Cut all contact with ex...is she sad/hurting like I am? Why won't she contact me?

My ex girlfriend broke up with me. She said she still loved me but she needed time alone. She said she would miss me etc. She didn't want to be 'friends with benefits' just in case one of us got hurt 'if we went off with another person' . I deleted her from Facebook, and cut contact

I said we couldn't be friends. Then that night, I get a text message saying: 'I've thought about everything, you're right, we can't be friends, we can't be anything at all. It's sad but you're right'

I think she said 'you're right a few too many times there ha. I didn't reply, and I am emotionally in bits the past week. How can she just dump me and then cut contact with me? If she really loved me, wouldn't she STRIVE to be my friend? Is she hurting as much as I am? It has only been a week but why won't she call? Did she send me that message to call my bluff, or to pretend to agree with me? HELP...

Updates:
Update: I added her on Facebook over Christmas, to extend the olive branch. And sent her a text. She replied to the text: 'thanks, and same to you'. She added me on Facebook, and then deleted me off of it a few hours later. I'm so confused..

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  • You don't understand; she still loves you and is hurting as much as you are but she's trying to ease the pain but cutting you out of her life. Trust me, that's the easiest way to go about getting over someone. You should do the same if you're trying to get over her too.

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  • Sometimes it just gets confusing and everything from the past gets dragged up when you see them. She at least needs to establish where she wants her life to go from here before she sees you again. Perhaps she's still attracted to you in some way but knows she shouldn't do anything about it, but doesn't trust herself not to. At least give her some time to get used to being single again and get a clearer idea of what she wants.

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  • yeah it hurts on both sides. and honestly after I date a guy, I don't see him as just friend-if we're serious and we had all those memories and were really close, it's hard for me to see him just as friend-it's not that we don't want to be friends with you, it hurts to do so.

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  • Honestly, people get weird after they break up with eachother, and rightfully so. It's a new chapter, the same rules don't apply. If she broke it off with you and cut off contact with you, that's a strong sign that it isn't going to happen. It sucks, and breakups hurt, and I'm sure she's hurting too, she's just going about it in a different way than you are. Take the time you need to heal and get over her. You'll find someone worthy of your love, just stay positive and don't let the situation jade you from happiness in the future with someone else. There are 6 billion people on earth, you'll live if this one doesn't work out. Ignore her texts, anyone who texts something that important is immature.

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  • She is agreeing with you because she wants you to see that she is not hurting and meeting the needs of your wants... which you deleted her out of her life. If you want her back, I'd take my pride down and make an effort to reach out. It could show her that you still care for her and want her back. Like the guys said, it's a two way relationship. You can take a chance if you want and feel it's right.

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  • Like she said earlier, she needed time alone. And sometimes having your profile on Myspace or Facebook right there doesn't allow her that necessary space. You need to back off and let her breathe. If she wants to speak with you, SHE will seek you out.

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  • Yeah man you're hurting. It sucks when girls make up silly lies at the very end. You're right, if she really loved you, she would be your friend. Actually if she really loved you she wouldn't want to break up with you at all, but she did. And she lied when she did it.

    For that exact reason I always encourage girls who plan on dumping the guy to give an exact statement of reasons for the guys to understand why the relationship fell apart, and what they can do in the future to avoid being dumped again.

    I've only been dumped once myself, she pulled some "we're in two different places in our lives" crap and I told her that she was dumping me and not telling me why. I made her tell me the truth. It hurt, but it helped me understand why it didn't work. I too cut all contact from her.

    It takes 2-3 months to really get over a girl buddy. You're a week in, and it's going to get harder before it gets easier.

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  • She seems to be a bit immature and expects you to passionately chase after her to get her back. Instead of saying this, she is being sarcastic by snapping at you that you both can't be friends or anything at all.

    If she did not have strong feelings for you, she would have never said anything like that.

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  • Why would you cut contact with her if you wanted her to want you back? You're pushing her away from you that's not giving her space.

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  • I'm sorry about ur situation I know it must be tough. You are doing the right thing no contact is the best way to tryget her back. Hopefully in time she will reliase she made a mistake and get in contact with you again to work it out. Also though if she doesn't call no contact will be the fastest way you will get over her.

    Good luck buddy.

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  • She won't call because you said she couldn't. You are sleeping in the bed you made. I have been there, and it sucks. Honestly, love and friendship have absolutely NOTHING to do with each other.

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    • Thanks for answering. Are you saying I should call her? I don't know if I want her, or want to get over her...I would hope that she is as sad as I am...but I suppose she isn't because she dumped me.. :(

    • Yeah call her, show her you're playing mind games. That's really good for your relationship right now. In case you can't tell I'm being sarcastic.

      If you gonna initiate no contact you have to stick to it. Being so needy and desprate will only drive her away even further.

    • Before you call her, you're gonna have to figure out whether you want her back or want her gone. Once you've figured that out, act appropriately. You wonder why she's not contacting you. Well, why aren't you contacting her? It goes both ways.

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