I accidentally cheated on my boyfriend?

Question

Okay, people will obviously judge me but please at least listen.

Basically I accidentally had sex with one of my boyfriend's guy friends while at a party. We kinda talked then he took me into a room and well I kinda got a little interested and we started having sex... Then my boyfriend came in and got very mad and broke up with me a few days ago.

I feel so upset, and I really want my boyfriend and let him understand that it was a freaking accident!!! But he won't talk to me, so what should I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I really don't want to sound like I am just trying to lecture you, but it may come off that way. Listen to the words you use. "it was a freaking accident!!!" You don't even sound like you feel guilty when you use words like that. It sounds like you don't think you did anything wrong.

The first thing you need to do is to admit it wasn't an accident. You made a choice, that had some negative consequences for you. That is all it was. There is no spinning it into making you sound innocent of any wrong doing. The fact you haven't accepted any responsibility just makes you sound even worse. Maybe you are just choosing your words poorly, but stop calling it an accident. It makes you look like you are refusing to admit you screwed up. In fact going by your words alone it sounds like the only thing you regret is getting caught, and feel no quilt for betraying your boyfriend.

If you are wanting to get back together with him, then you need to accept a few things. Even the two of you get back together your relationship will never be the same again. He will never have the same level of trust or respect for you again. He will think you are sleeping with all of your male friends from now on, and it won't be due to his insecurities as a man. It will because of your actions. He may even continue to use it as a weapon against you in every argument from now on, just because it is convenient for him.

As far as getting back with him. That depends on the guy. Work on at least getting to a point he will talk to you, and accept responsibility. He didn't just lose your trust, but also a great deal of respect for you. Taking responsibility for your actions will help a lot.

This is the time to lose your pride and kiss ass. Tell him that you understand that you took him for granted, and realize how horrible and selfish you have been. Let him know that you are willing to work on yourself, and that you understand it will take a long time before he has any trust for you again.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

how was it an accident? you started to fall, your pants ripped open and you happened to fall on his penis (which for some reason his pants were off)?

lets not call this an accident. a mistake maybe but it's not an accident. frankly if you want your boyfriend back the best you can do is apologize profusely. Don't insult him with that accident b. s. tell him you f*cked up and you'll spend the rest of your life trying to make it up to him and rebuild trust.

but if he says no, there isn't much you can do beyond that

NerdInDenial · Accepted Answer

Let it go... Let it go... Let it go... There's nothing you can do. More importantly, there's no such thing as having sex accidentally. You knew what you were doing when you went up to that room. You wanted the sex; now, you have to deal with the consequences. Accept responsibility first.

emmabee11 · Accepted Answer

Were you drunk at all? if not then you knew what you were doing, there is no "accidently" having sex with someone if you wasn't really drunk or intoxicated with any drugs... you saw how the situation was heading, you saw that his BEST FRIEND OF ALL PEOPLE! was hitting on you... the moment he started getting more "friendly" with you is the moment you should of thought about your bf and backed off but you didn't... which suggests you don't care half as much about your bf as you say to him... If you were drunk though you definitely have a shot at him forgiving you, but if you weren't drunk... sorry... no going back there.

FlyingTurtle · Accepted Answer

You can't cope with the fact that you cheated on your boyfriend, so you're hiding behind the word "accident". Go to therapy and come to terms with the fact that you fucked up.
And then apologize to your boyfriend, forgive yourself, and move on vowing to try to do better.
Everyone has their vices. Denying your fault is petty and childish. Be brave. Admit it. Own it. Attone for it as best you can. You made a shitty choice. Doesn't mean you have to be a shitty person.

CHARismatic110 · Accepted Answer

I would've respected you a little more if you hadn't put accidentally in there. Because let's face it, this was no accident. You cheated. Period. He's not gonna understand that it was an accident because it wasn't. Try coming at him with the truth. You fucked up and you're sorry.

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

You didn't "accidentally" have sex. You made the conscious decision to do it, at least be a woman and own up to your poor choices. You got caught and he ended it. There's nothing you can do now except learn from this and move on.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

totally reminded me of this how fucking often do accidents like this occur lol.

Unit1 · Answer

Can't take this one seriously (by accident) so I'm leaving a recipe for waffles. You need:

2 eggs
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 3/4 cups milk
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1 tablespoon white sugar
4 teaspoons baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

1) Preheat waffle iron. Beat eggs in large bowl with hand beater until fluffy. Beat in flour, milk, vegetable oil, sugar, baking powder, salt and vanilla, just until smooth.

