Ex boyfriend misses me. How do I react?
my ex split up with me 2 months ago and moved out, and he has done nothing but text since, if he has seen me with my lad mates he's freaked asking if they're my boyfriend or not! its really childish as we are both 21.i have ignored his text messages for about a month now so as to continue the no contact rule, but I saw him at a festival I went to last week, he text about the lads I was with asking if they were my boyfriend or not... I replied after the festival and was chatting for a while in a light heart way joking about things with him! just because I don't see the point in fighting with him! I have been more than amicable about the split as I have realized there's nothing I can do about the breakup so why hold grudges!I am still in love with him, so when he text me tonight saying " I have to say I proper miss you sometimes, and I really don't want to. x" it has totally confused me... because it seems he's trying his hardest to get over me but is finding it harder than he thought!can you force yourself to get over someone you clearly still care about? I'm not a horrible person I think he just felt a little trapped by the relationship!i stand by the saying if you love someone you let them go... blah blah blah.what do you guys think? is he just messing about or if I hold out for a few weeks will he realize his error? i would never put my life on hold for him, in fact I'm quite enjoying being single and having my own life, but I do miss him a lot...
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If you enjoy your single life, I say be single until you know you want to be back with him. If you do miss him and WANT to be back with him, then you guys should date again. But if you just miss him as a friend, just be friends and be casual. But don't play around with his feelings as he will think you are leading him on because you like being single while he doesn't. If you want him back, I say reply to it and don't seem needy. He will be happy you replied. I bet he was thinking of you all day til you reply too. That was how it was with me and my ex. He would wait and wait til I would reply. I took days and he would send me another text and even establish that if I had something wrong. But if you want to be serious, I suggest talking on the phone rather than shooting a text again. Say hey give me a call sometime. Texts seem so childish in my book. My ex would text me but I hate replying to the text... so finally he called and I talked to him. It was way better to hear his voice and hear that he was sincere.
What Guys Said 2
Go to him in person, and tell him I miss you and love you, I wanna work things out. He chased you. You need to show him that effort now. Cause you haven't for the past 2 months.. I suggest you do it fast too.
If your with someone for a long time there are feelings you'll have for that person the rest of your life. You just can't forget the past but it is the past and you can't bring it back. If you really miss him tell him. If you don't miss him be nice and say thank you and it was good to see him to. Don't be mean and hurt him more I'm sure there has been enough pain. Breakup always hurt both.
What Girls Said 3
Ok firstly he broke up with you right? I think your doing a great job for keeping so calm about him missing you and wanting you back. What I think you should do now is figure out why you broke up and why your relationship didn't workout the first time... and also take into consideration he may think he misses you but he prob just misses having that companionship and because he doesn't have noone else his going back to you and seeing you with other guys is getting the best of him which is making him want you more. but I beleive there are or their should not be ne games in love if you still care for him and he does too and its genuine and you both have talked aboiut it get back together and stop kidding yourself none of this game playing if you love each other truly you should be together =]
i dated a guy for 2 years and he's told me he missed me. honestly, I know he just can't make up his mind... of course he misses me, but he lost that chance when he dumped me 2 years ago.
I MEAN HELL if you want him back then tell him that you miss him, butit seems like he's not over you and wants to kno your every move, which isn't cool wen you want to be done with him,but if you want him back, just take your time getting back with him, and also think why you broke up and if it might happen again. good luck girlie :D