okay, so about 5 days ago me and my girlfriend of 7 months split up. This all started a week before when we fell out over something stupid on a night out which lead to me ending the relationship (massively regretted it) I ended up driving to hers the next morning all hungover and talking things through and she came to the conclusion she doesn't think she can be with me anymore. That's when things started to go downhill. she said she wanted space so I left. we didn't speak for roughly 3 days and them I had a text out of no where saying 'you okay', I replied 'not too bad, you?' she replied 'getting on okay without me then?' so I immediately rang her and said 'listen, can I come pick you up and we'll talk about things?' she agreed. I picked her up and everything seemed fine, like nothing had happened, it was strange. a few days passed and I received a text in the morning off her saying she thinks things have changed and she feels suffocated in the relationship and she wants to be single, I completely broke down. I can't even begin to explain how much I love this girl and how I'd do anything to get her back. it's been 5 days since then, she randomly texts me, usually on a night around 7/8 every other day asking if im okay. like, randomly? out the blue. I don't understand. yesterday I couldn't do it anymore, I said to her, right if you want to move on, I don't want you to text me, because it isn't fair if she's possibly talking to other guys and I'm just on the sidelines waiting for her, as much as it's absolutely crushed me inside and I have absolutely no idea how I'm going to get past this, I had to do it. I've tried my absolute best to not look like an idiot and beg for her back. I dropped her things two nights ago, I said I completely understood her reasons and I accept it, aslong as she's happy I am. but inside I'm dying. we spent every day together, maybe we just need some time apart? I need her. do I have another chance with her?
Girlfriend of 7 months split up with me for feeling too 'suffocated' in the relationship and wanted to be single, don't know what to do?
What Girls Said 1
Can we chat? I might be able to help.
In a summary though it seemed like she was seeing whether or not you had any initiative to text her first and make her feel desired rather than her chasing you.
You broke it off, you came back begging, then she hears nothing from you. It sends mixed messages as though you're only half genuine in wanting her back.0
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What Guys Said 2
Firstly: If this doesn't end well, you WILL get over it. I thought I was going to die of heartache over several different break-ups, and I never did. It's going to suck, but you'll get through it. My remedy has always been absolute radio silence with that person after a break up. Don't see her, don't facebook her, don't text her don't anything. That way you will have time to heal.
However, on a more positive note, you still have a chance. Don't kick yourself too hard. And don't overthink your or her messages and actions. Though it is extremely important to actually think at least a little but. I know it's hard and emotions are overbearing. Try to put yourself in her situation and imagine what your deeds and words would have done to you. If you think that through clearly, you will naturally come to understand what you need to do. But that is very dependent on both of your personalities, and the fact that she is most likely a woman, and you, most likely, are not.
A woman feels and reacts differently in these situations, but it's not as if she's from outer space. She will listen to reason and will react to how she thinks she is being treated. If she feels you are desperate, she might be scared off. But she might also find that attractive, because she needs to be wanted. (you will hear a lot of women say those words "I want to be wanted".) Always remember that she is very likely at least as emotional as you are and that she can react as such.
There's a very delicate balance between desperation and the desire to be wanted, and every women has a different sweet spot in that regard. Only you can sense where that spot lies for her yourself. If at all possible, ask women close to you and close to her. They will often know what works for your gene pools. Ask your mother or sister and possibly hers. It helps if you already got along with her family. But watch out when communicating with them, because you can get yourself in the 'desperation pool' if you overdo it.
Good luck to you. Don't despair!1
Let her go for a while, do not try to push things it will make things worse dude1
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