When it's not right, it's not right...why stay in a relationship and cheat when you can be done with it and see who you want when you want. Cheating is silly and a waste of time. Also, I had one X that cheated on me like all the time LOL! I really didn't care because I wasn't doing him because I was suspicious of his behavior...Turned out my woman's intuition was accurate.
Actually it was funny because he left his phone at my place by accident& I hacked his code, read his text msgs from females that he cheated with and his text messages to the girls were like 'I made some bad choices and cheated on my Girlfriend and she's the best thing that ever happened to me so I'm not dealing with you anymore...no calls, no texts and I won't be seeing you again'...like to 8 girls LOL!
As I was reading his texts, some woman was calling my number asking me if I knew her husband Mike. Mike gave me the creeps when I spoke to him, was just annoying and would not stop calling me so I just kept rejecting his calls & told him I would pass on meeting him at all KICK ROCKS.
MIKES WIFE informed me that it was good that I didn't ever meet with him because she called everyone on his phone bill...LOL Mike had the gift that keeps on giving H E R P E S and was passing it around all over the country. Mike traveled from ATL up the east coast, through the mid-west and was on his way to the West Coast...testing phoneline signals. The wife was pregnant with their 2nd kid and found out during a series of screenings during her pregnancy.
So...for all you cheaters out there LOL I'm not gonna lecture, I'm just gonna say Karma may just bite you in the azz when you least expect it. Whether you're single or not doesn't mean that you should involve yourself with someone who is not single...you may just end up taking medication for life or losing your life. Personally, I believed the guys wife because info my guy friend gave me about Mike matched up with most of what the wife was saying after I told my friend to get rid of the guy since he was persistant...
Oh, when my cheating X came home I didn't mention his text messages at all, but I did tell him what occured with the woman looking for people who screwed her husband LOL. My X kept on cheating and eventually I busted him , he felt guilt for about 2 weeks. I only have my woman's intuition which told me not to 'do' him and not to cheat on him. I could have played myself and ended up with an STD and no...I did not let my X kiss me at all. Ha Ha! Everything that looks good isn't always good for you and everything that's easy shouldn't be done. KRL
I have never cheated on anyone but I did flirt a lot with a friends boyf last year. He was very charismatic so it was hard not to flirt with him. I eventually drew a line under the sand and started behaving rather cooly towards him-id just say hi how are you but thatd be it. I could see that my frnd was gettin bit p*ssed off but it was nowhere near bad enuf to confront me. I didn't want to fall out with the frnd so I quit. I had gotten into a habit of flirting with other pplease boyfs-not all the time but I would be drawn to what I couldn't have and think "Oh why are all the nice guys taken?" I never had any intention of actually stealing anyones boyf, it was more about being jealous of people in relationships and thinking "I want that" rather than getting my own. I felt really guilty about it and gave myself a hard time of it but I've learned my lesson. I wouldn't cheat cos if I was with someone, I would do my best to make a go of it.
After that, I resolved never to flirt wit a frnds boyf again. Its not cheating but its still not right. I find that guys in relationship will still respond to flirty girls whereas girls seem more loyal. not all the time, it depends on what kind of person they are and how much they like the other person.
I think I've been cheated on but I wouldve dumped him anyway so it was no loss. I've seen other men cheat on women though so I think I know the "signs" if someone was cheating on me now. I would really rely on my intuiton cos no-ones going to tell u
I have never cheated and am planning on not doing it.
I use to cheat. My wife lost interest in sex when she became a mother. I ended up loosing interest in her because I was tried of the rejection. I did not leave at that time, because I wanted to be with my daughter.
Now I am remarried, and NEVER cheat. Because I would not promise monogamy again. We agreed to an open marriage, so cheating is not possible. Yes, she has the same freedom I have. Seven years of marriage bliss, we are very happy, and we have great sex together.
I believe most people do not cheat. But more do than use to. We are a society of people who have decided we "want what we want" and rarely go without it. Many married people are unhappy, and more and more, they are allowing themselves the pleasure of a lover.
I wonder if we should put so much emphases on sex. It is a Christian thing, and the bible is full of stories of men who slept around. King David, (apple of God's eye) had more than one wife, and several girlfriends. He was God's favorite person. Why did God love such a cheater?
I think we have been over programmed to react the a body function, and in the process, set ourselves up for disappointment. We live 78 years (on average), and to have to choose ONE person to enjoy sex with for the rest our lives is nearly impossible. Why not make it easier and say, "no matter what either of us do, we will love each other for the rest of our lives". Aside from physical and mental abuse, of course.
Good Luck,
James
I cheated once, but it was a complex situation.
Basically I was going out with Simone, but Simone and I couldn't see each other very much (between work, uni, and placements we kept having schedule conflicts). Jessica (Simone's best friend) was in my uni classes, so we had the same days off. So Simone suggested that Jessica and I 'keep each other company' since we were both pretty much hermits.
