Why do dumpers treat you like crap when he/she doesn't have any reason to?

[Anonymous]

The ex of a friend of mine broke up a month ago saying she needs time to deal with stress and what not, which he agreed on.
Now a few weeks later she blocked him on EVERYTHING. I do still follow/friends with her and now i see her post stuff like *don't blame the other person for your disappointments, blame yourself for expecting to much.* Now before you say something avout the bf. I know him my whole life and i can tell you that i've never seen a more honourable and sweet person. So we all KNOW that he did everything that was needed to make her happy, but seeing this made him go nuts with insecurities.

Now i ask this of you as i wish for him to understand it better. Why does she post things like this when SHE did the dumping, SHE beeing mad at him for some reason and now this.

He doesn't deserve this treatment, he is really one of those good guys.

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They had it going for 8 months

[XRabbitHeartX]

She's just a really immature person. A ex who left me was the same... broke up with me for no legit reason and then friggen blocked me too :( With my last ex that I broke up with I went out of my way to be kind to him because I know what it's like to be broken up with and to then be treated unfairly. That kind of back fired cause he took my friendliness as a sign of me still wanting him and then when I eventually did tell him I really am not interested he switched up and completely deleted me from his life which is fair enough I guess considering as to how I did leave him but at the end I still think it's immature.

This girl has no valid reason to treat him like that so I'd really just pass it off to her having lots of issues and not being mentally grown up yet enough to handle a break up with dignity and tact.

[DarkHorse24]

That just proves that she's a bi*** who doesn't deserve a good guy that treats her well.

[Anonymous]

I have dumped girls before and in order for me to get over them and move on, I couldn't have them in my life in any way, shape or form, so I cut them off.

It's harsh treatment, I agree, but I can understand why someone would do it. Dumping someone isn't easy for the dumper, it's a tough decision to make especially when you care about someone but hard choices need to be made and in these situations it requires a bit of selfishness on the part of the dumper to put themselves first in order to close the chapter and open a fresh one.

[Asker]

But why dump a guy like him and treat him like crap afterwards? It hurt him about beeing blocked but he didn't let it get down to him, what he's annoyed about is the posts she's putting on Facebook

[Opinion Owner]

I don't try and look deeply into other people's relationships, for all I know your friend may have done something behind closed doors which hurt her and prompted her decision, maybe he did nothing at all and she has behaved poorly. I cannot say as I don't know the people involved or what has happened. What I will say is her venting on Facebook is her trying to save face so to speak.

Think of it this way, when a Boxer gets punched in the face, he will often smile and tell the other boxer and the spectators watching that the punch never hurt them etc, this is what she is doing on Facebook. She's hurt, she's upset and she's putting on a brave face as to show everyone who knows her and follows her on Facebook and elsewhere that is she a strong woman.

I think it's classless on her part, it's in poor taste and I think she will regret doing it in the future, but it is what it is. Your friend needs to forget about what she is doing and focus on himself. He's obviously hurt.

[Opinion Owner]

and her peacock posturing has no doubt added to the hurt, but the best thing he can do is just take one day at a time and he'll come around. You can't keep a good man down for too long, he'll back up on his feet before too long.

[Asker]

That is true, but after a month he still sometimes cry when i'm with him you know, to tell him that she is just a moroun and she will come back... Seeing a bro hurt like that makes me mad myself

[Opinion Owner]

You're a good friend and he needs people like you around and a month isn't a very long time for someone to get someone out of their system. Just as long as he knows he has a good level of support around him and he is getting better slowly but surely with each passing day then he'll be okay in the end.

[Asker]

True, although i do wish that she got some sense knocked into her, that smile he would always get when he mentioned her sometimes, made us mis him.