She left me for a loser?

[mshaker]

Okay so basically my ex left me for a guy, that doesn't work, doesn't do anything, doesn't go to school, doesn't even drive, HE DOESN'T EVEN DRIVE?! can some1 explain this too me... Like I don't get it, she threw away our whole relationship for a guy that parties. That's all he does is go to clubs all the time.. Like I don't get it.

She said to me mikey I'm a party animal and your not anymore.. Can some1 explain to me.. Why she did this? I don't get it.. She originally said she wanted space to party, so I was like okay cool.. I let her have to. And now I find out, she was seeing him all along..

Why did she throw away our whole relationship.. Her family is p*ssed at her, like I don't get it... Why would a girl leave a guy that has a lot going for him, to a guy that has nothing...? When you leave some1 don't you normally leave them for something better.

I also asked around with people I know about this guy she left me for, and it turns out he likes to use girls, he's a player... Why doesn't she see that. I hear she's broke all the time now, so I'm guessing she's spending all her money on him. When she was with me I didn't ask her for anything...

People please elaborate what she sees in this guy. All my friends say its because you guys are on 2 different pages in life, she wants to party, and you already did that, and you wanna settle down now, and she didn't want that. But what I don't get is, why she didn't tell me she wanted this? Cause I would have started doing it again for her.. This is what I don't understand...

Can you guys help me out..?

[JustBeCurious]

You are the sweetest!



~sighs~ I'm a girl but I have No idea why she would do that! I mean here you are sounding like the nicest guy ever just by reading this, of course your upset about it I"m sure. But honestly girls are stupid sometimes... I think she's just really gullible I mean I'm gullable but not that much!

He could have been playing mind games to make her doubt herself being in a relationship with you. Or she could have been a target and he did whatever to get her to be with him. You never know cause sometimes you have to dig deeper into the situation to why she made a 'crazy' decision like that!

If I was your age I'd totally date you! You so nice and I can tell you love her right? Maybe she's not the right person for you. Or you could try to talk to her and ask her why exactly she left cause honestly partying is not a good enough reason to leave a person!

You should do that. Maybe you need to find a girl who's not a party wild... cause to me it sounds like she's not into the 'I'm and adult' period in her mind. She's like a teenager in some ways still. She not grown up despite her age just by that decision. An adult would have thought it out and not gave that guy a chance when he can't even support her at all, but still she's running around paying for HIM!

Honestly she doesn't sound mature enough for you in my opinion. You should look for someone a little more grown up ]=

[Lubna]

No, don't listen to the others who gave comments...dont give up! don't let her go! she did something without realizing what she's actually doing...u are the one she wants but she doesn't know it. all you have to do is be patient, she will come back to u. she will soon realize that he is no good for her and that you are the one she wants, you are the one she needs. so she will come back running to YOU. but you have to show her that you have "moved on"..she will want you even more. start talking to other girls infront of her, show her she's not the only one that has "moved on" and then she will start to get jealous, then she would start realizing that what she has done is wrong! and she will come back to you...but there I a small chance she wouldn't, if she doesn't then its totally her loss...and you know that!

good luck ;)

[appleshampoo]

You wern't what she wanted, you wanted to settle down, she wanted a party animal, that wasn't you. You say you'd party again just to be with her. Why? If it's not what you want, don't do it. You wouldn't have fun and your negative attitude towards partying would show and she'd end up leaving you anyway because you wouldn't be having fun.

So he doesn't drive. Is there a law that says you HAVE to drive? I don't drive and I manage to get everywhere I want to go, and its probably a lot cheaper than if I bought a car, paid tax, paid insurance, paid for repairs etc...

You are also plain hating on this guy, he hasn't done anything to you, he hasn't stolen you away. SHE has been dating him, SHE left you for him. Stop the hating on him, it's making you look like a jealous needy little bitch. If you really *NEED* to hate someone then hate on her, she screwed it up. Rather than hate on the guy, laugh at her for leaving you for him, realising you are so much better and go and find a chick who appreciates you.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, I can not explain why, but girls just do stupid sh*t like this sometimes. One of my exes cheated on me, left me for the guy who then cheated on her one week into dating her and filmed what he did with the other girl, took a hidden camera and filmed my ex giving him a bj that he posted on the internet, and then hit me with a baseball bat in the back of the head for telling my ex what he was doing. She didn't believe me btw and stayed with him for 6 more months until she told him she wasn't gonna sleep with him. Girls do stupid sh*t, you are obviously the better guy from what you're saying, but if she wants to party and be with this douche bag let her, maybe if she matures and is ready for a relationship and you're still willing to take her back things can be different but for now you just have to let her go.

[That-Guy]

"you guys are on 2 different pages in life." Except it and move on.

She wanted a relationship and something morning meaningful, then she like all human beings, found out that she wasn't ready to be single.

Even if you were to party with her, that's not what she wants. She wants to be single and enjoy meeting new people, flings and excitement of it all.

Did she cheat or do anything slimy? If not, she was honest with you and left.

You guys just grew apart.

[mshaker]

Well I found out she was seeing him as we were together.

[That-Guy]

Well, she sucks... noting left to discuss.

Why do you care what she does?

[Crazycanuck]

ok dude if she dumped you for a complet loser that's her choice let the b***h go man, and find a girl that's worth your time. go out and find girl that's not a complet moron and if she ends up crawling back to you then slame the door in that hoes face. yes its and A-hole move but at least you'll make your point.

[GwtfGirls]

Sadly i am going through the same thing and this guy is a rebound. Pretty much someone completely opposite to you and yes it fucking sucks. The guy my girl left me for is in rehab right now and its not for booze so ultimately girls are crazy and guess what kharma is a bitch.