2) Spray preheated waffle iron with non-stick cooking spray. Pour mix onto hot waffle iron. Cook until golden brown. Serve hot.

posted · Answer

YOU'LL NEVER BELIEVE THIS GUYS, SO I WAS SO WET, I SLIPPED AND FELL ONTO HIS DICK (which was for some reason already hard and out of his pants), THEN ALL THE MOMENTUM FROM FALLING MADE ME REBOUND UP AND DOWN A FEW TIMES AND THEN HE SLIPPED BACK ONTO THE WATER BED AND IT HAPPENED AGAIN!

Hoes be hoes.

DodgersGM · Answer

OMGGGGGGGGG, it's an "I accidentally cheated question. These are my favoritest!!! 💚💚💚

martyfellow · Answer

Roar with laughter. You made my day with this one. Really.  Well, maybe he accidentally broke up with you.

Japan02 · Answer

so you're telling me...

Watermelonoma · Answer

*reaction after reading question title* *reaction after reading everything*

NateInAk · Answer

"Whoa, he slipped! It just happened! I don't even know how, it was like, our clothes were on, then we both slipped and suddenly he was inside me. I just don't know."
Ok, you cheated on him, y'all are gonna have to deal with that, but there's just no way you can call having sex with someone like that an "accident"

Bandit74 · Answer

Oh for fucks sake! you cheated, fine but don't say it was accidentally. You choose to do it. Own up to it.

If you were my girlfriend and said "hey bandit I accidentally cheated on you" that is soooo fucking insulting.

seriously and think about this, if your boyfriend cheated on you and said he did it accidentally, would you really accept that answer?

I really doubt it

Theguyoverthere · Answer

The only way it can be an "accident" is if you were raped and it is obvious that you weren't. Don't try to sugar coat what you did. Do him a favor and leave him alone so he doesn't have to remember seeing you cheat on him.

StopLookingAtMe · Answer

Let it goooo, let it goooo,
there isn't anything you can do
Let it goooo, let it goooo,
You and your ex-boyfriend are through

Learn from now,
that if you choose lay
with another man
You weren't really committed anyway.

SweetLily89 · Answer

"Kinda", "Accidentally" Is only making light of the situation.. Hate to be mean but you F**k up and you know it. You don't accidentally spread your legs to him and he didn't trip on a f**cking banana and fell inside you..

I'd say your ex was being unreasonable if you were passed out and he raped you, but it's pretty damn clear you knew exactly what you were doing.. Kudos to your ex for having some self respect..

sammy_31 · Answer

Yeah and I accidently ate pizza today instead of my salad.
#TrueStory. Basically you and I choose to do something that we shouldn't have done but chose to do, it was NO accident. We know the consequences, I will get a little fatter and you will lose your boyfriend.

Real answer, it wasn't an accident you consciously chose to do something wrong and cheat. You don't trip on to a guys D and screw him, girl please. Pay the consequences and woman up, admit your wrong doings and talk to your bf.

zorro8888 · Answer

Right... and I accidently tripped and fell into a girl's vagina. That makes sense -_- You cheated willingly and now you guys are done.

bomba78 · Answer

how do you "accidentally" head to a room, take your clothes off, make out and open your legs?
This is not blue lagoon you know...

Every step you took into that room and into this guys pants was a concious decicion from your part. You could have stopped ANY time.

What should you do? Forget about him and get your shit together

PiuBelloAmante · Answer

lmao! wheeeewwww!
haha! that doesn't sound like an accident!

poor dude, he lost a gf and friend on the same day...
i hope he moves on and you get stuck by yourself for a while...
things like that don't happen by accident, try developing your super ego/ego a bit you Id is way to dominant

LaGronio · Answer

So... did you accidentally land on his tool?

Honestly, I feel like you knew exactly what you were doing, but, because you were caught and justifiably punished, you're crying "I'm sorry." just fess up that you were wrong and it was your (and the guy youh cheated with) faults. Unless, of coarse, he didn't even know you had a boyfriend.

Prof_Don · Answer

No accidents here, cupcake. Unless he genuinely raped you, YOU are responsible as well. Take this as a lesson learned.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Move on. That relationship is so far dead they're using it to fuel cars.

Eugene · Answer

The way I see it.

I accidentally cheated on my boyfriend?

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