If a man does the breaking up with a woman, does he also take time to get over her? Is he also upset?
My ex of two and a half years broke up with me about five weeks ago for reasons (in his words) "not to do with the relationship". When we were together, he really loved me and would tell me every day that he was lucky to have me. When I asked him about why exactly he broke up with me, he said that it was because he is going through something at the moment, "he didn't like the person he was becoming", and that he could see he was beginning to treat me badly. He didn't want us to end up resenting each other six months down the track, and he didn't want to keep hurting me. He said he loved me, he would always love me, and that for that time I was the most important thing in his life. When I asked him if when he was ready he would come back, he said yes. He was extremely upset when we broke up, just as much as I was if not more, I haven't seen a guy cry like that ever.
For three weeks after that, he would keep contacting me, much more than I did him, acting like he did before we broke up. Until the very end when we were out one night at a function we went to together and I was about to ask him to give me some space. He interrupted me and exploding that I had to accept it was over forever, and "get over it". Then when I asked him why he said he would come back, he said it was "because it was what you wanted to hear", and when I asked why he was doing this, I knew he wasn't like this, he said it was because he's "an arsehole, a ****", and that obviously. I was crying at this point, and he stood up, muttered "I can't keep doing this, I can't keep having the same conversation over and over", and stormed off.
We haven't spoken since, but I have bumped into him a few times around campus, but I just blank him as I don't know what to do or say. He reacts weirdly, by looking at me in this funny way. We were extremely close as friends before dating as well, he has always maintained I was one of his best friends.
What I want to know is, why hasn't he contacted me since, and would he be as upset about this as me? Is there any chance for us to be friends after this at the very least? What should I do? I want to give it some time before doing anything as I need to get over this, but I think at the very least I deserve an apology for the way he was to me that night. Do you think he will contact me ever again? I just want some consolation that he feels as sad or as regretful as I do, and that maybe there is a chance for us to be in each other's lives.
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