Can you accept your ex-girlfriend back even though she cheated?

[Candass]

I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half. We had our good times and great times. Though, about a month ago, times were going bad because I lost my job. We began to get into little agreements all the time. I decided to take a break and he agreed. (it was more like giving each other some space for about a month) well the break started and two days after I cheated on my boyfriend. I felt bad and I wanted to tell him. He found out about a month later, which was five days ago from today, and he said it was over. It is hard to get over him. I love him so much. I tried my best to let him know that I was at fault and I made a mistake. I apologized and I told him that I truly lost the love of my life. His last words to me was that, "he can not trust me so the relationship can not work and that he hoped I find someone new and better. We're done"

My question to you guys and girls, mostly guys, is would you take your girlfriend or boyfriend back even though they cheated?

What if your girlfriend or boyfriend had explained to you that they made a mistake and really sincerely apologized truly?

[Anonymous]

well to tell you the truth. my ex girlfriend cheated on me. and weirdly I broke up with her the next day she cheated on me. I didn't even know that she cheated on me. we just had a simple argument because I found a letter to another guy. her saying that she loves him and is done with me. I fell apart and she would act like she didn't cheat. her friends told me that she did but I couldn't accept the fact that she did. she denied it and talked sh*t. I was heart broken because we lived together and I did everthing for her. well later on maybe two weeks later she started telling me that she loves me and wanted to get back with me. buut instead she got with another man and I would hear stories that would crush my heart. soon after I heard more stories about her and different guys. then months later I confronted her on the phone and she admitted to cheating on me. she was proud of it and throughout the month when id ask her why she had three different excuses. all in which was lame. peer pressure was one because she was tired of me being at work was the second and thirdly because she thought I was a cheater. months passed and she would come to me and tell me that she lovs me. I still have deep feelings for her but I lost trust and it made me paranoid all the time. so we decided to get together. it lasted maybe a week and a half because we would fight more than usual. and we both acted different. I was more strict and turned bossy because I was afraid that she would cheat again. she kept texing and lyeing to me about who and were she would be at. she would tex another guy she dated behind my back I caought her at his house once. and I dumped her then. later on more months passed and she said she loves me and wants to be with me. I didn't want to but my heart still has feelings for her. so I gave her rules and told her what I expect from her. well she kept hanging with friends and hardly had time to spend with me. maybe five seconds she would say love you and kiss and leave. so I decided not to get hurt again and gave her the boot. all she did was lie and cheat. even though we had our seperations. she had to much sex with other males and I still have feelings for her but that's not the kind of girl I would want. id rather live sad and lonely than paranoid and not trusting her. so my answer to the first question is...if she doesn't act like she wants to be with you but says she does don't take her back. but if she is willing to be there even when you don't wanther there. like if she calls or shows up or tells me she loves me and is sorry and work on trust issues. maybe like switch phones for a day a few times a week I probably would. my answer for the second question is well my ex told me threee different stories of why she cheated. and she did apologye sincerely truly she even feel on her knees and cried. but as soon as I forgave her she cheated on me again. it was horrible it hurt more than the first time. I think that it just depends on the reaction and the affection. I wish she would of s

[SeanE]

To answer those questions, I would say that I will look at how our relationship has been in the past, and if I deem it at least satisfactory, I would take you back only if you're really sorry and apologize to me in the way that makes me see you're really sorry; although I'd still punish you in some way :D

[Candass]

Thanks Sean. Our relationship was great in the past that's what hurts so much. you never know how good you have it until you don;t have it any more. I know I will move on and maybe find someone better and never make those mistakes again. Slowly but steadily my heart will go on.

Thanks again!

Candass

[Marie21]

I would take my boyfriend back after a while . But it would really depend on if he apologized and meant it . If he cheated on me and just went "i'm sorry" I'd wouldn't take him back . But if he showed up at my house with my favorite flowers and movie and said "I'm sooo sorry baby, You were the best thing that ever happened to me . " I'd think long and hard, but most likely take him back . He he really loved you, even the littlest bit at all during the time you dated, he should understand and take you back .

But he may be really hurt if he did love you that much . He may feel like he can't trust you anymore and wonders if he takes you back if you'll do the same thing again . I'm sure you won't, but the other person never knows, making it hard for them to forgive, and even harder to forget .

[Anonymous]

i made the same mistake you did, and now, about a year later, we are not together. we were seeing each other on and off but he never saw me as the same girl and he would bring it up a lot. he is still hurt by what I did, and it hurts knowing that its my fault. I still miss him and hope it could work but only time can tell what will happen

[Just-A-Random-Guy]

Wow! Great job! You must be very proud of yourself. After two years you betray him like that? Do you know how much hurt you have put on him? This man will never be the same after what you have done. You do not deserve to be with him. You should just be happy that you were able to spend two years with him. GIRLS (not women, you are NOT a woman yet) like you are the reason guys are afraid of getting committed.

Now on the positive side you can screw anyone you want without any repercussion. This guy will definitely not take you back, and if he does I guarantee you that it won't be the same. If I were him, I'd definitely not talk to you at all. Ever. So you might as well move on.

Use this mistake as a learning experience and NEVER do it again. I've heard the expression once a cheater always a cheater, but if the past event really meant something to you you WILL make sure to never repeat your mistake.

Do you feel bad? Imagine how he feels.

