"I just want to know if I'm at risk of losing him, or if he's just playing with me and using me for a place to live or something..."
You never "have him", from the beginning to now. And, he is using you as a crutch. What do you expect a drowning person to do when s/he sees ANYTHING that looks like floating? Tell the truth? No. S/he doesn't say anything, s/he just grab onto that OBJECT instinctively.
You are right when you said "I knew if was probably a rebound". Time has proven to you, that your gut feelings were right. If you don't "learn" to listen to yourself, and instead listen to what other people (i.e. the world at large) say, the same kind of experience will happen again, again, and again, ALL your life, until you know when to listen to yourself. These "lessons of life" come with different packaging, some investors lost, lost, and lost, and every time they would say, "I just knew that xyz whatever is a bad buy, but the broker was so convincing...". Some say it practically into their 70s. Truly miserable.
This is no small thing. You're fighting a war with yourself. i.e. You don't trust yourself/gut feelings. And this is serious. That guy is just a pawn, there will be others.
The real issue which you need to figure out is "WHY am I not listening to my own gut feelings? WHY, WHY, WHY?" Think back, over the past years, this is probably not the first time you "lost" by ignoring your own gut feelings?
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How to know when it is over?
Step 1 Be realistic. If you're being abused, hurt, cheated on or lied to, it's time to cut your losses and get out.
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Think about the future you're creating. If your partner is jealous, obsessive, possessive or overly emotional, consider the extra burden you are carrying in dealing with those behaviors.
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Is he a shameless flirt? Is she bossy? demanding? insecure? These are more signs of a rocky road ahead.
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Do you truly enjoy each other's company, or do you find yourself relieved whenever you part company? If the latter, it doesn't bode well.
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Evaluate your role in maintaining the relationship. If you feel as if you're doing all the work, it's time to talk or walk.
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Does he promise to call and then forget? Is she terminally late? Be honest with yourself. Is this what you want?
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Do you feel accepted and appreciated? If not, move on.
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He is cheating emotionally. It sounds like there are still lingering feelings between them. He definitely still has feelings for her, and the fact that he is hiding convos from you supports this.
Are you a rebound? I am sorry to say this but I think this might be the case. Either that or a distraction from the break up. I am just trying to be honest. I do not want to add to your pain.
I think you need to back away. It will be difficult for you and I know that you love him. However, how is this situation fair to you? What are you getting out of this but pain? Furthermore, he needs to make up his mind, her or you. Until he makes a clean break from the ex (meaning zero contact) then I think you need to move on.
The decision is yours. Good luck.
I don't know. That situation sounds a little shaky.
2 weeks wasn't really enough time to heal from that relationship.
I mean obviously they still have feelings for each other especialy if
they are sending I love you texts. Tough call girl but If that were me I would
leave him alone. Your sharing him and I want a man that's ALL MINE- his
attention should not be ANYWHERE else.
Good Luck Hun :)
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Even if he's not cheating on you he is obviously still hung up on his ex.
There's nothing wrong with staying friends with an ex or having female friends in general, but this is not a normal friendship. He shouldn't be treating you like this and you shouldn't be letting him. If I were you I'd end it and tell him to go back to his ex while you move forward with your life.
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