One thing lead to another and I ended up kissing (which if intimate, I consider cheating) Jessica. I told Simone the next day but Jessica had beat me to it, and Simone was not upset at all. She pretty much said she thought it might happen, and that at least we'll keep each other happy.
Fast forward about 1year, and Jessica and I were still going out, but neither of us loved the other. Don't get me wrong, we were good friends, but I still loved Simone, and she was in love with another guy (unrequited). One day Jessica invited Simone to dinner, and she said that it was stupid, I loved Simone, she loved me, and we should be going out. Dumped me and Simone and I started going out again.
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Now a few years down the track, it's not exactly the most 'normal' of situations, but at the time it all made sense. Simone and I are still good friends with Jessica (who's now got a boyfriend of about 1yr) and so it's all worked out happy.
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College had a friends with benefits with a girl at home who was doing the same. We both just looked the other way. I do not think its right but many people do. When someone can't keep it zipped if they are alone for a weekend the person really has a problem. There are times that someone can understand more times than others like someone talking advantage of a man or woman at a tough time in their life like when a parent or someone passes and that does happen to people.
There are people who say once a cheater always a cheater and I totally disagree because i did not after that and have been married 17 years and am in a sexless marrriage. If anyone has a reason to its me. That is not to say i would not but i am trying my best.
I also do not buy into the you can't love someone if you cheat on them. Things happen i would not throw my marriage away if wee had a normal sex life and my wife had once fling. I would be pissed. It would take time but i would not throw it away. If someone could the same question could be asked how much could they have meant if one mistake ends the relationship
I have cheated before. There's really no excuse, but I agree with the guy who said love often has nothing to do with it. I loved my boyfriend and the time, we were just having problems. I wouldn't say I was unhappy, but things were just different and I didn't want to break up with him because like I said, I loved him and I didn't want to be without him. But I was hanging out with a friend and he was comforting me while I told him about my relationship problems and he kissed me. And I kissed him. We made out and that's really all that happened and afterwards I felt no guilt. I don't know why, but I didn't. I am still in a relationship with him and its been 22 months. We're in love. I had 2 different boyfriends while we went on a break though and one was super religious and had never even kissed a girl before me and I guess my sexual tension built up and I had sex with someone I talked to to back in the day. I also cheated on my other boyfriend with this guy because I thought he was hideous. That sounds mean but it got to the point where I was telling him I was grounded so we couldn't hang out. After my long term boyfriend and I got back together I realized how much I love him and would never cheat on him again. I think people cheat because there's something missing, or they just fall into a situation by accident. I don't know though.
In long term committed relationships, less than 20%. I think that more people should cheat than do. It is far too common for people to get trapped in sexless relationships and have no sexual outlet due to a monogamous commitment to someone who unilaterally changes the rules.
fwiw, when I was younger, I wound up cheating on pretty much everyone I date. I didn't mean to hurt anyone, I just like sleeping with different people. After a few years, I started dating people who didn't require monogamous commitment and my life got a lot better. My relationships tend to last a lot longer that the monogamous relationships I used to have.
Cheating = Not in LOVE
Not in Love = Quit with the Boy-/Girlfriend
So why cheat and hurt your "supposedly beloved one" when you could simply quit the relationship. It's just that simple. If you cheat, it's over. If I ever were to cheat on a girlfriend, it would be over.
I'd call myself lucky if I were to have a girlfriend and NEVER (and this is a word I RARELY say), NEVER would I cheat on my girlfriend!
I would say the more important question would be if someone would cheat if the chance arose and the chances of getting found out was zero when thought through.
I must admit I probably would but until that situation arises (and I doubt it would but sometimes wish it did for my own ego boost) then I shall never know if I would go through with it.
I would probably think it was an actress and a sting set up by my wife so would probably act like captain cornball with a stern "I'm a happily married man with children!" then await the cameras and my praising wife who will of course award me a coupon book of oral favours.
I have had 2 ex's cheat on me and it was devastating. I have never cheated and even became physically sick when I tried to do it as a payback to my last ex who was cheating. My friends even laughed at the thought of me trying to cheat saying it was not possible for me to do it because I am not that sort of person.
My opinion is that if you feel you need to cheat then you shouldn't be in a relationship. Being drunk is the worst excuse ever. There is just no excuse for it. Don't do it. Leave your relationship then go and screw around.
Physical & Emotional cheating is wrong. Kissing, extreme flirting, giving out phone numbers with the intent to do it are all forms of cheating.
I think this poll needs to be 2 polls actually. One for married folks and one for singles. The reason I suggest this is because when you're single, there are no legal obligations and you can simply break up with someone to sleep with another easily, then get back together and say you NEVER cheated.
