Ok so he's 31 and been seeing his girlfriend since August and she's 21. When he started seeing her and he stopped seeing the kids. Then seen them at Christmas then stopped then seen them on the 4th of march for an hour and not seen them since.
His family know he doesn't see his children coz i tell them but they don't want to get involved.
Anyway iv recently found out that they All friends on Facebook (i know this means nothing) but she's part of the reason he doesn't see them. Im stuck at what or how i feel about this. My girls get upset all the time and even though i would love to tell the truth i know i would hurt them so i won't.
Anyway what i want to know is if your son had kids and didn't see them coz they got a new girlfriend what would you do?
Am i in the wrong for thinking they should be a bit off with them both due to the situation. I know if my child would mess about with her childs feelings i would be well pissed and make sure she knew i would also prob not speak to her for abit.
Can someone please help me coz i feel like im going mad
Most Helpful Guy
The best thing you can do for your kids is not to speak ill of their father. He bears the responsibility and the cost for the decisions he makes. If he wakes up and realizes in a few years that he has missed his children's childhood, he has only himself to blame.
Eventually, your children will see their father for how he actually is. Any efforts you make to hasten that understanding, or nudge it in a particular direction, will ultimately lead to hurt, anger, resentment, and perhaps even backlash ("he's not as bad as you say...")
As far as his parents are concerned, look at this as an opportunity for them to step-up. The time that your ex is not spending with the kids is time they can be strengthening loving relationships with their grandparents, aunts and uncles. They shouldn't get in the middle, or interfere with their son -- but if they are wise, they will avail themselves of this opportunity to get closer to their grandkids.0
Most Helpful Girl
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. He doesn't seem to care much about his children so it's not a surprise that his family isn't too bothered either.
No point in letting him see his kids anymore honestly. He can't just pop into their lives when it's convenient to him. Either he's a father or he isn't. That would also make it easier for your kids to cope. Less confusing, more consistent.0