My ex hates me...I love him... (Guys your opinions please)

[Anonymous]

how do I change this? He hates me because of all of the things I have done since our break up. I have been crazy to say the least. I have called, emailed, texted, and I've tried to break him and his current girlfriend up by showing him who she really is but he refuses to see it. I just want to know how I redeem myself and get back in his good graces if that is possible. I hope to one day reconcile but obviously right now it's not going to happen if ever. Please give me some advice.

[Anonymous]

Ok from a girl's view of the situation: I have not been in the same one but I have done the calling, texting, emailing before after my boyfriend broke up with me! It was so hard that I had to make myself noticed by him or else I'd feel like he never thought about me. If he wants you, he will come to you. So just tell him you're sorry and say you'll never bother him again. He might be like thanks and be relieved for now. But when he doesn't hear from you after a while, he may forgive you. If you plan on waiting for him to break it off with the girl, he may come to you if you show him you are civilized and not being a jealous girl and is still the nice girl he dated. It really depends on him and how he acts with past girlfriends too.

With mine, after all that craziness I did (and crying on the phone), a month later he began feeling like he missed me and wondering how I was. He then wanted to hang out. You just have to show him that you're not available and missing... don't make him jealous if you think he still likes you. But if you do date someone, make sure you're dating him because you do like the guy. Usually I find jealousy as an immaturity to get back at someone and it also can backfire as it is now with my own ex. (I'm just getting disgusted at it. He's not dating or in a relationship but he flirts with other girls.) Anyway, it's all a test to see if he really wants to be your friend in the end and if he values you. It's just like how any friendship is...

[itzzxhypnotik]

i know you asked for guys advice but I was in this situation. trying to break him and his girlfriend up and stuff. eventually I did. but he hated me after I broke them up. we're sort of friends now but so much more has happened. we could've gotten back together but I lead him on AGAIN and changed my mind (thats why he hated me for awhile longer). what helped me is to just back off. move on. leave them alone. they'll end if she's a bad person and maybe you 2 will rekindle your friendship or relationship. it will take months though. so I'd move on for now. and if it happens, decide what to do then. but for now, leave him be. best of luck

[Reeses-pieces777]

if he refuses to see it and he doesn't want anything to do with you, you can't bend his will then. the thing is it's a one way thing

when it's a one way thing then one will feel left out (usually the persuer) and the one who doesn't want anything to do with the other person has already run away

my advice is to find th eone for you and not go after a guy who is obviously not interested. I'm sorry. but the best thing is to move on in this case

[nyubabe01]

I think the only way to make up for all your craziness is to just give him space. Don't call, text, or email him. Let him wonder what made you stop all of a sudden instead of constantly trying to see him and win him back. Do not, I repeat, do not keep bothering him. It will only push him away more. I know it's hard girl, but it needs to be done.

[MikeTwo]

That guy sounds like a douchebag!

[Asker]

Why does he sound like a douche bag? Just curious