On the other hand, when you're married, the temptation is out there, but you have this huge responsibility of marriage which you can't just simply shake off. So if you pursue someone new, then you're cheating.
So 2 polls. please.
Honestly never cheated. I would not like my boyfriend to cheat on me. I'm too much into him. I believe in being loyal to him. BUT I do know of a lot of couples who have... It's a strange world. People find it fun, a rush, something naughty, etc. that they could 'get away' with... only to be feeling guilty or getting caught.
People need morales. They need to know to let the person go if they want to just have fun. It's not fun being the other person who gave it their all to keep the relationship stable.
But what is our definition of cheating? Is it strictly physical, or are including emotional cheating,which can be even worse. They're both terrible, but to have your significant other have sex with someone once when they were drunk in my eyes is less of an offense than if they've been hanging out exclusively with a coworker, and telling them their hopes, fears, and complaints about their reltionship. After all, the workplace is where over 80% of affairs begin. It's tricky. People need to learn to communicate honestly and openly in a relationship, and learn not to take offense to someone else's feelings. It takes work.
I have never cheated,because I don't know I just never did.I had a few nice relationships(The rest were okay) and I can understand why people cheat.People who want more and cheat do it,because they don't wanna be a lone.Now I know most people been in a place where they were alone and hated it and just wanted that one person...while even when they get it sometimes ,because of excuses they make up them selfs they decide to cheat and like the fact that even if the girl they are cheating without behind there lover fails they always have that one girl in there life and it's a "O well at least I still have my girl".
I feel no one should CHEAT and I feel that you should just break up or discuss it with ur lover before making moves on another.I know it's hard and I know there are some who been so loney and been in a sad place,but try to do the right thing.
Peace!
I always thought that if you have the urge to cheat consistantly then that is evidence enough that there is something wrong and you need to get the hell out before you actually do.
I just can't forgive cheating, so I've never done it and I never plan to. I mean...I have a really hard time being vulnerable to people, so if I find someone I can be vulnerable around I want to do everything I can not to screw it up. On the same note, if I've exposed myself to someone emotionally and physically, they should be faithful to me.
80%! Come on now. Ether people are being dishonest or most have been in very few relationships, if any.
Also… girls are the bigger cheaters. Dam! Maybe society needs to redirect its outrage. We men should be the one’s bitching and moaning about loyalty issues not women.
Oh wait… this pole holds no validity. Sorry continue on.
I've been in relationships but never cheated...but I've also been single and was the other guy, so technically I've never cheated on anyone that I've been with. It's never been with a married woman, though, this may happen soon, but I don't think I can do that to someone I'm with, regardless of how strong or weak our relationship is... sounds pretty double-standardish, but, if a dame is in relationship and she needs to get her rocks off, (so long as I don't know or care about the guy) we'll make it happen.
I cheated in my relationship of three years by getting with a guy friend in his bedroom, which in my opinion isn't too bad as far as cheating goes. However, my concious got the better of me and I ended up telling my partner, he took it terribly and ended the relationship and can't even talk to me since. I have more been the person that guys cheat on their girlfriends with, which sounds terrible but I either didn't know they had a girlfriend or were on the verge of a break up.
I have cheated in my life however I am not proud of my actions, maybe I am even ashamed but I tell myself that I didn't do it on purpose to hurt someones feelings and I did it with the best intentions, honest.
I have never cheated and I don't think I ever will. When I am actually in a relationship, I have chosen a person who I think I will be happy with, I take my time and let things develop naturally. I am nit honestly sure if everyone cheats but I know that I don't. Hope this helps!
I can understand why people cheat, they want to be have a relationship but at the same time have variety in their sex partners. For those who feel that way I suggest having a "open relationship".
Me personally, I would never cheat. Those who cheat have no respect at all for their partners, what kind of a relationship is that? I would rather break up than cheat.
I never had any girlfriend due to personal reasons (I follow a principle). The principle which I follow takes care of cheating. So, cheating is far away. Why be in a relationship when you have to cheat and break the heart of your loved one? Why fall in love if you had to cheat ?
I have cheated on my wife with 5 women.
I have been married for 5 years.
I have had sex with these 5 other women more times than I have had sex with my wife (which says a lot seeing as my wife and I have sex about 1-2 times a week)
I think that it is just natural for us to cheat.
Ive never cheated.
People cheat when they aren't getting what theyre looking for from their partner.
I always try to work things out and if they can't be worked out then its time to end it.
Then I can get what I'm looking for without cheating on anyone.
I have never cheated on my wife of 7 years. But like any honest guy, I think I would if some girl as pretty or even hotter than my wife was begging for it, and we stood little chance of being caught. That’s why I don’t go on vacation without my wife. I’ve been honest with her about this, and just hope we can pick up another hottie together one day. I am considering turning Mormon fundamentalist to work it all out.
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