so i have been married for 2.5 years to my wife that i deeply love and we have a 1 year old son. she turned out to be a verbally and emotionally abusive and a cheater that said she had feelings for the other guy since before our marriage. i forgave her several times for unfaithfulness with the same guy but only once was physical as far as i know and thats what she admitted. the past 7 months were terrible, she told me she doesn't love me anymore and can't stand being with me almost on a daily basis. she neglected and rejected all kind of intimicy in those months. i kept trying to fix things and convince her to start all over again and forget the past for the sake of our son and our marriage but she kept rejecting all my efforts and said "dont try to fix things. i will never love you no matter what you do. i dont know how long i can last last like this before i leave" but i kept trying. three weeks ago she left the house with our son while i was crying and asking her not to leave and that i love her.3 days after that she started trying to come back by saying she have changed and sorry and that she regrets what she did and the way she treated me. i decided not to take her back and this still is my decision. and i contacted a lawyer to file divorce. i have to admit that she is a good mother and takes good care of our son and he is so attached to her. so im not willing to dettach my son from his mother and keep everything amicable between us for his sake. she is still trying to convince me to give her another chance by manipulating my emotions by saying that we will harm our son and he will have psycological issues from divorce and that kind of talk. now the problem is that i can't lose contact with her because i pick up my son everyday to see him for 3 hours and to spend 7 hours with him on saturdays or sundays. and this will be the case for the rest of our lives maybe. how to get over those emotions and the love i had and move on while we have to stay in contact?
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I'd be polite and civil but otherwise ignore her. Ignore all of her attempts at her trying to apologize, she's cheated multiple times. Emotionally cheating is still cheating in my opinion. You sound like a great husband and father, all you can do is simply be civil now.
As for getting over her, i'd advise you to fill all of your spare time doing the things that make you happy. You'll still miss her and still care but you need to prove that your will is stronger. You need to be strong for your son and yourself. Are you willing to go through all that pain again with her? Do not allow her to make any conversation unless it's about your son.1