not going to try talking you into it if he's a good guy.

This guys really sounds like a scum bag, keep your distance.

[noregret11]

Truth is, you can't tell if he's genuine until its too late, but the best way to make sue is to not put out.. just let him hang out with you for a couple weeks or so, if he is still wanting to be with you, then he is genuine.

[kairon156]

sex on the 2nd date? that's a bit quick for me. I would considder a kiss on the 2nd or 3rd date to be good. I say don't put out soo soon.