One final question: What were you thinking?

-Just A Random Guy

[ns-para]

It all depends. My fiance left me because she cheated and now, two months later, she is missing me and wants back but I am having a hard time figuring out how to go forward. I love her like mad; we've been together six years! I'm the one in the process of ending it now and she's chasing me now.

But the heart of the matter is that I want her back, and so long as she says the right things to me and we can get some help and work through this, then I will take her back. I love her, and I think she messed up big time and she's just starting to realize that.

Who knows, this will either mean I go on and get over this heartbreak and find a new, more trustworthy partner (such as your boyfriend sounds like he is doing), or we make our relationship stronger than it was before (which is the only way to get over it.think about why you took a "break" in the first place.breaks and relationships are not good things).

Best of luck.give him some space but every now and again call him up and let him know how you're feeling.

[Anonymous]

I honest answer is - Some time we are human a little Track less. Do certain thing with out our knowledge, or do certain things for our own financial security. I think GUYS are different then the Girls.

My Go she is at list 10 years older than me, she cheated on me once -but there was no SEXUAL activity involve, I'm talking about 1st cheat on me by the my Go. Then I forgive her take it back in to my life , I'm young and good looking well hard working person .

I forget everything what ever she done to me. This is was happen 2008 , I believed everybody deserve 2nd chance -with the respect. But once you lose all trust and faith the, forget it .

My Go recently cheated on me and she have been doing so long - that I never knew. Now everything has been done, she lost my trust and faith. I won't take it back her any more ,even thou she have done SEX or not. I believe once cheater always cheater .

Just Keep move on with your life, remember always "If you love some body " then never cheat on them no matter what.

God Bless all girls

[good-looking-geek]

Cheating is not exactly a "mistake." You had to knowingly cross several boundaries and opportunities to stop and think. You first; had to approach and or flirt with the other guy, second; make out with him, third; go someplace where you two are alone, fourth; take your clothes off, and last; you knew what you did after that. That's 5 opportunities where you knew what you were doing but decided to continue anyway. That's five opportunities where you could have stopped and thought about your real boyfriend who "is the love of your life," but you didn't. He cannot trust you again.

You knew what you were doing, and if your ex-boyfriend is smart, he knows too. Apologizing is just words without meaning. You truly weren't thinking about him; you were only thinking about yourself. By cheating on him, you willingly, knowingly, consciously, unmistakably threw him away.

[Jarett]

Two days after you decided to go on a break you cheated on him? Two days is not very long. Things don't just happen, and no I wouldn't take back my girlfriend if that happened. We don't just do things. Before we ever act, there is always thoughts, and then most of the time, we even imagine doing something before we ever act. But in this case, I wouldn't take you back, sorry, just giving you my honest answer.

[Candass]

Thanks for being honest. It hurts me that I hurt him but maybe one day in life he and I can be friends. Thanks a lot! :)

Candass

[Jarett]

Well we all make mistakes hun. But it's just important to realize that trust is 100% or nothing. You can't' trust someone 80%. He doesn't trust you, and he probably never will. You screwed up. But we all do. So you learn from your mistakes and you make the proper adjustments. But yes it will hurt, it always does. But you will land on your feet hun. And you will be a better person because of it.

[Anonymous]

my girlfriend has just cheated on me, she was seeing a guy for maybe 3 months, we werent on a break but I work away and was gone for 4 and a half months, she says she got lost and confused with the lonliness but I am gutted, she wants me back but I'm not sure. in your case if your guy can't trust you again then it probably wouldn't work, it was only once that you did it and you were on a break, surely he could forgive you if you had a good thing before. what do you think I should do, she says she only ever wanted me and that she regrets it but will she do it again, I'm really stuck please someone help.

[Candass]

I would say she is sincere about it. when a woman makes a mistake, she will own up to it. she will let you know where she was wrong and not ask anything from you, but to let you know that if you were willing to give her another chance she would gladly accept it. women are tricky, women believe if this man doesn't give me what I want...then the next man will. but if the woman sees she has the man who does do the things she enjoys and somehow messed it up she will try to come back sincerely. kk :)

[alex11432]

Like I said once "Cheater " Always is Cheater - Leave her alone and find some one who better understand you and understand when you are not around her. Just stay a way from her -And Good Luck

[Anonymous]

To me cheating is something very serious and should be addressed as so. With that being said I have an ex who broke up with me a few weeks ago. I love her more than anything in the world. If she had cheated it would be difficult but I think that I would take her back. I think that it depends on why. How many times and if she’s going to do it again.
It will take time to trust again though and that is something that will have to be earned back through time

[Superstrength79]

No, I wouldn't accept a cheater back. Your ex not forgiving you is probably the best final gift he could give you as well. Now that you know cheating can end up forever ruining a good thing, you'll be less likely to do it in the future.

[Anonymous]

My ex-girlfriend cheated on me after 2 years. There's no way I would take her back because I can never trust her fully again. But she was my best friend and no matter how hard I tried to hate her I just couldn't. I talk to her now and we're friends and I know she misses me, she's told her friends. I often think about getting back with her but in my heart I know that we ever did get back together and I was ever in a situation where I could cheat would I say no?

[7ronaldo17-]

I believe that every one should deserve another chance I mean every one makes mistake no one is perfect in this world so go ahead and tell him that it was a mistake and tell him how you really feel from the the heart.