im not going to get into details but a couple weeks ago I had to cut ties from a guy I had known and had sex with a few times over the past few months. I wanted something real from him; he was just playing the game. He wanted continuous sex with me, and for me to not see others, yet it was okay for him to have a one nighter here and there.
It broke me, really it did. But I am to blame. I knew what he was about. I just was hopeful and wanted to believe in what he told me.
Now, weeks later... I still think about him daily. I don't have him on social media so I don't check as often, if I even do. But I keep hoping he will come around, want me as badly as he had, or that in a few months he will grow up and realize what he had lost, since I do consider myself a good catch. I have 20 or more guys asking me out, yet I can't do it. I can't get ready anymore, I eat more, I feel so empty and listless. He colored my world, or I built a fantasy around him, and now it's gone. I've been trying with another guy, and he is crazy about me... But I can't give him anything in return and that's breaking me further. I hate hurting people, yet I'm hurting myself. I feel like I'm causing myself this pain by not letting go, but I keep trying to let go and then whack it comes back and my feelings for him are still 100% there, and he doesn't deserve it at all. I'm wasting my time and potential... Why am I like this? Someone tell me what my problem is because I feel so dumb rn?
Most Helpful Guy
eh... happens to the best of us mate... im a former player (not unlike your boy) and i still have like 3 people that i can't get off my mind. and this was years ago. just find someone else... accept one of the other offers and hope that they can at least distract you once in a while.1
Most Helpful Girl
You know, I've asked myself that pretty much every day for the last month. And I still have yet to find an answer. You aren't dumb tho. Unfortunately, we can't help who we fall for. I'm dealing with a situation that's kind of similar. It brought out feelings and emotions that I haven't felt in years. It's no doubt one of the worst feelings in the world to feel for someone who can't or simply won't reciprocate those feelings. I wanna tell you that it gets easier, but I'm having a hard time believing that myself. It sucks. And I'm sorry that you're going through it. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it.1