It has been a month since we broke up. We were in a relationship for a year and serious in talking about what we wanted for future. I met his whole family. There were a lot of reoccurring issues, all on my part. I had my doubts about things and did mention them. When I called the break up I was in a bad place. After all our planning for our future, when we broke up he actually said he felt relieved as he didn't have time for a relationship. He wanted to be on his own to pursue personal goals. Yet immediately he tells me he was on Tinder to meet people. Why say you don't have time for a relationship and want to be on your own but are on Tinder to find people. From what I know he is not just messaging on Tinder casually but exchanging numbers for personal conversations. Isn't this pursuing a relationship in another direction? Obviously I must not have meant that much to him if he doesn't feel a loss or is greiving, but quick to find someone new? How do you go from " we are stuck with each other for life" and talking about how we will be when we are 70, to trying to connect with new people so soon after breaking up?
Most Helpful Guy
It's possible he is looking for something without much commitment. I'm not sure why this upsets you, you're the one who broke up with him. As soon as you did that you lost the right to get upset. In a relationship you have to either stick it out or let them go, you can't just cling to him.0
Most Helpful Girl
He probably just wants to enjoy the newness of a romantic connection again.
My older brother used to do that all the time before he found his current girlfriend. I think it's just because he enjoys the refreshed feeling of a new romantic experience/a clean slate of attraction. I also think it has something to do with patching up any "confidence leaks" after a long term relationship where some things may have been said or done that made him (or other guys) feel bad about themselves. A man's ego can be a very fragile, delicate thing and if it is cracked then they will often seek to repair it with the tits of another woman. Some guys just like the attention; it makes them feel hot and wanted. Don't sweat it. Legit connections typically don't happen so easily. The odds are that it's just romance games and nothing serious.0