It's been 6 months since my break up. I'm really torn up about it. My ex still ignores me, is rude to me, he stares at me when he thinks I'm not paying attention, and likes to do things to upset me/punish me if he sees guys coming up to me that are interested. He was the one who decided not to continue things and has since treated me like I did something wrong to him. He won't talk about it or talk to me but he continues to treat me like he has ownership over me. He won't give me closure and he continually tries to hurt me. I just don't understand.
I keep telling myself that there is someone better out there for me and that I never loved him, but then I think of the tender memories we had and I know that I did love him- even if I didn't ever get the chance to tell him. Ever since the break up, I've seen my ex at least twice a week and will probably continue to see him. How am I supposed to get over him? I've tried everything but it seems like I keep coming full circle and hurting inside. How am I supposed to let go with so much unfinished business? How am I supposed to stop caring and loving someone who clearly didn't care about me enough to want to work through things? When does it stop hurting? When will I stop wanting to text my ex just to hear from him?
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From my viewpoint of being a guy I can still relate. I had an ex-girlfriend who trashed me after it didn't work out for no good reason at all. So when someone does that, it is THEIR problem and not yours. And their not giving you closure is kind of cruel on their part. Best thing is to learn from their bad deeds and not do the same. (Although you are probably of a higher mind than him and wouldn't do that anyway.) I know it is hard to forget it all, I've been there done that. Maybe we don't really need closure? I don't know the answer. Meet new people, try new things. Enjoy life and your interests. Under what circumstances do you run into him? Maybe tell him to "take a hike" if he comes around.0